BlackZeppelin Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 So me and my ex broke up the week of Christmas after 7 months. Here's how the story breaks down: She was caught cheating. But it was not something too serious, it was text flirting, attention grabbing kinda cheating. Everything was done verbally and not physically. She leaves to another guy (forcing our breakup) but that relationship failed within a week, so she tries to return. Obviously I've been very dismissive of her since, but she's been persistent. Normlly stunts like this get absolutely no 2nd chances, however I've been doing the same kind of flirting, attention-grabbing kinda cheating. Only difference is I never got caught. I look like the lousy boyfriend and she looks like a whore to everyone else. And it's killing us. (her mostly though) So I've been thinking of reconciliation, because our offenses are forgettable and forgivable, it's happened countless times with people, we're no different. And we have so many things to consider for a potential relationship: First loves of both sides First time(sex) of both sides First real bf/gf of both sides Parental acceptance of both sides And the list goes on. And I know we have a trust issue right now with each other, but our relationship really isn't as bad as it seems. We had a strong, amazing 6 months. Our last month was just our killer. Not making excuses just it is what it is. Sorry that it's so long but I would really appreciate your advice, commentary, and vote ups(:
D78 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 So, she got caught text flirting, which is something you both do, then took off to be with another guy? Do you think that if you take her back into your life, you will truly trust her again? Why did you both need to text flirt with others to get attention? Have you thought about telling her to leave you alone for a while so you can figure out whether you can be with her?
lovekills Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Bro...she obviously has G.I.G.S., i don't care how wonderful the relationship was, if you stray, even mentally or emotionally than there is something missing, period. Its cut and dry in most of these situations and its up to the person to decide if condoning such behavior is something they can handle. In my personal experience I know that it never gets betters. If the potential to stray is there than it will likely happen again. I'm not saying its inherit in you or her but because of the two of you coming together something in both of you decided to seek attention elsewhere instead of with one another. My ex of 7 months (must be a magic number) began doing this around thanksgiving when some "friend" began showing her massive attention. She started dropping off talking to me as much claiming she just had been busy with work etc. Having checked her phone I realized that she was having DAY long conversations (during the same time she claimed to be soooo busy) with this new "friend". Its plain to see, if you love her than you will give her a second chance but ground rules must be put into place. If you are strong enough mentally to not break down and become obsessive, jealous, needy or controlling than you MAY be able to make it through, but for me I unfortunately let the situation rip me apart and it was the eventual and inevitable downfall of our relationship.
Recommended Posts