guitar23 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Began dating a girl over the X-Mas holidays. Since then we went back to our normal locations and are separated by a few hours. Have not had the chance to see each other yet due to my work mostly. Still in the early stages, but I really like her and get a good sense the feeling is mutual. We talk everyday now. This weekend we were on the phone until 2am both nights. She initiates calls and texts quite often, and responds in kind when I do. ( I dont THINK lack of interest or uncertaintity is the issue) I am going out of town this weekend and asked if she'd like to go along, as she has mentioned her desire to go to this particular place. Her first reaction was just an indication of being short on money. I didn't want to sound like a d-bag and be like "i will pay for everything" so I calmly told her I understood how it was to be short on funds, but I'd handle the transportation and she would have minimal costs. Her next answer was "maybe." Later on she say's she's got a busy week coming up and doesn't think it would be a good idea to leave town for the weekend. normally I wouldn't sweat it, but this is the first time she's NOT wanted to do something I've asked. Also monday is a holiday next week so I would think there would be time for her to get back and settled in. QUESTIONS? 1) She still hasn't officially said "no" although her answers lead toward that direction. Does she want me to make it clear how much I want her to go? (I asked rather casually) or is she just trying to turn me down gently? 2) Is she unsure because we have never spent the night together and this may be moving too fast for her? Keep in mind she is a VERY "good" girl who doesn't sleep around at all. My only concern if it is #2 is that if we are ever going to get to spend quality time together it will need to be weekend trips due to the distance. Unlike a heap of posters on here, I actually am not looking for sex. Yes I enjoy it, but at this point I really like this girl and want a relationship to continue to develop.
daphne Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 If she's a good girl, I think she just doesn't want to disappoint you but this is too soon for her. She won't say No because she doesn't want to reject you. But she's not saying yes either. That means no, imo. Don't press it. Suggest another time to go out that doesn't involve a potential overnight. I think it's too soon as well. No reason to rush it if you really like each other.
Author guitar23 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Thanks Daphne! That's kind of the vibe I'm getting too. All I really wanted out of this was just to spend more time together, we could sleep in different beds/rooms for all I care, but I guess she has no way of knowing my intentions. You're dead on I would imagine. I will just let it go and not bring it up again and keep in touch as usual. Thanks!
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