jtowers87 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Hello Everyone, Let me give you a brief history of my Ex Girlfriend. We dated 4 years and had great times, as well as bad ones. We we're crazy about each other. We both had made mistakes in our relationship. The biggest was we cheated on each other (once) the only big difference was she cheated on me with my ex-best friend when she was pregnant (and yes it was my child in there) But she later lost the baby on the first trimester due to depression. I stayed with her because I truly loved her. A year later she started college an hour away from home. Well to cut things down to size. She met another guy. They dated for a year in a half and recently got married 2 months ago. But through out the time we have been separated she would send me emails asking me back. I didn't pay any attention until she showed up at my house a few weeks before she was getting married, she had explained to me that she called off the wedding because she did not love him. I sent her off with a no. A month later she got married. Well just last week i saw her again and we started talking. She is now in the process of getting an anullment (like a divorce). And that's we're I'm at now. Haven't heard from her in almost a week. What should I do? and Is it right for us to try again?
Duckduckgoose Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Before you do anything, she needs to get right in her own head. Annulment might be legally different from divorce, but the feelings you have with the relationship being over are the same. From her past, it seems like her emotions can be all over the place. She could be really into you and regretting all the things she's done, or she could be using you as a fallback. I would be really careful if you choose to pursue her. Have you dated other women in the time since you and her broke up?
whichwayisup Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 She needs to be alone and stop bouncing back and forth between men. She needs to grow as a person, learn to be independant and not have ANY man in her life on a romantic level. Don't get involved with her for a long time, if you two are meant to be together, it'll happen when the timing is better and after she's worked on herself.
Author jtowers87 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Duckduckgoose - Yes, I have dated several girls... Too many to mention to be honest. But they didn't work for many reasons, one of which none of those girls really understood me like my ex. Last I spoke to her, I told her it was best to cut all contact until she is physically and emotionally detached from her husband. As I don't want to put my feelings on the line again. That was last Friday and I haven't heard from her since. Is that a good or bad sign? Whichwayisup - From the start of our relationship she was already dating another guy in high school when I came along and pursued her to be mine. There's only one word to explain my situation "Karma". You mentioned for her not to get involved romantically with me or any other man. Does that mean I can't be in her life as of right now? and how will I know when's the right time to try again?
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