lostanddazed Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 So i emailed my ex Look, I heard you were really happy, and thats good enough for me. So congratulations. I don't want to hold all this hate in my heart, so I find it best to let you know I forgive you. Im not going to ask you this as a boyfriend or ex boyfriend or a friend, im asking you this as someone that once meant something to you. Please take my photos down from your facebook. I still wish you the best, and hope you don't neglect your goals. Also some advice for you and your new found relationship. Don't be to clingy, it was a huge turn off for me. Don't walk around naked all the time, it takes the mystery out of it. Be honest with him, lies hurt the most, more then the truth. Be truthful to yourself above all. she emailed me back I don't know who you've been talking to, but I don't get how you are congratulating me and then you insult me by saying I was too clingy. I'm sorry I wanted all of your ****ing attention. I'm sorry I was always coming on to you and you were more turned on by a video game. As far as walking around naked, it didn't matter if the mystery was gone or not, you didn't want me. Think twice before you say some ****ed up **** to me, because as it turns out, it was mostly your fault... I emailed back If it makes you feel better, you can blame me for everything. I know the reality, you putting the blame on me will help you rationalize what you have done. I thought the same thing. I tried to hate you, I tried to rationalize hating you, I thought you were wrong. I felt you gave up. In fact.. I felt you saying you wanted to be single.. is actually what you meant. I accept my faults in the relationship. I would have never played you like that, never would I have toyed with you, but none of that matters anymore. I felt it in my heart that I had to forgive you, even though it was wrong. I can accept I made mistakes in our relationship, I been working hard the past couple months to correct myself for you, working out.. looking for job opportunities in other places, like California. I actually canceled my vegas interview.. it was not filled from within, because the last email you wrote me you said you think of me constantly, and you missed me, and loved me, If only I knew you laying in bed with Dave while writing that. I canceled it because I thought we had a chance. I know, stupid me, Well Im doing all the other things now for me. I know exactly what you have told people about me, and I feel horrible you felt that way. I wish you could have talked to me about those things instead of others. Im sorry I made you cry so many times at work, Im sorry I stressed you out, Im sorry you disliked my brother and alexis so much. Im sorry you parents hate me (and ya, that was a big one, even though you denied it) I wish you could have given me something solid, some emotion, some talks. Instead of bottling everything up. Things did not work out like that however. The thing that killed me the most was just thinking about you with Dave, and then kissing me. Imagine that turned around? I FORGIVE you though Aly, you are lost right now. It's not your fault, it's mine for wanting to believe what I knew wasn't true. I knew you were with Dave, but I let myself listen to you Deny it. I let myself believe you weren't. I actually did this to myself. I am man enough to accept my faults. I am man enough to learn from my mistakes. I am man enough to forgive you. Again Aly, your a very smart girl, you got a lot on your plate. You don't even know where your going to be in a few months. It's rough, I understand that. Just know I can no longer be in contact with you, I can no longer help you, I have lost every bit of feeling for you. I will never look at you the same way again. I have a completely different view of who you are now. I still forgive you. And that advice I gave you was sincere, Look how clingy I became the past couple of months, It was unattractive and made you date another guy, and broke us up completely. As for the walking around naked, you got to add excitement to it, you can't just get naked whenever you a get a chance. It got boring, Im just being honest with you. If I eat hamburgers everyday, im going to get tired of hamburgers. I see you naked every second you get the chance, it's takes the mystery and adventure out of it. Im actually giving you tips to make Dave a happy boy. Tease him, make him earn it.. it makes it that much more worth it. Finally the being honest part.. well.. you know? lol it's pretty brutal to be lied to. Don't bottle things up either, if something is bothering you, talk to him about it. Or else one day, your going to be filled with resentment, and another relationship will crumble. Most importantly Aly, dont let anyone influence your new relationship. If you want to break it off with Dave do it because YOU want to. I know for a fact your friends and family were a big factor, just like I always assumed. Remember I got the inside scoop, I kinda know everything now lol. Do things YOU want to do, and stop seeking everyone elses approval, it's unattractive and states your desperation for attention. Only then will you be the independent person YOU want to be. Your going to make new friends in life, and family will not live your life for you. For god sakes Aly, if you take anything out of this, make your own decisions. I know if you would have made your own decisions we would not have had this happening to us. I know this because even while with him, you were dangling on to me. Don't let it affect another one of your relationships.. BE INDEPENDANT! Make adult decisions by YOURSELF. Now that Im done teaching you how have