Sunkissedkate Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My ex and I are very good friends, we spent 3.5 almost 4 yrs together, and now he is saying that he still has feelings for me and cares for me alot and would like me to move across the country with him and try things out again... what do i do?? bc i am with someone else right now.. but i am still kind of wondering if it would work between my ex and i.. i dont know if it is a comfort thing bc i know him so well or what.. What do i do..
LifeIsGreat Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 You are not giving near enough details to get good advice. Why the break up? How long with the new guy? What do you think of the new guy?
dng Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Do what you think is best but he's probably single right now and baiting you. Alot of us here have been there. For instance, tell him you want to wait a month and see if his interest wavers. If you go and he's not serious, you'll lose everything, he'll be fine and you'll be left alone and you'll break someone's heart for no reason. You are adults, behave like adults.
Author Sunkissedkate Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 We broke up bc both of us had different goals in life, we wanted different things. And there was alot of immaturity involved, he would get pissy about absolutely nothing.. like me going on vacation with my mom for a week. We did have a great relationship when we stayed away from our problems, and right after the break up we didnt talk and couldnt talk, but after a while we rekindled a friendship and now are very close again. My family has always said that we are a great match, and we shared so much, n had so much that I will always love him, But i dont want to move with him in 2 months and find out things arent working out and loose my best friend.. I have been with the new guy for 4 months, and i am happy, and could and would love to build a life with him, but i think if i did that; in the back of my mind i will always compare him to my ex. He has been asking me for about a month to move with him, and it isnt for another 2 months, he says that we are very close and comfortable with each other and he has grown up quite a bit since we broke up, and since i stopped babying him and helping him with everything.
hopesndreams Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) Your bf of 4 months doesn't do it for you and you are entertaining the possibility of getting back together with the ex. Try being alone for awhile. Single and not looking. Find out who you are and what you want out of life. But i dont want to move with him in 2 months and find out things arent working out and loose my best friend.. Why is your ex your best friend? It's not fair on the guy you are supposed to be in a relationship with. He isn't getting all of you. Edited January 14, 2011 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Sunkissedkate Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Yeah he does do it for me actually, and my ex is my best friend bc i know him and bc i can talk to him about anything and i know that if i need something he will be there. and my current bf probably would too. If you dont have any actual advice, why dont you F*** off, your not doing anyone any favors and actually starting to piss me off, with your useless comments
Author Sunkissedkate Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Basically a cheater, um yah alright theeenn, cuz that makes so much sense
hopesndreams Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Basically a cheater, um yah alright theeenn, cuz that makes so much sense Well, duh, yes it does. When someone is in a loving, committed relationship they give their ALL. Not bits and pieces when it suits them. Not one foot in and the other foot out. Since you are OK with having an ex in your life that you are still so very close to, it would be allright for your bf to have the same, yes?
Author Sunkissedkate Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 he does. so why dont you mind your own business bc you have no idea what you are talking about anymore. your divorced what twice... yah i really dont think i should be taking advice from someone who has been divorced twice. get a grip.
EmperorR Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Basically emotional cheating. How about you dump your current bf now and then make your decision, but then you may not have anything so I doubt you will. And exes do this all te dame when you no longer show so much interest in them, They will throw you a bone, just to make sure they still jaw their grasp on you.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Yeah he does do it for me actually, and my ex is my best friend bc i know him and bc i can talk to him about anything and i know that if i need something he will be there. and my current bf probably would too. If you dont have any actual advice, why dont you F*** off, your not doing anyone any favors and actually starting to piss me off, with your useless comments Hey listen, with all due respect, you came here and posted your story so you should be open to what others have to say! Not sure how old you are, but you sound very inmature. You broke up with ex because of different life goals, now you are with a great guy, but you are considering getting back with ex. Forgive me, but can you hear how this sounds?
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