Rinah Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Do all men check women out? Even if they're married or taken? I was at the store today when my boyfriend glanced at another womans butt. He basically turned his head to watch her walk, then stopped and continued to walk through the mall with me. I was rather insulted, I know its natural to check people out, but did he have to look at another womans butt while I was there? It's not like he did a stop & stare ordeal. But his head was looking at her butt for a good 10 seconds. Girls/Women do you get annoyed with this too? Guys, is just a natural thing you do? Do you sometimes not realize that your doing it? How does this work for you? Even if your girlfriend is extremely attractive are you still going to look at these other women (who arent even as pretty?) I guess im asking these so I can figure how to feel about this. Opinions please? Id like to add that I know females do this too, and I'm not trying to point at one gender, the title is to attract the male gender in. I apologize if you assumed I was pointing fingers.
zengirl Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 If it was ridiculously noticable, I'd be offended if my BF checked out other women (like rudely). Other than that, I doubt I'd even notice. And if I did, I suppose I'd feel amused. I still recognize that men are cute, and sometimes I'll even say so! My BF is welcome to say a woman is attractive as well. I don't think either of us stare at other people's butts. Certainly not obviously. But we haven't gone blind.
Author Rinah Posted January 11, 2011 Author Posted January 11, 2011 Well I caught him, he got embarrassed and tried to claim that "he was just looking in a store." Funny thing is I saw his eyes shift from the store, straight to her bottom. He isn't very good at hiding it. But he did feel guilty, and later made sure I had thousands of compliments so I wouldn't feel insecure about his little glancing.
carhill Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Guys, is just a natural thing you do? Do you sometimes not realize that your doing it?For many men, yes. When I was married, my exW's butt had my eyes because it was awesome I don't have eyes for other women when I'm with someone I love. They simply don't exist in that way. YMMV. IMO, this is where boundaries are necessary. 'I feel disrespected when you obviously ogle another woman when we are in public together. That's unacceptable' Reading further, it appears, as long as he's contrite and 'makes it up to you', it isn't an issue. OK, that's your dynamic. If so, why post a thread about it? It doesn't matter what other men do since you're with your man, right?
shadowofman Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Well carhill is an exceptional man. One in a million. Cause the rest of us check women out. Some of us are obvious (unashamed to be who we are), others are very good at hiding in. "No baby, I don't look at other women like that." Now that I think about it, how do you seperate the carhills from the liars?
carhill Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I would say to expect a man to want to look and draw the line where one feels disrespected by his actions and/or words (some men like to 'talk' about it too). Each of us has our own level of discomfort with such circumstances. Conversely, I view a woman's words and actions as really good information about compatibility. Now some other man or men can enjoy the view of my exW's ass without me keeping it in Levis
Titania22 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I don't let it bother it. If the butt looks really good, I am probably staring too.
refurb Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Notice other women? Yes. I don't think either sex can completely turn off their attraction to other members of the opposite sex. However, it's kinda crappy for either sex to do so in front of their significant other. RF
Jynxx Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yes all men do this. Some are just better at hiding it than others.
Surrealist Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Any guy who says they don't look at other women are either gay (not that there's anything wrong with that, just sayin') or full of poo poo. I make the point though, that if I am with someone I would NOT make it obvious or do my best to just look away, even if I am around people where my professional conduct is important. But if I'm on my own or with other like-minded guys, then heck yeah, I'm gonna get an eye-full of that hot ass and nice big round titties! Yum yum!!!!
Eddie Edirol Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I'm not gay and I seriously do NOT have the urge to even notice other womens asses...even by accident when Im with someone that Im completely attracted to physically. Honestly, its been a long time, but I remember not even noticing other women. But If I wasnt totally attracted to the one Im with, then yeah, I notice whats around.
ComeUndone Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yes all men check out women. My bf does it in front of me but I don't care because we both do it -- I can spot an attractive woman just as quickly as he can, and then we both check her out, sometimes even discussing whether she was hot or not or has a nice a$$ or not. It's actually entertaining, and it's far better to just join him than act like he shouldn't be looking at all. Everybody looks.
