Ex showing signs she's still in love with me and wants to get back! Or is she?

[Neco84]

My ex girlfriend and I decided to go on a break the month of October. We have been dating about a year and a half at the time. We had a fight causing the break, after which we decided it was best we still date but live apart, as we were living together at the time and still madly in love. I had open communication with her about the break "rule" if you will: No sleeping/ being with anyone else (because we decided we were in fact still a couple but on an emotional break), which in all honesty I thought that would go without saying as I thought we were so in love that that wouldnt happen anyway. She agreed. I also said, the option is still on the table for us to stay living together and getting our new apt, we had already signed the lease for, if we both agreed to. Again agreed.We were a very good couple, not to brag. We have always had a very good relationships with minimal fighting (but when we did, it was bad, hence this break) that not only was the envy of others but even to ourselves.We are a lesbian couple, this is important to the story not for sexuality reasons but for the purpose of the story as you read on. The following things occured:

 

During the "Break":

She was staying with our mutual friend at the time. 2 weeks into the break she texted me. YES, texted me that she HAD to move back home to her family, which is two hours south of the city we lived in. I asked her why she HAD to and she responded that she had to be selfish for herself right now and finish school. I asked to speak with her face to face that night, as I was distraught and upset not only over this newfound decision but the fact I was told via text. She stated that she was busy that night and chilling with her friends and could maybe meet tomorrow...

The Official Break Up

She told me that she has no choice but to move back home and concentrate on school. Again with the no choice statement. Being very much pro education I couldn't much argue with that. So I asked to do long distance, she replied no. I told her if it was money issues I could support us fully and pay for all expenses as I have done in the past. Her reply was again no. Struggling to search for a middle ground where she and I would both have a compromise I shouted out, Are you even in love with me anymore?? A long pause and she replied, I dont know? Then there was even a longer pause and she replied, yeah yeah, thats it! Im not in love with you anymore! The response was almost as if, if I didnt ask that she wouldnt have said it! Things like, "I dont want you to wait till summer for me... I mean wait for me." "Cant you understand my education comes first", "I HAVE to move back, dont you get it?!" were said... Hmmm. Needless to say I was heartbroken!

Right After Break Up

Said she has no intentions on getting into or even wanting a relationship right now.Two week after the break up she accused me of hacking into her email, and questioned my friendship with an ex and got upset with me and accusations of rebounding AND sleeping with her friend. None of which were true obviously. Also defriending off of social network.

Month and Half into Break Up

Found out she slept with someone either day before, day of or day after break up... Yup! Ouch! So why jealousy over who Im talking to sleeping with?

Recently Found Out Post Break UP

Her aunt tells me she thinks, if not KNOWS that my ex gf's family had to do with our break up if not had to do ENTIRELY with break up! Also found out that she is in fact moving back up to the city after she graduates this summer! Her family is somewhat in denial and does not except her "lesbian lifestyle"

Two and Two Together or Jumpin to Conclusions?

Throughout our relationship she has said, things will be soooo different once Im financially on my own. I on the other hand, have said I have no tolerance for unacceptance in any family of someone Im dating, maybe making it less chance of her telling me the truth. Says its too hard to see me move on even though she's supposedly not in love with me and makes comments about moving back to the city after graduation. She still contacts me, even after a recent fight we got in and doesnt ever say anything about me not wanting the contact. Did her family give her an ultimatum and she chose to take their offer? Is she really in love with me and can't be with me or is she really not in love with me.

Sorry for long story!!!

[Keridan]

I'm sorry, but I'm not sure what you are asking for with this post. It sounds like a rough situation and you have reason to be confused, but I'm not sure what point specifically you would like input on. If you are simply asking whether or not she might still be in love with you, it's hard for an outsider to judge in this case. What is your gut feeling?

 

I am sorry for what you are going through. Any break up is rough, ones with as many questions as this are even worse.