neveragain2493 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I'm posting this to show the whole idiocy of the situation. Tell me what you think. I have had a guy friend for about five years that I have never failed to stand up for or support. He has so many familial problems. He has had an off and on girlfriend for about 3 years. Certified insane. She's always had a jealousy problem with me, and she's gone so far as to make up lies about me and show up at my house. Two years or so ago, they broke up, and he took me out on a great date. We started something shortly before he completely ignored my texts and calls and got back together with her. Anyways, a year or so ago, he came to me and begged for forgiveness. We promised to be friends, and he and the ex weren't speaking. I was there for him through a few situations, and he told me he'd always love me and promised to do anything for a long time to make what he did up to me. Throughout our recent friendship, he has attempted more times than I could count to get me to have sex or something more with him. That was a potential threat to a currently year long relationship with my boyfriend, and I always declined, but I still felt obligated to help my friend with his near suicidal problems. Recently, his ex came home, and they started hanging out. I texted him about it, and he said, "Do you really think I'm stupid enough to get back with her? I want to mess with her head to get back at her." He's started avoiding me like he used to, and she's acting like they're back together (even though she's gone away to college). I want to tell him, "Oh, thanks for keeping your promise, but congratulations" so badly, but I feel like her knowing I'm angry will only bite me back. I don't want to do anything to mess up my relationship with MY boyfriend, but at the same time, I feel like I'm being walked all over.
vintagecat Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I feel like I'm being walked all over. Go back and read your post from a purely objective point of view as if it weren't you in this situation. You might get some clarity. You've been a good and loyal friend to this person in the past but you have gotten into doormat territory and into an unhealthy situation with this man/boy. He needs a counselor if he's near suicidal, not a "friend" that he can dump on and then dump when the situation demands. Focus on your relationships where people are actually there for you rather than this one sided arrangement of grief and fair weather friendship. Actions speak louder than words or crocodile tears which you will surely see again when it suits him if you let him continue to walk all over you. Let him go.
donnamaybe Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 The guy is a drama queen, and he's been messing with you far too long.
paleblue Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I think you feel walked all over because he is trying to use you as a pawn, and not being a true friend to you. sorry.
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