Jannah Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 its hard to tell though, some people just like being nice, even if they find the other person looking like a donkey I don't think you look like a donkey. You're a hottie with a body and you'll do just fine.
Star Gazer Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 well you said it, so obviously you were hinting something I simply said it because it's true. You're not my type (I have my preferences, everyone does), but objectively you're attractive.
Author Punjabipower Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 I simply said it because it's true. You're not my type (I have my preferences, everyone does), but objectively you're attractive. This is probably the most honest answer on this thread, i guess the reason no girls are interested in me is that i am not their type. Alteast i have an answer now
Jannah Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 This is probably the most honest answer on this thread, i guess the reason no girls are interested in me is that i am not their type. Alteast i have an answer now It raises an interesting question with regard to someone's physical "type". For example - I am naturally drawn to brown hair, brown eyes, fair/tan complexion, but men I have been physically attracted to and dated, each one looked different. From their skin tone, facial features, eye color, hair color, height, weight, etc. I am sure there are women, who only date - say "blond hair blue eyed" men, but I don't think that is the norm. Just something to think about...
welikeincrowds Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 This is probably the most honest answer on this thread, i guess the reason no girls are interested in me is that i am not their type. Alteast i have an answer now The reason no girls are interested in you is because you are willing to believe in such a thing as "The reason no girls are interested in you."
Author Punjabipower Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 It raises an interesting question with regard to someone's physical "type". For example - I am naturally drawn to brown hair, brown eyes, fair/tan complexion, but men I have been physically attracted to and dated, each one looked different. From their skin tone, facial features, eye color, hair color, height, weight, etc. I am sure there are women, who only date - say "blond hair blue eyed" men, but I don't think that is the norm. Just something to think about... True, i think my type of people are probably at the bottom of the list, I have never seen a Canadian girl ever date anybody who looks like me, I have seen some Canadian girls date Darker indian guys from south india or Sri Lanka, but never seen them date lighter skinned guys like me who look more middle eastern.
Eeyore79 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 You are good looking, so your issues with not attracting women aren't related to your looks. As others have said, I would also be a little wary of dating an Indian guy because I'd worry that he and his family might have old-fashioned views about women. I'd also worry about dating someone from an unfamiliar religion; most girls are familiar with Christianity and Judaism, and are often comfortable with atheists too, but might be a little wary of dating a Muslim/Sikh/Hindu. If a guy came from a religious background which I (wrongly or rightly) associate with the oppression of women, I'd be totally scared off.
northern_sky Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) I think you are attractive, but not my type. since you asked another respondent their type, I'll give mine: slim and toned, dark hair, large, pretty eyes, thick brows, full lips, urban and intellectual looking. Edited January 12, 2011 by northern_sky
sally4sara Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I have been told i am a nice guy and i have a sexy voice, however i think one of the reasons girls might be not attracted to me is because i look (middle eastern) I heard Canadian/American girls dont like guys from there Well here is the thing, If a girl from Canada or the US is apprehensive of your potential or actual cultural influences - would you WANT to date her anyway? If so why? And then there is this, At clubs for some reason i fail to attract girls, most white girls at clubs tend to be with either white or black guys, however guys like me are just left alone in the corner Do you only try to approach white girls? If so why?
LexiB Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Upon looking at your picture, this thread did seem like a bit of a fishing expedition to me. Assuming it's not however...If your city has done such a number on your self-esteem that looking the way you do, you honestly need to ask whether you're even "ok looking", I suggest you move. Stat.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 i dont wear that shirt outside, i only wore it show my bicep btw i forgot to mention i am tall at 6"1 Bicep - CHECK Face-CHECK:) Height-CHECK:D Can't worry about what everyone thinks. If 100 women on here said you were HOT, handsome, sweet, etc., you would still be left with what people in real life say, right? I find that real confidence does not come from looks, it's why you see super models at times not even think they are pretty. It's why beautiful people still have a lot of insecurities. Being good looking to the whole world, or half, does not necessarily mean you will feel happy or confident about you!! Sure, it never hurts to have lots of people tell you that are nice, kind, hot, but everyone won't agree, and you still have to encounter people that will not want to date you, or think you are handsome. So what? I mean most of us can only go out with so many people at a time, and lots of us are only looking for one, good person. So you don't need everyone to agree on how you look, or if they like you. You may want to read some books on relationships and female, male dynamics....could help you gain some insight. So, if you have a chance to date a few good people, start there. You don't need ALL of the girls to be interested, just one or two, and build your confidence gradually. Sure snagging a date with a "hot" or "beautiful" woman can help you gain confidence, but really, it is about YOU and what you feel about you inside. Heck, make a list, seriously, make a list. On one column, right down what you like about yourself, and what you appreciate about yourself. On the other column, write down what you think OTHERS will like about you. See if they match up. Focus on your strengths, and positives, go from there. If you have areas you don't like, and want to work on, then you can do that too!!! You should feel blessed and thankful that you have several things going for you, and build on that!! Some men will never have your looks or height, or perhaps kindness. So, you have three things right there that you can start with! Try not to focus so much on the girls or women or people who don't think you are their type, and pay some attention to those that DO! You are my type look wise, just saying. Tall, dark, muscular and handsome. BUT believe me, I don't care how good looking or fit anyone is, it is what comes after that which impresses me and makes me decide if I want to date someone. Initial looks, important in dating, but then what? You can line up 10 men who are all nice, handsome, ect and there has to be a reason to choose one right? If they are equally good looking (so to speak) then a woman would have to choose based on something else. It's that "something else" that really is why they would date you. Your personality, humor, intelligence, whatever. Looks are just a sliver of it.... What do you like to do? What kind of women appeal to you? What are your hobbies? What are you good at? Focus on these other things, and less on worrying about the looks, and while you are living your life, and evolving, the right women to date will come along. OR just be a dude, and ask out a shi*load of women and surely you are bound to get a YES! good luck
Star Gazer Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I think you are attractive, but not my type. since you asked another respondent their type, I'll give mine: slim and toned, dark hair, large, pretty eyes, thick brows, full lips, urban and intellectual looking. Then, how does he not meet your type?
