Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 I just talked to a female friend. She said in her relationship both have alpha personalities but she submits herself to a lot of what he wants. And i turn he caters to her. But she made it a point that she is the submissive one in the relationship. They have been talking off and on for 4 years. She said the first 2 years it didn't work at all because she was too Alpha and wanted everything her way. Then she shared once she started liking him more she started to be more submissive to what he wanted and now they get along great. She says things like calling him when he wants to talk or meeting up when he wants to are the things so far. She shared that if she didn't curve some of her Alpha ways they wouldn''t even be friends today. She stated that there are a lot of things that he does she doesn't like and that she doesn't agree with a lot of his view points but she does go along with them because he isn't asking her to jump off a bridge or something. She shared that a women cannot expect a man to be take charge in a relationship and be handcuffed constantly. And at some point ALL women want their man to take charge. NOT take OVER, but take charge. So you can't always have 50/50 in decision making. Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I just talked to a female friend. She said in he So you can't always have 50/50 in decision making. Why not? I want a partner not a child i have to lead around.. Who makes a decision on something should be determined by which one has a strength in that specific area not by archaic gender roles.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Why not? I want a partner not a child i have to lead around.. Who makes a decision on something should be determined by which one has a strength in that specific area not by archaic gender roles.. She was meaning in general. They do make SOME decisions together. But she was sharing that you cannot always have 50/50. Someone has to take the lead. Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 But she was sharing that you cannot always have 50/50. Someone has to take the lead. Which should be determined by strength in that specific area not gender Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Which should be determined by strength in that specific area not gender I wasn't refering to gender. That's just what she did because both are storng in many areas. If a women is better in many areas than her man she should be the Alpha. However, I doubt most women would want a relationship with a man who is weaker in many areas. It's just not a trait women like. Remember this thread is why can't Alpha's get along. So there cannot be two Alpha's or two leaders in a relationship. There is one main direction. If there are two directions then there will be no relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
SteveC80 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 However, I doubt most women would want a relationship with a man who is weaker in many areas. It's just not a trait women like. I agree a women wants a man whos better then her so to speak Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 I agree a women wants a man whos better then her so to speak See there are two reasons why I started this thread. 1. I really wanted to see what people thought about why two Alpha's don't work and how they could work. 2. Knowing that women aren't attracted to men who are less than they are in the long run, just how they felt they could keep a relationship with someone that is up to par and still feel they should be able to make most of the decision in the relationship. No Alpha male that is capable of making decisions is going to have a longterm relationship and have to always second guess themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 See there are two reasons why I started this thread. 1. I really wanted to see what people thought about why two Alpha's don't work and how they could work. 2. Knowing that women aren't attracted to men who are less than they are in the long run, just how they felt they could keep a relationship with someone that is up to par and still feel they should be able to make most of the decision in the relationship. No Alpha male that is capable of making decisions is going to have a longterm relationship and have to always second guess themselves. Also from what I hear women don't want weak men so how would it feel to be with a man nobody else would find desirable. Link to post Share on other sites
SteveC80 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Also from what I hear women don't want weak men so how would it feel to be with a man nobody else would find desirable. i agree which is why status is important to attract women Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 i agree which is why status is important to attract women This is another reason I find it soooo interesting. A guy with high status is that way for a reason. And it's not by following. So I guess I would like to hear from some women as to how they feel about this. I bet some never even reall thought about it that deep. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Feel free to answer ladies. Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzari Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 See there are two reasons why I started this thread. 1. I really wanted to see what people thought about why two Alpha's don't work and how they could work. 2. Knowing that women aren't attracted to men who are less than they are in the long run, just how they felt they could keep a relationship with someone that is up to par and still feel they should be able to make most of the decision in the relationship. No Alpha male that is capable of making decisions is going to have a longterm relationship and have to always second guess themselves.But I don't think has to work that way. Both partner's can be alpha without one making the majority of the decisions. Hopefully they compliment each other and have their respective area's of power mapped out. (I'll admit getting to that point can be a challenge) When they intersect, they discuss and come to a decision together. There will be times there are disagreements and one partner will rule, but that doesn't happen all that often if they are well matched. And the ruling partner will be different from one time to the next. It just depends on who feels the strongest. Also from what I hear women don't want weak men so how would it feel to be with a man nobody else would find desirable.Women can define strength differently. Some women are very attracted to physical strength. Give them a military man in a uniform and they swoon. That type does nothing for me. Give me a brainy geek and I'm all over it. Intelligence equates to strength in my book. I don't really care what other women think of as strong. I want what I want. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 I have noticed that 2 Alpha types cannot be together longterm in a relationship. You would think that they would make it work but it's really not possible. Wondered why that is. because they butt heads too much Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 13, 2011 Author Share Posted January 13, 2011 because they butt heads too much Alphamale I have a question. I find that most Alpha females eventually don't wind up with Alpha Males. I agree that they mostly butt heads. So then are they just destined to be with a laid back beta male or what. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 So then are they just destined to be with a laid back beta male or what. beta males generally are smarter and make more money and are better fathers. have you ever been to a doctors convention? most of them are nerds Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted January 13, 2011 Author Share Posted January 13, 2011 beta males generally are smarter and make more money and are better fathers. have you ever been to a doctors convention? most of them are nerds Ohhh. Ok I see. Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzari Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 beta males generally are smarter and make more money and are better fathers. have you ever been to a doctors convention? most of them are nerds Totally disagree with this one. Link to post Share on other sites
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