18 Years and I think its over!

[hanging on for now]

Yes I have realized my mistakes, I know I was wrong and I have told her that many times. Like I said I have been going to IC since the middle of Nov. I have learned to control myself.

 

I told her I feel like I wasn't given a chance. It seems like once this all started she just shut down.

 

I think this has been brewing for about 9 months. I strated to feel and see changes after we moved. She had to quiet her job and move away for her friends. We had lived there for 15 years. So I know moving was a huge part of this.

 

This guy that she has been talking to had been sending her message last year asking her to go on a cruise with him. She told me about it then and she told him that her husband would like that. She was ignoing him until this all came out.

 

I am not sure what they talk about or txt about now. I can't get that info. I guess I will just have to talk to her about it tonight.

 

I am just not feeling well today, this is tearing me apart.

 

I just don't understand how she can throw away 18 years. I have given her and the boys everything. We have a good life together. I have provided everything for my family.

 

One final thing. I don't care what you did to her, nothing gave her the right to cheat. NOTHING! If you are a dispictable person, leave the relationship, don't have an affair. That being said, the way she was treated by you fertilized the risk for an affair. But I know first hand, stop beating yourself up. At the end of the day she still is doing what she's doing and you are sore from sparing with yourself all day. It's her affair, not yours. And don't contact the other guy. Won't help and probably will make matters worse. Especially if your wife is still interested in him. Sorry situation. And I know it first hand.

[tryingmyhardest]

Stop blaming yourself, she is having an affiar, I just went through the same thing, read my post if you want. I had the same text issues and confronted her. The text dyed down and found out she was Instant Messaging through gmail. I only found this out because I installed a web monitoring program, which takes snanpshots of the screen every 5 seconds and loggs all keys typed, so I also found out about her secret e-mail account.