1956 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 been seeing a girl for roughly 5 weeks, initially nice time spent together and great make outs, we took about three weeks before sex. with holidays and what not we don't get together more than two maybe three times a week. she is busier than me these days so i usually let her initiate contact as not to interrupt anything she has going on. this past weekend we spent a day and a half together going out, spent the night, sex, running errands, cooking together, hanging in general. during our time together over the weekend she mentioned (i.e. maybe joking) referring to me as her boyfriend. later that night i casually brought up her boyfriend reference and she said "i don't know" which i responded embarrassingly "forget i even brought it up". eventhough we spent the entire next day and evening together since then she has had very little contact with me despite normally at the very least saying good morning or asking how my day is going and and nothing at all since monday night, this is a bit unusual. was i out of line? should i chalk it up to she's just busy with her own stuff? am i missing something or over thinking things? how do i approach things now? any insight would be helpful
GivenUp0083 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 been seeing a girl for roughly 5 weeks, initially nice time spent together and great make outs, we took about three weeks before sex. with holidays and what not we don't get together more than two maybe three times a week. she is busier than me these days so i usually let her initiate contact as not to interrupt anything she has going on. this past weekend we spent a day and a half together going out, spent the night, sex, running errands, cooking together, hanging in general. during our time together over the weekend she mentioned (i.e. maybe joking) referring to me as her boyfriend. later that night i casually brought up her boyfriend reference and she said "i don't know" which i responded embarrassingly "forget i even brought it up". eventhough we spent the entire next day and evening together since then she has had very little contact with me despite normally at the very least saying good morning or asking how my day is going and and nothing at all since monday night, this is a bit unusual. was i out of line? should i chalk it up to she's just busy with her own stuff? am i missing something or over thinking things? how do i approach things now? any insight would be helpful You're probably freakin out a little too much, but if you're used to talking every day then it's worth taking note of given the previous occurrence. You didn't exactly handle the boyfriend conversation like a pro, but it could've been worse. If I were you? I'd call her up, if she doesn't answer I'd leave her a voicemail saying that you feel the last time you guys hung out ended a little awkwardly and you'd like to talk. If she calls back, tell her you are confused and that you do like her you're just not sure how to respond to being called a boyfriend (or if you'd like to be her boyfriend just tell her that, this is not the time to be tough guy). Talk it out, see what happens. But, if it were me I'd see this as a turnoff if she really was weirded out or turned off. You wanna walk a tight rope while dating someone and feel like you can't ever slip up or make a slight mistake that she deems imperfect? You wanna date someone that has a hard time communicating with you? Take note and ask yourself if she's worth it. Odds are she's just been busy or wants some time to take a step back and reflect. Edit: Only call her once, do NOT contact her in any way, shape, or form (including facebook or texts) until she gets back to you. If she never responds then consider yourself getting off easy.
Author 1956 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 thanks for the input! just as you said odds are she's just busy with her own stuff. i called and she answered as if nothing ever happend and there was no mention of anything awkward, nor did i qustion or press for any info. through casual conversation it suggests nothing more than she's just busy...i feel like a bit of a douche with the whole bf convo. honestly i had never planned on breaching that subject so early but i suppose a handful of drinks and laying there after a healthy round of madness flying there's always a chance you'll lose your wits, right? boooooo me! lesson learned....JUST RELAX!
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