mortensorchid Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I did something stupid tonight. I sent a text about an hour ago and have had no response. Last month, after being together for 2 months, he broke it off. He said he wasn't good during the holidays, he was trying to get over someone from 6 months ago, and he wanted to take a step back. I said ok, if that's the way he felt. We got together once since then, going to a movie together. I invited him to my holiday dinner party the Sunday afterward, he didn't come or let me know in any way (text, email, phone call, etc.) that he wasn't coming. On Christmas Day and New Year's Day, I sent out mass text messages to friends wishing them happy holidays. I included him on these, he responded back with a "Thanks same to you" on Christmas, then on NY telling me that he was away skiing. Today, after our last official contact on NYE, I sent a text asking how his skiing trip went. He responded that it was a good time. Since I am lonely, I sent him a text about an hour ago saying "I miss you" (and nothing else). He has not responded. I feel stupid that I bothered but, that was how I felt in the hopes that ... Well, you know. So, should I erase him from my phone? I am working hard to get over him, but ... It's hard.
welikeincrowds Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I did something stupid tonight. I sent a text about an hour ago and have had no response. Last month, after being together for 2 months, he broke it off. He said he wasn't good during the holidays, he was trying to get over someone from 6 months ago, and he wanted to take a step back. I said ok, if that's the way he felt. We got together once since then, going to a movie together. I invited him to my holiday dinner party the Sunday afterward, he didn't come or let me know in any way (text, email, phone call, etc.) that he wasn't coming. On Christmas Day and New Year's Day, I sent out mass text messages to friends wishing them happy holidays. I included him on these, he responded back with a "Thanks same to you" on Christmas, then on NY telling me that he was away skiing. Today, after our last official contact on NYE, I sent a text asking how his skiing trip went. He responded that it was a good time. Since I am lonely, I sent him a text about an hour ago saying "I miss you" (and nothing else). He has not responded. I feel stupid that I bothered but, that was how I felt in the hopes that ... Well, you know. So, should I erase him from my phone? I am working hard to get over him, but ... It's hard. Yes. Let go. I could keep going as to why this is the right decision, but I don't think you need it. Just let go. Everything will be fine.
walktheline Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Don't feel stupid I've done something similar and the only way for me to resist the temptation or impulse was to take that person off my phone.
sugarmomma Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 ^^^^^^^Yea what they said!! He's not interested and you only miss him because you haven't met someone else. Just be patient.
Author mortensorchid Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Thank you everyone. I have just erased him. There will be no response from him on this, I know. Been through this before but ... You hope there will be that one shot in a million where they will regret their actions and come back. Moving on ...
cerridwen Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Oh mortensorchid, isn't it mortifying?! I embarrassed myself over text too. I pocket dialed my ex (in Ohio). When I heard his voice coming out of my pocket, panicked I hung up. Then, I thought "Hey...he's going to think I did that on purpose. Better send a text." Sent a text explaining. He replied politely. Encouraged I sent another flurry of texts, enthusiastically sharing what I'd been doing. He ignored them. Humiliating. I deleted all traces of his phone number from my phone. Glad you did the same. Now, let's forgive ourselves
Maggotface Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Gah! Isnt it the worst when they reply with the awkward "I miss you too.. buddy" You know they either dont miss you at all or its just as a friend It hurts when you really care about someone and put a lot into keeping a relationship going and they don't miss you at all.
sweet sugar Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 You can go ahead and erase his name and number from your phone but that won't stop you from either 1. recognizing his number if he ever does call or text and picking up and responding or 2. looking at your cell phone bill history online and finding his number. Not responding and not looking up his number on the cell phone bill take willpower.
colliejoanie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Oh my gosh! I just did the same thing. I'd erased his # (but of course, had it written down somewhere else) went out with the girls last night, and typed a horrible, heart felt text to M (who stopped calling 3 weeks ago). I didn't send the text, thank God, but when I woke up this morning, I'd apparently hit something on my phone that dialed his #!!! I was mortified!! I had apparently called @ midnight, and I know I went to bed @ 11. I sleep with my phone plugged in and next to me, so I must have hit it somehow..... Anyway, texted him apologizing, and truly didn't expect anything back. But got a nice long text back and I'm trying sooooooo hard not to be encouraged by his response. I haven't texted or called back and have erased the correspondence once again. I do think it's amazing, however, how some guys just get to you. I've met others, and for some reason this one has my heart strings and makes me want to do stupid, teenage girl things. Dang it!! Good luck, and I hope you didn't write down his number and leave it somewhere special!
Knittress Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Ugh. Sometimes I just have to hide the phone from myself when I know the texting impulse is gonna hit.
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