dave hooked like a fish for as long as you want. Im due at the gym to release some aggression.. That is my final and sincere good bye. Best of luck, stick to your guns, and reach your ****ing goals. I know Im going to be a proud guy one day when I see Produced by , on a movie in the future. Untill then my old friend, take care. adam P.S. If you could answer me one question... Have you knocked him over while bouncing back? lol im sorry I couldnt resist lol. She emailed me Please don't give me any advice as to how to keep a relationship alive Adam, you know nothing about love. You know nothing about how to treat someone you love. Dave loves to see me naked. Actually, I can't keep him off of me. I'm almost positive he won't get bored of me. Oh, and he doesn't play video games. He actually likes having sex with me... I don't have to force him to. I know who you've been talking to. And she's right, I'm ecstatic with Dave. He makes me smile and shows how much he loves me... And he doesn't think I'm clingy. He also gives me my space and freedom to decide what I want to do. stop trying to daddy me and teach me ****, you can't even keep a girl who wanted you around. I will be great. And I know exactly where I'll be in a few months. It's amazing how great I am, how focused I am and always will be... I really hope you're doing as great as you say you are, because giving me pointers on how to keep a guy isn't really proving to me how over this you are. I'm no longer gonna dwell on the past, and I've done nothing wrong. Here's where you went wrong, i asked you for space... Never got it... And then all this happened. You pushed me away... Bot for being clingy, I would never insult you like that... But by not giving me what I asked. I have no regrets now I sent her one back saying... Good =] but should i send this one to? Sorry couldn't resist... but I wasnt bored of ya the first couple months either.. then video games became more entertaining. As far as him loving to have sex with you...you obviously like it with me more.. because you kept trying to keep me around lol. If he is so great.. why you deny him to begin with? it's obvious your way more attracted to me.. and it sucks that you finally know I want nothing to do with you ever again. I can understand your anger, I don't blame ya... having sex with someone that looks like your father can be a little unsettling. Im glad your getting laid tho, it's good for you. Now, if only you can stop clinging on to my facebook photos... ooo ya... you love me and are reaching for something to hate about me. Sorry to burst your bubble, but I want nothing to do with you. Just let go.. I am a faded memory. Good luck getting a place with dave in california... OOOO YA your not going to make it out there ;[.. your stuck in miami.. sad sad aly ;[ I tried to be nice, and congratulate you, but you wanted to be vindictive and try to get me mad. Now I will shred you to a T. I will get a job where I want before you ever do.. and I diddnt spend 293924739479 dollars in school lol. I will make more money then you ever will, and you will be stuck paying dave's foreclosed house, that he never got to live in lol. Dont worry.. I will stop by Dave n Busters in a few years.. and leave you an extra 10%.. and Ill give dave 20 dollars to take you somewhere nice... unless he gambles it away on football games. OOOOO well lol. As far as Dave aly... the thing that made me feel good about everything... was me and your "friend" laughing at the thought of Dave naked. As much as you want to make yourself believe.. you don't feel that safety and security with Dave.. and thats a doomed relationship..Me and your "friend" talked about this for a while.. and while she would say ya.. he's so sweet.. and nice...he's just not a man. Women don't like pussies.. thats just a fact of life.. your going to get bored and tired..and your relationship right now is what it is.. a rebound. And when your relationship fails.. your not going to be able to hang out with all your friends ;[ because all your friends are mutual friends..and then your going to be stuck working at DnB with a girl you use to date. I could easily forward him all the emails.. of you saying how much you love me.. and miss. me.. You even called me at work and told me you wanted me back.. WHILE WITH HIM lol. That alone makes me know how much better I am then him lol. But I think it is far better to let him figure out what a nut job you are by himself lol. I mean ****.. you already cheated on him lol. Trust me when I say.. that is the last person in the world I am jealous of. EVEN YOU TOLD ME HE WAS TO GIRLIE...lol.. in all reality you ****ed up the whole relationship.. I was trying to tell you i ****ed up to.. but your so mad right now.. i guess it's because you know you lost me. I guess it's because you got caught.. Or maybe.. it's because one of your friends let you down.. and you dont know who it is or who they are.. or why your beloved friends would betray you.. Anyway you look at it...it sucks to be you. Karma is a mother****er.. the person you thought was a "loser" and the person your parents sat down and called a "loser" can have anything he wants right now.. and is getting job offers from all over, AND is getting a new car.. a trip to vegas in 2 days.. and a motocycle all in the same month.. What do you got? you got a 90 pound guy to call your boyfriend. lol.. Another thing that made me feel great.. is knowing how much better my life is..I got all this success, and im a hard working... honest.. straight forward guy.. You got nothing.. and your a lying, deceitful woman...basically you got what you deserved.. Thats how Karma works.. WHAT DO YOU THINK??
