Mme. Chaucer Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Perhaps you could form a support group with this person: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t260712/ Though I have a feeling the two of you might already be aquinted .
oaks Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I am going to post my pic for few days then take it off, i just wanted your opinion, am i ok looking? Well you're not my type (because you're a guy) but trying to be objective the answer is yes, you're ok looking. You're probably even attractive. I can see that some girls might be put off by muscles either directly or by some stereotypical association, but some might like it, and your photo emphasises that. A different photo might be appealing to different girls (not necessarily more), but that wasn't your question.
USMCHokie Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 (edited) Objectively speaking: (1) Do something about the brows; (2) Throw away that shirt...or give it to your little brother...but never wear it again...ever... (3) Dumbbell...? Seriously...? I know I'm bad, but I wouldn't even go that far... Otherwise, I don't see how or why you'd have a problem. I personally played the race card to death all my life...and it got me nowhere... The best thing I ever did was to just stop considering race altogether. Instead of asking myself or anyone else why girls did or didn't date a certain race, I started asking myself what about my personality was unattractive to women...and then go about unf*cking myself...you'll find that that will help far more than any kind of in-depth analysis of racial dating preferences... Edited January 15, 2011 by USMCHokie
nessaaa Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 (edited) blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh delete. Edited January 17, 2011 by nessaaa
Nela Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I'll be honest (I always am in real life as well). Although objectively speaking you are very attractive (you should have no worries there!) you are the kind of guy I would try to avoid at all costs. Why? Because (and this is based solely on your picture!!) you look like a macho. Your stance, the dumbbell, the shirt thats too small and open at the front just screams "look at me!". This is generally associated with guys who are not serious about getting into a real relationship with a girl or guys who think they're so hot. And I for one would never want to date a guy like that. Hence, I avoid guys who look like you (in the photo). So it depends on what you want! You look good physically, but it might just be the attitude that is keeping girls away from you. If you're a nice guy, then just be normal, wear some normal shirts that don't show off your muscles (trust me... they are far more attractive when you don't show them off ). Don't try to be a typical macho dude and I'm sure you'll do just fine. I'm a white western european girl and would have no problems with the fact you look "middle eastern".
Perhaps Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 o Kiddaan LOL. Objectively speaking: (1) Do something about the brows; (2) Throw away that shirt...or give it to your little brother...but never wear it again...ever... (3) Dumbbell...? Seriously...? I know I'm bad, but I wouldn't even go that far... Otherwise, I don't see how or why you'd have a problem. I personally played the race card to death all my life...and it got me nowhere... The best thing I ever did was to just stop considering race altogether. Instead of asking myself or anyone else why girls did or didn't date a certain race, I started asking myself what about my personality was unattractive to women...and then go about unf*cking myself...you'll find that that will help far more than any kind of in-depth analysis of racial dating preferences... Yeah, the man quoted above is right - pay no attention to race... it's easy to get caught up in that and it leads nowhere.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 You're good looking, man. Don't worry.
GivenUp0083 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I can tell you right now the reason you can't get laid isn't because of looks. Most women don't weigh looks as heavily as guys do. I'm probably not as good looking as you but I can land way better a$$ and more often than you, simply because I carry myself better. Just from the way you describe yourself and your posts about other women...you lack confidence. I'm confident, I'll approach any girl, look her straight in the eyes, make her laugh a little, and I'll act like I could care less if she's into me or not. I do what I want when I feel like it. It doesn't mean I'm a douche bag who treats women poorly or anything, I just have an attitude that will attract more women than your water-weight biceps. You're sitting in the corner by yourself second guessing your looks and wondering why women don't throw themselves at you, and you try to find every reason in the book why they don't. You do that while I go dance with them and have fun.