Titania22 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yes all men check out women. My bf does it in front of me but I don't care because we both do it -- I can spot an attractive woman just as quickly as he can, and then we both check her out, sometimes even discussing whether she was hot or not or has a nice a$$ or not. It's actually entertaining, and it's far better to just join him than act like he shouldn't be looking at all. Everybody looks. Exactly:bunny:
AverageJoe Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yes, all men do this. Unless, of course they are introverted pussy's.
BobSacamento Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yeah we pretty much all do. It's like a reflex for me. It would be like trying to hold in a sneeze. So unnatural and unsatisfying. His mistake was getting caught.
AverageJoe Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Yeah we pretty much all do. It's like a reflex for me. It would be like trying to hold in a sneeze. So unnatural and unsatisfying. His mistake was getting caught. His mistake was getting with someone that doesn't understand this fact. *achew*
BobSacamento Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 His mistake was getting with someone that doesn't understand this fact. *achew* ........Touche
Feelin Frisky Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Let's just say all men "notice". Not all of us gawk however. Some female rump is to die for--ya just gotta sneak a peak.
Titania22 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Let's just say all men "notice". Not all of us gawk however. Some female rump is to die for--ya just gotta sneak a peak. Amen to that!
shadowofman Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 As much as I expound on the fact that I am a man and that I check women out without shame. I must say that I am not a gawker. Such instances usually never involve words like "dayum!" I don't holla a women. I just look hard. Might wink at someone if they catch me, but I more than often don't get caught. If my gf catches me, she is likely to smack me, but I'll call her a bitch for it. I certainly have male friends that make me feel uncomfortable with the amount of energy they put into gawking. They make me feel creepy for thinking the exact same things.
denise_xo Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Girls/Women do you get annoyed with this too? No, not if it's the kind of situation you describe. I would just tease him about it. In general, it depends a bit on the manner in which it's done. I'm guilty of it, too. I was at a bar with my ex (then bf) once and we were served by this gorgeous waiter so my gaze took a walk and my bf pulled my attention back and smiled as he said 'remember, you're with me now' :D We both just laughed at it.
Els Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 OP, I honestly don't think some of the men on this forum are a good representation of the real world. I hang out with men and their gfs, a lot. I have almost never seen a man gawk at another woman in the way you describe (turning his head and following her for 10 seconds?!), while with his gf. It just doesn't happen. It's rude and classless IMO, and I personally think less of even single men if they do that. Noticing is normal. The key is noticing with class and subtlety, taking a glance instead of gawking like a prepubescent boy who'd never seen a woman before.
O'Malley Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Noticing is normal. The key is noticing with class and subtlety, taking a glance instead of gawking like a prepubescent boy who'd never seen a woman before. Agreed. I'm fine with subtle window shopping on your own time, but it's tacky to ogle or wink. Especially when the the ogler's spouse and/or children are with him (and this has happened to me) . Just lame.
Author Rinah Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 OP, I honestly don't think some of the men on this forum are a good representation of the real world. I hang out with men and their gfs, a lot. I have almost never seen a man gawk at another woman in the way you describe (turning his head and following her for 10 seconds?!), while with his gf. It just doesn't happen. It's rude and classless IMO, and I personally think less of even single men if they do that. Noticing is normal. The key is noticing with class and subtlety, taking a glance instead of gawking like a prepubescent boy who'd never seen a woman before. Well he didn't look that badly, Im not sure how long it was. I just noticed he was looking in the store turned my head, and saw what he was looking at. I guess she got a double audiance as I was looking at her butt too.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Let's just say all men "notice". Not all of us gawk however. Some female rump is to die for--ya just gotta sneak a peak. this. & sometimes, a doubletake is more than justified (as far as we're concerned). note, ladies... this sneaking a peak thing applies to just about all of the female form -- which includes but sure as hell isn't limited to hot cleavage, legs, stomach, thighs, ass, back, breasts, neck, awesomely placed tattoos, etc. men that are good to their women look, but don't touch.
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