Cathster Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 So I only realised last night that February is a big month for me and my SO - our 4 year anniversary, his 24th birthday and Valentine's day. I had the idea of going out to Michigan to surprise him, but I'm just stuck for what to do now, for several reasons: - Cost. I'm going to visit him in April anyway so that'll be twice the amount of flights I'll be paying for; hopefully he will chip in with the second lot but can't guarantee that. I can afford it but it makes a hefty dent in my savings! - He'll be working. He can't take any time off so he will be at work during the day: we'll only have evenings and perhaps one weekend together. - My annual leave: I don't know whether it's a good idea to use up precious leave when I could use it when he isn't working (the thing though with this is that I know he will only have two weeks to take off, and I have about three weeks to take... so that extra week or a few days at least could be in February) I really have no idea what to do! My gut feeling is just saying suck it up and deal with being apart until April, but then another part of me is thinking how amazing it would be to just turn up on his doorstep on his birthday Help?!
madjac74 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I'd say even if it strains you a little financially and screws up your other planned time together, You should definitely go for the surprise visit. I don't think any monetary value could compare to the wonderful memory you will have of that moment that you will probably smile and laugh about together for the rest of your life together
folieadeux Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I agree; I really think you should go and be there for all those wonderful occasions so you can celebrate together. If money isn't the issue and you have more days off of work than he does, I say go for it! Any chance to be together is amazing, even if both of you aren't able to get off of work...at least you can see each other at night and/or have lunch together during the day.
Author Cathster Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 I have pretty much decided to go out there and surprise him but for some reason the return flights are stupid, they want me to have two changes which will add four hours on to the journey. I've looked at other airlines but I am quite scared of flying and would rather go with an airline I know rather than a new one! (especially one where I've only heard of it because of a plane crash... lol) So I don't really know what to do now, suppose keep looking and hope that I'm missing a really obvious one.
folieadeux Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I have pretty much decided to go out there and surprise him but for some reason the return flights are stupid, they want me to have two changes which will add four hours on to the journey. I've looked at other airlines but I am quite scared of flying and would rather go with an airline I know rather than a new one! (especially one where I've only heard of it because of a plane crash... lol) So I don't really know what to do now, suppose keep looking and hope that I'm missing a really obvious one. Oh no, where will you be flying to and from again (if you don't mind sharing)?
Author Cathster Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 No I don't mind sharing! Flying out from Birmingham UK and into Detroit Metro. I *think* I've found the right flights now, through a website called ebookers.com was the cheapest (I couldn't believe it when it said the flights were £165, then blooming taxes and fees pushed it up to over £400!!) but never used them before so just hope it's a legit site. In typical me fashion though (I worry about EVERYTHING) I am now worried that I'll turn up there and he won't be in, lol. I can get my friend to keep an eye on his plans but he might not tell her that he's going out. Cue me sat on his doorstep for hours.
folieadeux Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 No I don't mind sharing! Flying out from Birmingham UK and into Detroit Metro. I *think* I've found the right flights now, through a website called ebookers.com was the cheapest (I couldn't believe it when it said the flights were £165, then blooming taxes and fees pushed it up to over £400!!) but never used them before so just hope it's a legit site. In typical me fashion though (I worry about EVERYTHING) I am now worried that I'll turn up there and he won't be in, lol. I can get my friend to keep an eye on his plans but he might not tell her that he's going out. Cue me sat on his doorstep for hours. Glad you found some flights! I've never heard of that site before; I usually use Expedia or Travelocity. I'm not sure if there are any direct flights from where you are to Detroit, but you're probably better off searching for those, especially if you don't like to fly. It'll be a bit more costly but worth it I feel. If at all possible, I would definitely check to see where he's going to be when you get there just in case.
notsohappilymarried Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Here's something to think about . . . How will you feel spending the money and traveling all that way to sit alone much of the time while he's working? Nights and a weekend are going to be fun and amazing for sure, but the days can be a bit lonely, even knowing this going into it. Make plans to explore the city on your own. It helps! Signed, Someone who's alone in a hotel room in a faraway city *right now*
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