Th3Forgotten1 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I am in a really bad situation and would appreciate a lot if someone gave me some advice. I have known my current girl for like 10 years now.I love her more than anything and she did too but the thing about her is after a point of time she stops caring about her guy. This made her dump me twice before. Its not that she cheated or found someone else. She just stopped loving me. When I got dumped the second time I thought it was a problem with me and went away for like 3 years. I realized though that the problem was not with me. She did the same thing to dozens of guys she dated within the 3 years I was gone. All throughout the 3 years she did try to come back to me but I never did. 2 years back though I found her lonely and sad and a really weak person. So this time when she came back to me I wanted to take care of her and give her another chance. Thing is I never could stop loving her. This time she was determined to make this work. She told everyone she would never leave my hand and was the sweetest girl one could ask for. Sad part is she changed again. She stopped loving me totally again. The same girl who would call me umpteen times a day would now neither receive my calls even though she knew at times I was going through tough times. When we got back again she could not stop talkin bout me to her friends but she started hiding even the fact she has a guy from anyone. She started saying she was single. I asked her if there was something I did to hurt her and change her but she said "No, you are the most amazing guy ever. its just that I cant take care of you now.if you wanna find another girl do so but come back to me when you are ready to get married."I know it sounds groovy when your girl gives you a free pass and just expects you to come back and marry her oneday but it tore me apart. I kept asking myself what use is it to get married to someone who does not care whether you lived or died? Is it just for the sake of having kids one day and lead a life devoid of any love? recently I got laid off at work and was really sad. She knew about it but never bothered to even call me.One day I was so lonely and sad I called her and said can you talk to me for 5 minutes? it will make me feel better. She said ya but was like umm I'll call u back in 5 mins and hung up. She never did so I called up only to find she was in a club with her friends. She was like I cant go outa the club right now so cant talk sorry. being in the state of mind I was in I just asked her. Do you think I should marry someone who does not love me? She got pissed by that and said "ya. thats what you always wanted to dump me right? Go get yourself another girl. But I never did anything wrong to you" she never did pick up my calls after that and I feel so guilty now. Especially since I still have all her passwords and I knew she never cheated or did anythin like that. Was I right to do what I did. Should I forget about her or should I try something extraordinary to get her back. I really do love her a lot Sorry for the long post but am just sad and confused
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