Whipple Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I have been dating this wonderful guy for a couple months and when I look back at my first threads at LS, I'm shocked that I've found happiness because I was in a dark place for a looong time. I honestly cannot ask for a better guy right now but there is one little thing that is making my red flag radar start to beep.... It's his exes. All of my ex boyfriends either 1) never had any ex girlfriends or 2) were on bad terms with their exes so I'm in new territory right now. My current guy is a really nice guy and he's still friends with his exes. That wouldn't bother me so much but the thing is that all those past relationships ended because of some sort of obstacle such as distance. None of them were due to incompatibility, fights, cheating, etc. He's quite honest with me and says that he wouldn't have broken up with them if it weren't for the distance. So this worries me. However, it's not like he has regular communication with them and one of them he sees once or twice a year; he doesn't regularly see the other ones. BUT! There's one that MAY be moving back to the city. If she does, it won't be any time soon. She's also dating someone else right now. But crap, I am worried. I have this fear that one day he's going to drop me for one of these girls that he's known longer. Anyone have any advice? I know worrying won't accomplish anything but I just want to hear what others have to say. Should I be really worried?
tb24 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 er count yourself lucky that the guy seems genuine enough to stick at relationships and that being on good terms with his exes means he didn't screw them around and will probably give you the same good treatment?
denise_xo Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 In general, the term 'on good terms with exes' indicates to me a mature person who has managed to deal with the break up of a relationship in a way that has not generated unnecessary bitterness and bad feelings. So to me, that's usually a significant compliment to someone. I see your point about the break up being over distance and this person is moving back. But he has chosen to be with YOU now. Why don't you tell him your fears? It sounds like one of those situations where, if you shared your thoughts with him, your worries might just evaporate into thin air.
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