Art_Critic Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 WHAT DO YOU THINK?? that you need to STOP emailing her... At this point all you are doing is trading insults.. Let it go
Ajax Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I sense a lot of hostility on both sides. Not so much forgiveness.
Dorian85 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 So i emailed my ex Look, I heard you were really happy, and thats good enough for me. So congratulations. I don't want to hold all this hate in my heart, so I find it best to let you know I forgive you. Im not going to ask you this as a boyfriend or ex boyfriend or a friend, im asking you this as someone that once meant something to you. Please take my photos down from your facebook. I still wish you the best, and hope you don't neglect your goals. Also some advice for you and your new found relationship. Don't be to clingy, it was a huge turn off for me. Don't walk around naked all the time, it takes the mystery out of it. Be honest with him, lies hurt the most, more then the truth. Be truthful to yourself above all. she emailed me back I don't know who you've been talking to, but I don't get how you are congratulating me and then you insult me by saying I was too clingy. I'm sorry I wanted all of your ****ing attention. I'm sorry I was always coming on to you and you were more turned on by a video game. As far as walking around naked, it didn't matter if the mystery was gone or not, you didn't want me. Think twice before you say some ****ed up **** to me, because as it turns out, it was mostly your fault... I emailed back If it makes you feel better, you can blame me for everything. I know the reality, you putting the blame on me will help you rationalize what you have done. I thought the same thing. I tried to hate you, I tried to rationalize hating you, I thought you were wrong. I felt you gave up. In fact.. I felt you saying you wanted to be single.. is actually what you meant. I accept my faults in the relationship. I would have never played you like that, never would I have toyed with you, but none of that matters anymore. I felt it in my heart that I had to forgive you, even though it was wrong. I can accept I made mistakes in our relationship, I been working hard the past couple months to correct myself for you, working out.. looking for job opportunities in other places, like California. I actually canceled my vegas interview.. it was not filled from within, because the last email you wrote me you said you think of me constantly, and you missed me, and loved me, If only I knew you laying in bed with Dave while writing that. I canceled it because I thought we had a chance. I know, stupid me, Well Im doing all the other things now for me. I know exactly what you have told people about me, and I feel horrible you felt that way. I wish you could have talked to me about those things instead of others. Im sorry I made you cry so many times at work, Im sorry I stressed you out, Im sorry you disliked my brother and alexis so much. Im sorry you parents hate me (and ya, that was a big one, even though you denied it) I wish you could have given me something solid, some emotion, some talks. Instead of bottling everything up. Things did not work out like that however. The thing that killed me the most was just thinking about you with Dave, and then kissing me. Imagine that turned around? I FORGIVE you though Aly, you are lost right now. It's not your fault, it's mine for wanting to believe what I knew wasn't true. I knew you were with Dave, but I let myself listen to you Deny it. I let myself believe you weren't. I actually did this to myself. I am man enough to accept my faults. I am man enough to learn from my mistakes. I am man enough to forgive you. Again Aly, your a very smart girl, you got a lot on your plate. You don't even know where your going to be in a few months. It's rough, I understand that. Just know I can no longer be in contact with you, I can no longer help you, I have lost every bit of feeling for you. I will never look at you the same way again. I have a completely different view of who you are now. I still forgive you. And that advice I gave you was sincere, Look how clingy I became the past couple of months, It was unattractive and made you date another guy, and broke us up completely. As for the walking around naked, you got to add excitement to it, you can't just get naked whenever you a get a chance. It got boring, Im just being honest with you. If I eat hamburgers everyday, im going to get tired of hamburgers. I see you naked every second you get the chance, it's takes the mystery and adventure out of it. Im actually giving you tips to make Dave a happy boy. Tease him, make him earn it.. it makes it that much more worth