gobig99 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Background: 24 years old, Dated 6 years (ring shopping within a month or two of us breaking up!), only split couple times due to various reasons. 90% good times but def some fighting that got blown up by her sister who would be very immature and report back to her parents which caused them to not like me the past 2 years and have no contact with them, after being really liked the first 3-4 years. GF of 6yrs broke up with me through a TEXT messege, yes thats right, because she sed she saw a therapist the "day" before and realized the bad outweighed the good and stuff was to stressful. Keep in mind we were 100% fine before this text and the week before she was buying me bday gifts and wrote in my card that i was an amazing guy and she was so lucky. I figured it was really over this time since we have broke up lil times before. I gave her a month of total silence after that text messege. But little did i know she was with a guy at a local club a week or so later (i was not there thank god) and i think it may have been going on near end of us somehow i dont know. My bestfriend "dates" her youngest other sister and he's been dragged on two double and triple dates with them and middle sis n her bf and it's basically flaunting it in my face doing it in front of my bestfriend. This is how i actually found out about her and her new guy after a month of slience, my friend texted me from a triple date he got bombarded into. So she knew i would hear, she just didnt give a ****. All three "couples" went to nyc to see the tree and my ex took them to restaurant we used to go to. Then two days later my bestfriend went with youngest sis and the parents and relatives to Atlantic city for shopping and dinner and my ex brought the "new" guy. When my bestfriend texting me from that first triple date, I cursed her out in texts trying to see if she was cheating during us but she didn't answer any texts. I didnt threaten her but i called her some names because she didnt answer AT ALL. Atleast respond and have some respect for me after 6 years...so cops told me stop harassing cuz she called them! She blocked all my numbers n facebook stuff now. All she hadda do was text me that it wasn't behind my back. She didnt even tell the new guy she dated me for 6 years and was days being single and that she was ring shopping. My friend told me he had no idea who i was or anything. like WTF? This was all in one weekend. To top it off a day later I find out my mom has thyroid cancer. I cant text my ex but my boy told her, but she has no way to contact me and isn't to worried about it it seems like! I needed to vent to her cuz she was my bestfriend of 6yrs and my mom was basically a mother in law to be! She told my boy "oh boy,,,ill see what i can do". I was like tell her not to contact my mother cuz my mother hates her right now. Its me that needed her to talk to ya know? So all a sudden that night I get a text from her FATHER saying "that my mom is in their prayers n ****"...does she honestly think that is good enough reaching out to me after 6yrs!?...so i responded by saying "thanks to her parents only" (not her ) 3 hours after my friend told her about my mom shes already writing her Facebook statuses as "hes a keeper...♥" and "with my baby"...and much more im guessing there was no "shrink" and that she broke up to persue this guy. either he got her number or they exchanged them and there was flirting going on and she ended us to not cheat i have no idea. but my bday was week before and she bought me shoes, shirts, etc and money and then a week or so later we were broken up, she must have been guilty idk also i did see her and her new "bf" at a bar/club a couple weeks after she heard about my mother. I stumbled upon them and basically had no choice but to say hi to both. She asked how my mother was and i LOST it. I cursed both of them out and told her dont dare about about my mom at a club blah blah blah im just pist how fast this all happened and how she didnt reach out to me about my mother no matter what. she is the farthest girl from being lovey dovey and for her to be updating her statuses like that is bizarre and not the girl i know. she knows i cant see her FB but i guess she think people will tell me idk its been 2.5 months since we split so its been about 2 months since they have been together i guess now i love her still obv but i dont want to be with her. I think its just more that i dont know the true details of anything really and she totally threw me in the garbage out of total total nowhere. she really went bipolar and flipped her lid and i hope karma gets her
brneyedgrl Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 All I can tell you is people do crazy things sometimes when they feel too close to someone. My ex and I were together for 6 years and the last time we looked at rings (two months ago) it was good but then after that things started going downhill. He got scared, didn't know what he wanted, said he wasn't sure if this was the best for both of us until he figures himself out... blah blah blah. It's nothing we did, it's something that freaked them out and whoever comes after you will probably just be a rebound to mask the hurt and confusion. That's what you have to tell yourself, if you've done everything you could and it still wasn't enough then nobody will ever be enough for them and they will soon figure that out. Before my grandpa passed he used to tell me... "If someone can walk away from you, let them." And that's what's been helping through this. That and copious amounts of wine and talks with friends :-)
timchambo Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 well sounds like what I am going through. Only mine had a ring. We were together over 7 years. We were planning a wedding 2 months ago. Looking at houses too. She started a new job that ran about a month. comes home and 2 days before christmas packs her **** and goes back to mom and dads. Her tone of voice changed, was very short on the phone. It seems 100% of the time from my research this means new dude. In my case, it happened to be a guy she was working with for that month. She must have developed feelings and got over curious about what being with another guy would be like. Sounds to me like she knew him and had every intention of being with him before she split with you. My friend said it best "you dont quit your job unless you have a new one lined up". Hard to come to grips with it (only been just over 3 weeks), but I have to believe I am better off. In my case I supported her financially, and nearly all her friends told her she was making a mistake. Shes always been head strong and has to have what she wants, when she wants it. Hope it works out for you and your happy in the end. If you need to talk or want to swap stories a bit more you can reach me at [email protected].
Author gobig99 Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 Thanks for replys! Do you guys think she will ever contact me somehow if she ever feels bad for how she treated me? Email or something since I'm blocked I just can't see her never apologizing but then again I never thought she could have been this cruel. It was the holidays n now valentines day approaching so I'm sure stuff with the rebound new guy is going good but I just see that fading by spring.
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