Billy_Boy Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Your problem sounds like a lack of confidence/game. Not your face or skin color. Why so obsessed with white girls anyway?
LifeIsGreat Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Oh brother!!! Dude, a barbell-- really? If you absolutely MUST have a barbell, make it real one. That 5 pounder looks like something a girl would use at a water aerobics class
Ariadne Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 You are hot!! :bunny: +1 Totally! Funny how SG says he is not her type, but then she likes the Bachelor that is not my type at all.
Ariadne Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Your problem sounds like a lack of confidence/game. He looks pretty confident in that picture. Maybe the places where he goes I guess.
Star Gazer Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Funny how SG says he is not her type, but then she likes the Bachelor that is not my type at all. To each their own! (And hey, that just means more Bachelor-types for me!! )
2themoon&back Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 One thing i dont understand is i dont get any looks from women in clubs, however walking on the streets i do get many looks, not sure why?? maybe in the clubs they can't really see me because its kinda dark?? btw i am taking my pic off tommorow You are very handsome, you have a nice smile, beautiful skin and kind eyes, and yes it shows you have been working out. A real doll!! I’m old so I can say that… I don't know why you are worried about the girls in the clubs, they are drunk and have impaired judgment, so maybe you should be glad you they don’t notice you there…. You might be dodging bullets in that situation. If people on the street notice you.... Talk to them and that will help you with your confidence so when you meet “her”... you will be the TFP!!!! Good Luck
musemaj111 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 One thing i dont understand is i dont get any looks from women in clubs, however walking on the streets i do get many looks, not sure why?? maybe in the clubs they can't really see me because its kinda dark?? btw i am taking my pic off tommorow Lol, thats the truth dude. I have darker complexion myself. I get some more attraction from the ladies when Im in the open because I stand out and my skin tone looks better than my pasty white friends. But in darker places, I receive zero interest because I probably scare them off.
AD1980 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 taking a pic with dumbell comes off as douchebaggy..
Billy_Boy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 He looks pretty confident in that picture. Maybe the places where he goes I guess. Well, he is smiling, so I would say thats 1 point in the confidence column but he is also posting thread after thread about the same issues, and holding a weight in his photo which makes it looks forced.. to which I would add 3 or 4 points to the not-confident column. My prognosis is that his dating grounds are fine, especially if there are that many asians around. I know he doesn't want to hear it, but many white girls aren't attracted to Indian guys let alone non-white guys. And lets be frank, Indian, Middle Eastern, Muslim and Asian cultural stereotypes don't paint a flattering picture for males from those cultures, right or wrong is irrelevant, the social damage is there. If we look hard enough we can over analyze anything to death, he doesn't look bad, my advice would be to stop worrying about who dates who, and just go out there and be himself. Don't bring up statistics on asians making lots of money or what white girls who are attracted to black guys are looking for, thats all nonsense, who cares. That its even floating around in his noggin is enough to give me pause to think he might have a chip or an insecurity he needs to wrangle control of.
Billy_Boy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 One thing i dont understand is i dont get any looks from women in clubs, however walking on the streets i do get many looks, not sure why?? maybe in the clubs they can't really see me because its kinda dark?? btw i am taking my pic off tommorow Why are you even looking for girls at a club unless you just want to get laid? If thats the case, you're going to lose out in the clubs because there will always be someone better looking then you who makes clubbing their life and knows what club girls are looking for.
radiodarcy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Your problem sounds like a lack of confidence/game. Not your face or skin color. Why so obsessed with white girls anyway? i agree with this. i'm indian - - i get noticed/hit on by all kinds of guys - - black, white, asian, latino. but maybe that's because i'm a girl for indian/middle eastern men maybe it is more difficult. not sure why the hang ups about white women not noticing you. people are people. maybe it would help if you just focus on being you and not worry about who you look attractive to and why. there's nothing more attractive than self-confidence. for the record - - you look fine to me
Emilia Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I know he doesn't want to hear it, but many white girls aren't attracted to Indian guys let alone non-white guys. And lets be frank, Indian, Middle Eastern, Muslim and Asian cultural stereotypes don't paint a flattering picture for males from those cultures, right or wrong is irrelevant, the social damage is there. this. as a European woman I feel most comfortable with men that have a similar cultural background to mine. I actually dated South Asian men years ago and found them immature, restrictive, possessive and conservative so I gave up. I tend to feel most comfortable with West European white men, we usually share the same values.
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