Dox Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 First things first, for people that saw my other threads, this is a whole new problem. It may sound similar but its not. So dont bother looking at my previous threads, that issue is closed. So theres this girl I like, shes a good friend of mine. I've been flirting with her through text, and she has too. We recently went to the beach with a group of friends just to catch up and have some fun. Well, let me tell ya, last time I saw her was about a month ago at this party, I was hanging out with her a lot, dancing, played the chasing around game (literally running and chasing) and at the end of that night i got a big hug. and no she wasnt drunk it was not that kind of party. Well, this time at the beach there was none of that, she was all shy, we hardly even talked, she was messing around with my other friends and almost completely ignored me. I wasnt really sure if that was an act that she was playing to get me to make the first move cuz she was shy or she was just doing that because she wasnt interested in me and dont want to lead me on? On the way home she was still hardly talking to me and she had her full attention towards my friends and she didnt look shy at all. At the end of the day the sad thing is I didnt get a hug while my friends did but I was also hugging other girl friends. Btw these same friends here were also at that party and again she was hanging and talking to me more than them. I may also have misled her at the beach. I was acting like a total player. I had my shades on and checking out all the women with my friends. Btw last thing, my friends also told me that she ask them if i was a player because ive been flirting with her and that she doesnt know what to do. What does that mean she doesnt know what to do? So whats going on here?
Billy_Boy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 If she was flirting and asking about you, it sounds like she was interested, that she went from on to off that easily leads me to think that either she stalked up enough info about you to think you are a player or someone torpedoed you and told her you were, OR as you suggested she might have got the impression that you were one by checking out all the babes on the beach tsk tsk tsk. Just ask her if she feels a mutual attraction, and if she thinks it could lead anywhere. If she wants it she will probably say yes, if not, then a definite no... but at least you wont have to wonder anymore.
Author Dox Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 o yea one more thing she and her girldfriends took my phone without me knowing and red my messages (who does that, who read other people's messages?). So she probably red the messages that this other girl i was texing. so maybe thats the other thing that put her off. im gonna hang with her and my other friends sometime next week. so this time im gonna change and get my stuff together hahah
Billy_Boy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 No phone lock? Your ship might be sunk on that one, by hearing that and then analyzing her actions, I dunno doesnt sound good. What did you say in your conversation with the other girl on your phone and how many girls numbers do you have in your phone?
Author Dox Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 not much girls numbers at all i probably have total of 40 contacts on my phone just close friends and family and half of them are girls. The convo with the girl were just normal, ya know, "hey, what up, how are you, how was your day" tht kind of convo but she had heaps of messages on my phone
Billy_Boy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 not much girls numbers at all i probably have total of 40 contacts on my phone just close friends and family and half of them are girls. The convo with the girl were just normal, ya know, "hey, what up, how are you, how was your day" tht kind of convo but she had heaps of messages on my phone Put your phone lock on, today. And dont ever take it off, not even when you get married one day. Thats just basics lol. As for this girl, I dunno, I would just talk to her openly about your feelings and see if she responds back. Best you can do really. Beats sitting around wondering right?
ashleysun Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 If this girl is anything like me I can tell you that she probably DOES like you. I know when I am interested in a guy (and Im in my 20's) I tend to ignore him and pretend Im not interested, I can honestly tell you I don't know why, I will be interested in him openly right away but when it comes time to being around him again I'll ignore him. If she was asking about you to your friends that's even more of a yes she is interested. I would encourage you to start slow, text message her or write an email/fb/myspace msg (whichever you use). She may feel uncomfortable with anything that moves fast - but like I said, if she is anything like me (and most girls that i know) she is into you!
Author Dox Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 more update.. i was texting her, flirting as usual. We were having a convo about crushes, ofcourse I started it. I asked her if she likes anyone, She said she doesnt right now, and if anyone comes up, she will definitly let me know. Whats are your thoughts on this?
ashleysun Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I guess asking a girl flat out if she likes anybody then that is almost a guaranteed answer of no - even if they do. Most girls don't admit to the guy they are interested in that they are interested, it's just how most girls are made up. I guess if you have taken the initiative by texting her, that is a good sign. Also she said if anyone comes up she will let you know, that may be hinting.
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