dispatch3d Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I just noticed that he's been "testing" me with questions so I sensed he wanted to ask me out but was waiting for my green light, as ConflictedGuy27 suggested. I don't want to come across as too forward because I really don't know whether he just treats me as a good friend he likes or that he wants something more. I know nobody likes rejection but on top of that I'm sensitive and headstrong when it comes to relationships. I need to know for sure before I do anything more. I know I'll get a lot of criticism for saying that but that's how I am at this stage with this guy. I sense I would do something a little more, like talk about an event I want to go to or a new restaurant but I'm not willing to do more than that or anything more blatant. blablabla yeah yeah so you gunna text the guy or what?
Author lookingforyou Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 blablabla yeah yeah so you gunna text the guy or what? Not sure. I may if the opportunity strikes during our next meeting in a few days.
U1987 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I met a new guy. At first it was some calls and texts. We went out a few times thereafter. When we were hanging out, it was great and a laugh. But I noticed that since we've gone out, he's made fewer calls and sent me fewer texts. Almost dried up. I don't understand the change in contact behavior since I think we still get on great. Is he pulling away? Or unsure even though he seems to appear happy when we hang out? Any guy does such a thing? Why do you do that? I dread, Dread, DREAD talking and texting girls on the phone! It's just so impersonal; speaking through a machine instead of face to face, you know what I mean. Besides, if I call and text a girl I'm dating a lot, what are we going to talk about when we finally meet up in person again?
Author lookingforyou Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 I dread, Dread, DREAD talking and texting girls on the phone! It's just so impersonal; speaking through a machine instead of face to face, you know what I mean. Besides, if I call and text a girl I'm dating a lot, what are we going to talk about when we finally meet up in person again? I get that. But my question is more why his behavior changed. It used to be more of the texting and calling and then now less. If it's in his character to dislike calling and texting right from the start, so be it. But it's the change that bothers me, though by now I've had some other LSers chime in with their thoughts as to why.
Emilia Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I get that. But my question is more why his behavior changed. It used to be more of the texting and calling and then now less. If it's in his character to dislike calling and texting right from the start, so be it. But it's the change that bothers me, though by now I've had some other LSers chime in with their thoughts as to why. It doesn't matter why and you may never find out. Do what feels right for you. Personally I would see if he gets in touch again and how. In my experience men accept the fact that they have to do the 'heavy lifting' in the beginning of a new relationship.
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