jessy1 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Im writting here crying my eyes out from pain. I have never felt so dam low. Im guna try and shorten this story but I just need some help so bad. Im honestly so dam low that I worry what I might do. I met this guy through work. Instantly fell for him. We had been talking and getting close for a week before he slept with a mate of mine. I was hurt and confused but my friends said I had no reason to be angry as we were just talking so I let it go. Everything moved so quickly after that. He would call and txt me everyday calling me his angel etc. We were inseperable and got on so well. We had such fun together. We were never 'official' but basically were. After a few months of hanging out and non stop hugging,calling me his girl, talking about how I couldnt be with some else etc I stayed at his house and we slept together. Everything was so utterly perfect until a week later he slept with someone else. My heart broke and I shut him out. We were cool towards each other for a week or so before he came back. I tried not to be bitter with him as I work with him and I tried to make it look like I didnt care and that I wasn't hurting. We continued to get along really well but never went back to sleeping together or anything. But I was still in love with him. He would still call and txt me every day. Eventaully we would hang out together again out of work and have a fun time. He took my best mate aside one day and told her how much he liked me and tried to get all the goss on if I was keen or not. I was seceretly SO happy!! We went to parties and stuff together again and were really huggy and non stop txting and calling. He would call me angel, gorgeous etc and alway put 'xx' on the end of his txts. He made me feel so dam special. Like I was the only girl in the world. When we were together he would spend time with only me and always told everyone how close we were etc and that he doesn't wanna lose me. Anyway to cut the story short he went away for new years (2 weeks) during that time I didnt really hear from him. Literally a week ago however he txts to say he is missing me and sends "xxxxxx '. I was so happy. Anyway I get to work yesterday to find out he is telling everyone he has a new gf. When I walked in he was showing everyone photos of her and telling everyone how awesome she is and how happy he is. My heart broke into a millions pieces. I honestly almost dropped to the floor. I avoided him all day and couldnt even loook at him. He was laughing loudly all day and was so happy. Today has been the same and I actually cant take it. My heart is in pieces. I came home and vomited today from all the pain. He contacted me finally before and asked why I was grumpy and said 'I can stay out of you way if thats what you need'. It hurt SO bad. What do I do??????????????????? I am in an unbelieveable amount of pain and I cant even bear to look at him never mind work with him. I am not talking to him at all at work and probably look like a baby but I literally cant do it. Did he just use me the whole time until a better offer came about? PLEASE PLEASE help me cope with this. Its tearing me apart. I honestly want to jump off a bridge. I am going to leave my job and move cities to escape the pain. Please please help me cope. I love him so much and honestly thought he was the same. The worst thing is when I try to talk to people about it they say I have no right to be mad cause we were never official. This makes me feel so much worse and like there is something wrong with me I just don't understand
0hpenelope Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 No, do not - I repeat - DO NOT HURT YOURSELF OVER A BOY. No one is worth self-harm, okay? We know, we know it hurts. A lot of us were drawn to Loveshack because at some point in time, we were there. The people who told you to just get over it because it wasn't official? They could not be further away from the truth because if this guy invested his time in you, how else could you possibly interpret that? He contacted me finally before and asked why I was grumpy and said 'I can stay out of you way if thats what you need'. It hurt SO bad. This... :mad::mad::mad::mad: I do not like this at all! He knows exactly what he's doing. He's flaunting his new relationship for you to see and he's using you as an ego booster. You dodged a bullet with this one! Please, please take care of yourself. Do not waste anymore time with this loser he isn't worth it. It's not about the two of you being "unofficial," it's about how he never specified his boundaries, always had you around, and once he found something else, he went over to that girl. Heartless b*stard. Do you have health insurance? Do you think you can afford going to a counselor right away?
Sunkissedkate Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Just because you were never official doesnt mean you werent together! I have been in the same situation, I worked with a guy and fell for him instantly, i changed companies and was working away, but he would call and text me all the time telling me that he missed me and couldnt wait till i got home so that we could spend some time together, and i got home and we spent every minute we could together, he is a pilot so he was working at 3 in the morning, but we would hang out in the after noon, get a coffee and go down by the river and talk then go home and make dinner together and crack open a few bottles of wine and just talk. and then one day he deleted me on fb and on my black berry messanger, with no warning nothing, everything had been so great and then bam all of it was gone. and i cried for so long i thought that we were perfect for each other and would have an amazing relationship, we were never offical tho. i even found myself driving by his house after a night out with the girls... and i have never done that in my life... and it scared me. but hun, honestly no boy is ever worth hurting yourself over, if you were happy with him and this happened; there is someone out there who is even better and will be as much into you and you are in him. and he will be official with you and you will be so happy. there is always hope. I never thought i would find anyone like my pilot, and the about 3 months later i met a man who turns my stomach inside out whenever he smiles and he makes me so happy, i am so happy and bubbly and i love him so much, and we are planning on getting married next summer, and starting a family. Dont worry everything happens for a reason, i know it hurts and its ok to cry it really is. everything will work out
I have no title Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I am reaally realy sorry for you! I almost started crying when I read your post...But what can I say.....he never was official with you, because he just wanted to have some fun, he liked you, but he never wanted go serious with that....He was already cheating on you before- if I can call that cheating, cause you were not a couple...But for you, that had to be a red-flag and a sign that he wasn't a nice guy (I know we are blind when we are in love)... He never wanted a committed relationship with you...you have to understand that ...... But he is a JERK anyway, because he knew exactly that you were in love with him and crazy about him,and when he was demonstrating his new gf, he laughed on purpose to take your attention and to humiliate you! WHAT A FKING JERK! He just found another toy, and he wanted to show you (the old one) that he is great without you and he doesn't care....then he contacted you to hear you suffering (cause he knew you were), and after he fed his ego enough, he left... I am so sorry for you! I know what you feel, I have also been there But he is just a jerk, and he is not worth it no matter how great he made you feel! Please be strong and stay calm....don't hurt yourself or so! sometimes life gives us jerks like that, so that when we meet the real one, we can recognize him! stay strong and we are always here to support you! Hugs!
Author jessy1 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Thank you for your replies Today I just feel so dam down as I had a dream about him and his gf last night and it seemed so real Really upset me and put a bad spin on my day! I know you say he never wanted to be 'official' with me but he told me he did (although didnt act on it I guess) We had a big long conversation about it and I said I was worried as he has a bit or a reputation for hurting girls and I also said I didnt want to share him. And he hit back saying that I was the only girl allowed to have him from now on and he would never expect me to share him Then he would go as far as sending me a little card saying he loved me and would always hug and kiss me and play with my stomach. Even took friends aside and would say how really awesome I was and how well we got along etc I duno, maybe im mistaken but to me it seems quite official? But now he has a gf and he is so dam happy. Even came up to me the other day and said he absolutly loves his life at the moment. Man it was a stab!! I just faceboook stalked him and noticed he is still single. Its been 'official' for over two weeks and he has logged in heaps so do you think he just wants to play the field still? Sigh ... I just feel so silly as I was SO nice and would have done anything for this guy while all the while he was going behind my back and probably lying to me when he knew dam well how much i liked him Do I have a right to be mad and upset? Because I really really am but no-one seems to understand or wanna help me coz we were never 'official' And how do I act round him considering I have to see him everyday? Thankyou again so much for reading this! I appreciate it sooo much. No-one else will really help me
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