it. Finally the being honest part.. well.. you know? lol it's pretty brutal to be lied to. Don't bottle things up either, if something is bothering you, talk to him about it. Or else one day, your going to be filled with resentment, and another relationship will crumble. Most importantly Aly, dont let anyone influence your new relationship. If you want to break it off with Dave do it because YOU want to. I know for a fact your friends and family were a big factor, just like I always assumed. Remember I got the inside scoop, I kinda know everything now lol. Do things YOU want to do, and stop seeking everyone elses approval, it's unattractive and states your desperation for attention. Only then will you be the independent person YOU want to be. Your going to make new friends in life, and family will not live your life for you. For god sakes Aly, if you take anything out of this, make your own decisions. I know if you would have made your own decisions we would not have had this happening to us. I know this because even while with him, you were dangling on to me. Don't let it affect another one of your relationships.. BE INDEPENDANT! Make adult decisions by YOURSELF. Now that Im done teaching you how have dave hooked like a fish for as long as you want. Im due at the gym to release some aggression.. That is my final and sincere good bye. Best of luck, stick to your guns, and reach your ****ing goals. I know Im going to be a proud guy one day when I see Produced by , on a movie in the future. Untill then my old friend, take care. adam P.S. If you could answer me one question... Have you knocked him over while bouncing back? lol im sorry I couldnt resist lol. She emailed me Please don't give me any advice as to how to keep a relationship alive Adam, you know nothing about love. You know nothing about how to treat someone you love. Dave loves to see me naked. Actually, I can't keep him off of me. I'm almost positive he won't get bored of me. Oh, and he doesn't play video games. He actually likes having sex with me... I don't have to force him to. I know who you've been talking to. And she's right, I'm ecstatic with Dave. He makes me smile and shows how much he loves me... And he doesn't think I'm clingy. He also gives me my space and freedom to decide what I want to do. stop trying to daddy me and teach me ****, you can't even keep a girl who wanted you around. I will be great. And I know exactly where I'll be in a few months. It's amazing how great I am, how focused I am and always will be... I really hope you're doing as great as you say you are, because giving me pointers on how to keep a guy isn't really proving to me how over this you are. I'm no longer gonna dwell on the past, and I've done nothing wrong. Here's where you went wrong, i asked you for space... Never got it... And then all this happened. You pushed me away... Bot for being clingy, I would never insult you like that... But by not giving me what I asked. I have no regrets now I sent her one back saying... Good =] but should i send this one to? Sorry couldn't resist... but I wasnt bored of ya the first couple months either.. then video games became more entertaining. As far as him loving to have sex with you...you obviously like it with me more.. because you kept trying to keep me around lol. If he is so great.. why you deny him to begin with? it's obvious your way more attracted to me.. and it sucks that you finally know I want nothing to do with you ever again. I can understand your anger, I don't blame ya... having sex with someone that looks like your father can be a little unsettling. Im glad your getting laid tho, it's good for you. Now, if only you can stop clinging on to my facebook photos... ooo ya... you love me and are reaching for something to hate about me. Sorry to burst your bubble, but I want nothing to do with you. Just let go.. I am a faded memory. Good luck getting a place with dave in california... OOOO YA your not going to make it out there ;[.. your stuck in miami.. sad sad aly ;[ I tried to be nice, and congratulate you, but you wanted to be vindictive and try to get me mad. Now I will shred you to a T. I will get a job where I want before you ever do.. and I diddnt spend 293924739479 dollars in school lol. I will make more money then you ever will, and you will be stuck paying dave's foreclosed house, that he never got to live in lol. Dont worry.. I will stop by Dave n Busters in a few years.. and leave you an extra 10%.. and Ill give dave 20 dollars to take you somewhere nice... unless he gambles it away on football games. OOOOO well lol. As far as Dave aly... the thing that made me feel good about everything... was me and your "friend" laughing at the thought of Dave naked. As much as you want to make yourself believe.. you