alethean Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 At clubs for some reason i fail to attract girls, most white girls at clubs tend to be with either white or black guys, however guys like me are just left alone in the corner Is it because i look more (middle eastern) or do the girls just prefer white or black guys at clubs? 1. Are you approaching these girls? It sounds like you're waiting for them to come to you or that you're hesitant to approach them because you don't think they'll like Indian guys. 2. Some people think that Indians tend to stick to their own race when dating. I went to high school with a significant Indian/Indian-American population, and they tended to stick together, sometimes even more specific (like to their ethnic group). So when I went to college I was a little surprised that there were Indians who were willing to date outside their race. Also, I agree with your point that some people may confuse you with being Middle Eastern, though you don't look Middle Eastern to me. 3. Some white girls only date white guys, though where I go to school I don't see much of this. But it's whatever, don't focus on who doesn't want to date you. Also, if you really are pressed to find a person who will date you and you are looking to settle down, then you may want to consider someone's advice and consider moving. Or at least traveling--it can really expand your worldview and give you something to think about. 4. Yes, you are attractive. But I have to agree with some of these people. I would avoid you like the plague based on the pic alone. You don't look all that approachable in the pic, plus I have a thing for nerds. Maybe if you'd worn your glasses in that pic, I'd be on fire.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 (edited) You know, this was originally a very nasty response to the OP. I think you have Body Dismorphic Disorder. Because there is no way you could be considered as anything but extremely good looking. I'm going to leave it there. I really need to work on my own anger issues, geez. Edited January 20, 2011 by LeaningIntoTheMuse
Mad Max Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 You're ok OP. You shouldn't have any problems.
alethean Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 ^ i do wear glasses at work, just not at home and also i work in a bank in a good position. Most indians are pretty educated people Now that's what I'm talking about! I want to see that pic.
I am healed Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 ha now I will tell you if a thousand others respond and all say you look good and one says you look awful you will still have to consider the one if your worried about others opinions to define your own view of yourself. learn to like the way you look.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I can tell you right now the reason you can't get laid isn't because of looks. Most women don't weigh looks as heavily as guys do. I'm probably not as good looking as you but I can land way better a$$ and more often than you, simply because I carry myself better. Just from the way you describe yourself and your posts about other women...you lack confidence. I'm confident, I'll approach any girl, look her straight in the eyes, make her laugh a little, and I'll act like I could care less if she's into me or not. I do what I want when I feel like it. It doesn't mean I'm a douche bag who treats women poorly or anything, I just have an attitude that will attract more women than your water-weight biceps. You're sitting in the corner by yourself second guessing your looks and wondering why women don't throw themselves at you, and you try to find every reason in the book why they don't. You do that while I go dance with them and have fun. here's a tip, OP: instead of counting every eyebrow lodged in your dome then insecurely plucking them like you're full of estrogen, try reading the above post, say... 86 more times. it may help.
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I just have an attitude that will attract more women than your water-weight biceps. You're sitting in the corner by yourself second guessing your looks and wondering why women don't throw themselves at you, and you try to find every reason in the book why they don't. You do that while I go dance with them and have fun. This is priceless.
Leigh 87 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 attractivness is heavily influenced by what sort of a person lies beneath the looks. Only 5% of the population are so stunning, that they can get people to want to admire them despite looking like a horrible person. MOST people, even the people who are quiet attractive such as yourself, have to project the right image to attract people. I am in your boat too; I have a fit body, and a face that is attractive to some men. Yet, I am not quiet right in terms of my personality and the image I project; based on how I feel about myself as a person, and how I feel in general, I do not attract attention when I am out. You are a fit looking guy; guys who work out at the gym and who are physically fit, are one bit criteria for me, and many women. Not all women prefer fitter guys, but I sure as hell do! You are attractive enough to get the attention of attractive girls; you just need to get it right with how approachable you look. It can take some people longer than others to get girls to want to talk to them and get to know them. I know that I really need to work on who I am as a person before guys notice me; girls with less attractive bodies, and faces that are similar in attractivness to my face, get more guys than I do. I am a pretty ****ty person with little to offer, so having a moderately attractive appearance is not enough; I am not super hot or model material, but I am a tad above average, yet this is not enough I am afraid for us. We both need to work on things deaper than looks.
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