crux80 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 i recently had dinner with my ex girlfriend. we've been friends for around 12 years, and during those years, we were also together for a little while. we haven't seen eachother in a a couple years. we recently started texting last month, and we decided to meet up and have dinner. it felt like old times again, we talked, laughed and had a good time. it was good to see her again. we talked about what we'd been up to, what we'd like to do in our lives, etc. but there were a few things she said that made me wonder, "what does she mean?" she said, "i know because of our past, us being 'just friends' has never worked out. but i'd like to see you again." for the record, we used to try to be just friends after our break up, but it never worked out because it was just kinda weird. anyway...the fact that she said she knows "just friends" doesn't work, but then told me she wants to see me again...does that imply that she wants to eventually go back to being more than friends? at one point, she also said, "i didn't come see you just to catch up with an old buddy. that's not what this is." then at one point she smiled and wanted to change the subject, she said she was getting nervous talking it, so i said okay. but i just thought it was interesting. what do you think it means? after dinner, she asked me if i would sit next to her in her car while it warmed up (we live in the northeast where it's freezing right now) so i said okay. after a few minutes, she leaned over and put her head on my shoulder and we talked and listened to music. it was time to go, so we hugged, i got into my car, she looked at me and waved, and we went our separate ways.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 To me, it sounds like she wants to give you guys another shot. To keep yourself from getting hurt, it may be a good idea to just come out and ask her if that is her intention. You will also have to look back on your prior dating experience with her and determine why you guys broke up. So, why did you break up? Then you will have to ask yourself why things could be/will be different this time around. In the experience of most LS posters, getting back with an ex usually doesn't work out. Generally speaking, we are who we are and it doesn't change too much over the years. If there were some incompatibility issues with you guys the first time you have to ask yourself if anything has changed since then. Good luck!!
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