How to deal with ex? What does she want??

[Dirtyeggroll]

We broke up because of her parents getting a divorce and because of her family problems that she was dealing with. And she didn't have the time for a relationship. In the beginning of the break-up i think that was the majority of the reason why we broke up. She showed signs of confusion as to what she wanted. Because she would text me and initiate all contact between us. Also I had heard from a friend that she wanted me to text her and was looking forward to my texts.

 

But now it has been a month and a half and now that she is single her ex bf is trying to creep back into the picture and i think that she is allowing it and might be having feelings for him again. (Even though he cheated on her and was a terrible bf) However i feel like now that he is trying to get into the picture, that is contributing to why we broke up. It may have not been the reason in the beginning, but now it could partially be.

 

So i talked with my ex gf and she said that she just wants to move past everything and become normal friends without the awkwardness. Idk if I want to be friends because it will only make the hurt return. Plus I do want to get back with this girl and if I want a chance at doing so, I know being friends is not the way to go. This is the same girl that said how amazing I am and that I was the best bf she has ever had and that she was considering dating me again in the future. I honestly think that she is extremely confused as to what she wants and doesn't know what to do, more so now that her ex bf is trying to come back into the picture.

 

So what is it, what does she want? Why is she so confused? Lastly, what is the best way to deal with all of this?

[D78]

Dirtyeggroll,

 

I'm sorry you're going through this right now.

 

...i feel like now that he is trying to get into the picture, that is contributing to why we broke up. It may have not been the reason in the beginning, but now it could partially be.

 

There's a good chance you will never know what contributed to the break up. It sucks, but it's true. Don't waste time worrying about her ex boyfriend.

 

So i talked with my ex gf and she said that she just wants to move past everything and become normal friends without the awkwardness. Idk if I want to be friends because it will only make the hurt return. Plus I do want to get back with this girl and if I want a chance at doing so, I know being friends is not the way to go.

 

I hate to say this, but it sounds like she's stringing you along. She wants you there for a back-up boyfriend. You can't be friends with her unless you get over her.

 

This is the same girl that said how amazing I am and that I was the best bf she has ever had and that she was considering dating me again in the future.

 

No, it's not the same girl. She's gone. This one has said she doesn't want to be with you right now.

 

...Lastly, what is the best way to deal with all of this?

 

NC is always the answer. Take yourself out of the situation. Don't talk to her until you can do so without being hurt. Work on yourself.

 

Good luck!