don't feel that safety and security with Dave.. and thats a doomed relationship..Me and your "friend" talked about this for a while.. and while she would say ya.. he's so sweet.. and nice...he's just not a man. Women don't like pussies.. thats just a fact of life.. your going to get bored and tired..and your relationship right now is what it is.. a rebound. And when your relationship fails.. your not going to be able to hang out with all your friends ;[ because all your friends are mutual friends..and then your going to be stuck working at DnB with a girl you use to date. I could easily forward him all the emails.. of you saying how much you love me.. and miss. me.. You even called me at work and told me you wanted me back.. WHILE WITH HIM lol. That alone makes me know how much better I am then him lol. But I think it is far better to let him figure out what a nut job you are by himself lol. I mean ****.. you already cheated on him lol. Trust me when I say.. that is the last person in the world I am jealous of. EVEN YOU TOLD ME HE WAS TO GIRLIE...lol.. in all reality you ****ed up the whole relationship.. I was trying to tell you i ****ed up to.. but your so mad right now.. i guess it's because you know you lost me. I guess it's because you got caught.. Or maybe.. it's because one of your friends let you down.. and you dont know who it is or who they are.. or why your beloved friends would betray you.. Anyway you look at it...it sucks to be you. Karma is a mother****er.. the person you thought was a "loser" and the person your parents sat down and called a "loser" can have anything he wants right now.. and is getting job offers from all over, AND is getting a new car.. a trip to vegas in 2 days.. and a motocycle all in the same month.. What do you got? you got a 90 pound guy to call your boyfriend. lol.. Another thing that made me feel great.. is knowing how much better my life is..I got all this success, and im a hard working... honest.. straight forward guy.. You got nothing.. and your a lying, deceitful woman...basically you got what you deserved.. Thats how Karma works.. WHAT DO YOU THINK?? wow man. That was pretty funny lol. BUT I do have to agree...let it go. At this point its becoming a game of posturing. Seeing who can one up the other person. Ultimately, this is going to get the BOTH of you nowhere because both of you seem to stand your ground quite well in a battle of whos fault the breakup was, and why it happened. I would just be rid of this girl for good. No contact whatsoever. And im sure that won't be to hard after this verbal bashing you guys just engaged in haha. But in either case, I wouldn't contact her anymore.
Maggotface Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Um, wow, I think you're a dick honestly. How about you leave this poor girl alone? She's happy and you doing this really REALLY shows that you havent moved on from her. Also, she's right, who are you to give her pointers on a relationship? All the things you hated about her someone else loves so you shouldnt tell her to stop doing them just because you didnt like it. She's lucky to not be with you anymore.
cboy90 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) I applaud you for saying some of the stuff you did. Pretty harsh, but probably deserved. I'd say send it, then block her. But to each their own. This coming from the guy that told his ex-gf who has a new bf (the day she left me, and who doesn't drive): have fun sitting at the bus stop in -40c snow storm with this loser. At least i'll be in my truck all nice and warm and it won't take me 3hrs to get to a f**king mall. Plus my truck doesn't smell like piss (like the bus does) Edited January 12, 2011 by cboy90
500daysofsummer Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) when seeking revenge dig two graves Edited January 12, 2011 by 500daysofsummer
melenkurion Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 lostanddazed: I'm not sure it's going to help you in the long run getting into this. Believe me, I know exactly why you want to. My ex cheated on me and pretty much left me for the other guy. I'm pretty f**king furious about that a lot of the time. I've typed out messages just like yours, maybe even more barbed. But I haven't sent any of them. In the end, every bit of contact I have with him just makes me feel lousy and worse. Once the righteous anger simmered down, after an exchange like that, I'd end up feeling pretty rubbish. The sooner you start focussing on being good to yourself, the better. Every bit of your energy spent on her? She doesn't deserve any of it, any more. She isn't worth it. Spend your time on you, your friends, your family. She's nothing. Go NC and start to heal.
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