reknown29 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 There are 3.5 billion women and 3.5 billion men in the world.... I was where all of you were 4 months ago. My world was destroyed after I was dumped. I litterally could not stop crying for two days. I was screaming. These episodes were on and off for a couple months. After reading over 20 self help books, I am now completely over her. I went light contact at first and then just this last month NC. I now look around me and see opportunities everywhere I go. There are many many fabulous women out there (and men for the ladies). I dont care who your ex was. Mine was a supermodel. Thats how she made her living. A lot of people couldnt understand why she was with me. Im not rich. Not famous. When I lost her my whole social life was over. Now I could careless about the past and I see a future that is going to bring many more different opportunites with someone new who actually WANTS to be with me. Looking back on the failure, the main area where I went wrong was that I put this girl before myself. I stopped hanging out with friends and spent all my time with her. I changed myself for her. This is what she wanted. Or at least it seems. The truth is is that if I stayed myself, kept my friends, and didnt see her every time she wanted, she would still be here. Its a game. Admit it or not but it is. Dont get caught up n the idea of true love. There is about a 1% chance that you will find it... So for whatever reason, it really doesnt matter, I am single again. I am wiser and I will find someone. She may not be as good looking but she will have some attributes that I am attracted to and I will have many memorable moments with her. If it doesnt work out. It doesnt work out. I will mourn for a couple weeks to a month max and move on. I will always think back on this realtionship, and I will never completely get over it, but it will not affect me like it did. It was a lesson. Maybe this girl will change and maybe we will be back years down the road. Who the hell knows. I'm not going to sit around crying about it because that will surely not make it happen. Why would I wnat it to happen any way unless she completely changes. She dumped me! Each thing you go through in life is a lesson to yourself. Stop crying about it and learn from it. Wipe the dust off your pants and keep moving. Time does not wait for you.
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