LadyD06 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I've been seeing this great guy idk if anyone has read my previoius threads but ya'll should:) so this guy i called Mr. Big (yeah corny lol) i've been seeing him for about four months when is a good time for him to meet my 4yr old son??? we've talked about it he says his only concern is that my son wont like him...he's older than me he doesnt have any kids of his own and no kids that he's ever around to be able to practice or be seen as a ''father-figure'' SO I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO GO ABOUT INTRODUCING THEM!?!? I need suggestions, has anyone been in a similiar situation, etc. thanks, LadyD06
Stung Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) Four months seems like a fairly reasonable timeframe for an introduction; your son is quite young, however, and since young children often form attachments easily you might want to wait another couple of months while you continue to sound out your relationship parameters. When you do introduce them, my advice is to keep it casual. Introduce Mr. Big as Mommy's Friend, not Mommy's Boyfriend and definitely NOT as a potential new Daddy. Try not to charge the atmosphere with expectations, tensions, just get your two boys together someplace fun for the little one, let him have a good time while there happens to be a new adult along for the ride. Try to keep things fun but casual for a little while, have Mr. Big come along for trips to the park, jaunts to the museum or beach or out to lunch before you start integrating him into your home life. Don't have Mr. Big go overboard though, and start creating an artificial excitement by bringing presents or being Mr. Excitement every time he's around, just ask him to behave naturally. If he's really never been around kids you might want to buy him a book beforehand on what kids are like, what is developmentally appropriate behavior for a four-year-old, etc. You can start integrating him into real family life slowly by having him drop by to help you make dinner, bring his laundry over one rainy weekend and sit around in the living room playing games, etc. At about this time I would have a talk with the little guy about how grownups sometimes date romantically, and explain that you and Mr. Big are dating. Then if you trust him with your son maybe try him as a babysitter for an afternoon or evening, so your son gets used to the idea of him being one of the adults in charge. Edited January 13, 2011 by Stung
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