mizundastud Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I dont believe I could ever forgive him for the betrayal and all the pain he caused me. But I did really love him and felt he was the one for me he made me forget the pain from my past and when I was with him it felt like a new beginning of happiness. Ever since he's been gone I have been trying to fill this void he left when he left from my life. I dont want him back I want the piece of my heart back so it can be whole and I can give it to someone else and move on from him. He has that part of me and I want it back. He once deserved it but he abused it. I dont want anything to do with him and I'm looking forward to the day when his existence doesnt mean anything to me.
january2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Time and taking care of yourself as well as finding other ways to meet the needs that he once met. Can't be rushed unfortunately and it takes a while for the heart to catch up with the head, in my experience. It may even be the case that there will be a little corner of your heart that will always remain his. That doesn't mean that you can't give another piece of your heart to someone else though. But, in my opinion, it's okay to accept that you may never reclaim the piece that you gave to your ex.
Author mizundastud Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Time and taking care of yourself as well as finding other ways to meet the needs that he once met. Can't be rushed unfortunately and it takes a while for the heart to catch up with the head, in my experience. It may even be the case that there will be a little corner of your heart that will always remain his. That doesn't mean that you can't give another piece of your heart to someone else though. But, in my opinion, it's okay to accept that you may never reclaim the piece that you gave to your ex. Thanks January its been 2yrs already. I probably could have been over him by now if I would have done complete NC but in hopes of us getting back together I kept in contact. This time I around I have no hopes of returning to him and just want this whole thing to be in the past. Thanks for your advice I hope the last part isnt true though because I dont want any part of my heart to remain his I dont want to love him, hate him, dislike him. I dont want any form of emotional attachment to him whatever it maybe.
january2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 That is a long time. But then there's another thread here where the OP has managed 30 years! In my experience, the heart just does what it does. If you have told yourself many times that you're done but your heart just won't even attempt to leap over that last hurdle, perhaps it's just not ready to finally let go.
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