justaname Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 has anyone successfully done this? it seems like the only course of action at this point, but i say that as the unmarried one.
shadowofman Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 These things usually result in a don't ask don't tell situation. But if I find out then I'm leaving you sort of thing.
NoLongerSad Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 has anyone successfully done this? it seems like the only course of action at this point, but i say that as the unmarried one. Hmmm...it seems that, if you are the so called "third party", then it's not really something you'll have any input into. It's between the married couple to determine what they will accept as a mutually acceptable part of their marriage. Maybe you should find someone who's more available and not get caught up in their drama? Sounds like whoever is the most desirable member of the triangle is attempting to keep both of the other parties insecure and leveraging off of that insecurity for a power position in both the marital and the extramarital relationships.
Author justaname Posted January 11, 2011 Author Posted January 11, 2011 Hmmm...it seems that, if you are the so called "third party", then it's not really something you'll have any input into. It's between the married couple to determine what they will accept as a mutually acceptable part of their marriage. Maybe you should find someone who's more available and not get caught up in their drama? Sounds like whoever is the most desirable member of the triangle is attempting to keep both of the other parties insecure and leveraging off of that insecurity for a power position in both the marital and the extramarital relationships. I should have written that it wasn't my idea; it's the married one's. I'm just wondering if it's ever a working solution. And as for finding someone else, you can't help who you love.
bentnotbroken Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I should have written that it wasn't my idea; it's the married one's. I'm just wondering if it's ever a working solution. And as for finding someone else, you can't help who you love. First time I have seen it for the new year. The more things change the more they stay the same. You can't help who you love.....mmmmkyyy.
NoLongerSad Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I should have written that it wasn't my idea; it's the married one's. I'm just wondering if it's ever a working solution. And as for finding someone else, you can't help who you love. It may work for your married person. But why would you accept sharing him/her? Find someone who loves you enough to want to be with you full-time. Anything else just ain't love.
dont-be-naive Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 has anyone successfully done this? it seems like the only course of action at this point, but i say that as the unmarried one. why would going into an open marriage be the only course of action? you simply want to be able to have sex with other people? if you do get in an open marriage, make sure its with someone that is like minded, and no whining or complaining from either of you when one actually goes out and DOES adhere to the swinger lifestyle. IMO, once you are in an open marriage, the right to cry betrayal goes out the window.
carhill Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 OP, have you met your MW's H? Open generally means transparent and usually is best applied to healthy marriages where both partners see and accept the value of opening the M to include others. IMO, the only way to know if the M is truly open is with independent and positive verification from the spouse. MW's talk a lot. Believe about 1% of it. Good luck
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