Author mmiller5373 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 I am the same way, I tend to ruminate on things and wear my heart on my sleeve, it just means we are caring people. Nothing like this is ever easy, there is no quick solution, its like a drug that you have to quit cold turkey and you will only get better with time. Good luck brother. That's me to a T. Heart on my sleeve says it all. And yes, I am a very caring person and when people don't treat me like I treat them, it hurts me more than anything else in the world. That's what's hard about this breakup. I did so much for this girl... was so romantic with her, treated her like a princess, bought her anything, put thought into our time together, and so on. And it kills me inside that she couldn't even respect me enough to tell me the truth about the real reason she left. That hurts the most.
lovekills Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 That's me to a T. Heart on my sleeve says it all. And yes, I am a very caring person and when people don't treat me like I treat them, it hurts me more than anything else in the world. That's what's hard about this breakup. I did so much for this girl... was so romantic with her, treated her like a princess, bought her anything, put thought into our time together, and so on. And it kills me inside that she couldn't even respect me enough to tell me the truth about the real reason she left. That hurts the most. Ha wow you really sound like me, I guess it is the nice guy syndrome. I am beginning to learn that girls don't want a nice guy, they all say they do but they prefer the guy that doesn't cater to their every need and presents some what of a challenge. In the beginning of my relationship I had that type of control, after we broke up and i tried to get her back she had it and i did everything for her and it was just too much attention for her, doesn't matter what we do I guess, its how we come off and act.
suddendumpee Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 That's me to a T. Heart on my sleeve says it all. And yes, I am a very caring person and when people don't treat me like I treat them, it hurts me more than anything else in the world. That's what's hard about this breakup. I did so much for this girl... was so romantic with her, treated her like a princess, bought her anything, put thought into our time together, and so on. And it kills me inside that she couldn't even respect me enough to tell me the truth about the real reason she left. That hurts the most. I feel the same say. I went all out. Cooked her dinner. Planned trips every other weekend to exotic destinations, then planned events at the destinations. Bout her romantic gifts. Expressed my feelings. Things I've never done before in my life. She left me for a "guy friend" she once described as a debilitatingly insecure meat-head who treats girls like s**t. "The Pedestal Effect" rears it's ugly face.
lovekills Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I feel the same say. I went all out. Cooked her dinner. Planned trips every other weekend to exotic destinations, then planned events at the destinations. Bout her romantic gifts. Expressed my feelings. Things I've never done before in my life. She left me for a "guy friend" she once described as a debilitatingly insecure meat-head who treats girls like s**t. "The Pedestal Effect" rears it's ugly face. Wow that blows. Its sad that we want to be nice guys because its the right thing to do and women want to be treated well yet they go for these a-holes, mind numbing!!
Author mmiller5373 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) Well, when our relationship started, I was a totally different guy. I'm not gonna lie, I was kind of a bad ass. I was ripped, I dressed to perfection, I had tons of confidence, and a huge ego. I didn't give a sh*t about nobody but myself. I think this kind of turned my ex on. I was a challenge, so to speak. And considering she was from Mexico, I think she thought it might be cool to get a taste of the local cuisine. lol. I was 21 when we met, so I was going out clubbing a lot, drinking a lot, working out tons, had tons of friends, and sleeping with different women. Ya know, living the 20-something single life. As the relationship went on a lot of my hobbies stopped. Didn't care to go clubbing. I didn't have as much of a need to go out and party anymore. Because of school/work/relationship, I stopped working out, which caused me to gain some weight. Friends started to disappear as well. As for sleeping around, I went almost 2 years without sex because my ex was a virgin waiting for marriage. I only wanted to spend time with her. She kind of became my life because I realized that I had found somebody special. About 6 months in, I kind of labeled her the "one." She said the same thing about me as well. I'd say around 15 months into our relationship, she started to change. She just didn't seem interested in me anymore. She started doing more of the things that I did when I was single, which was all stuff that she never did before. I always thought she was a "good girl." A virgin, didn't care to drink, hadn't dated TONS of guys, kept to herself. So, all of this new behavior was kind of strange to me. In her email, I had found tons of pictures of her clubbing, drinking, and dancing with other guys. These pictures were taken at around the 15 month mark (and some were recent pictures, after the breakup). I had never seen these photos before. It's like she had this whole other personality but I never saw that side of her. But, still, after all of our troubles, she kept coming back to me. Messed with my mind for another year to only RIP my heart out and throw it on the floor while I was already going through a difficult time to begin with. Edited January 13, 2011 by mmiller5373
lovekills Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Well, when our relationship started, I was a totally different guy. I'm not gonna lie, I was kind of a bad ass. I was ripped, I dressed to perfection, I had tons of confidence, and a huge ego. I didn't give a sh*t about nobody but myself. I think this kind of turned my ex on. I was a challenge, so to speak. And considering she was from Mexico, I think she thought it might be cool to get a taste of the local cuisine. lol. I was 21 when we met, so I was going out clubbing a lot, drinking a lot, working out tons, had tons of friends, and sleeping with different women. Ya know, living the 20-something single life. As the relationship went on a lot of my hobbies stopped. Didn't care to go clubbing. I didn't have as much of a need to go out and party anymore. Because of school/work/relationship, I stopped working out, which caused me to gain some weight. Friends started to disappear as well. As for sleeping around, I went almost 2 years without sex because my ex was a virgin waiting for marriage. I only wanted to spend time with her. She kind of became my life because I realized that I had found somebody special. About 6 months in, I kind of labeled her the "one." She said the same thing about me as well. I'd say around 15 months into our relationship, she started to change. She just didn't seem interested in me anymore. She started doing more of the things that I did when I was single, which was all stuff that she never did before. I always thought she was a "good girl." A virgin, didn't care to drink, hadn't dated TONS of guys, kept to herself. So, all of this new behavior was kind of strange to me. In her email, I had found tons of pictures of her clubbing, drinking, and dancing with other guys. These pictures were taken at around the 15 month mark (and some were recent pictures, after the breakup). I had never seen these photos before. It's like she had this whole other personality but I never saw that side of her. But, still, after all of our troubles, she kept coming back to me. Messed with my mind for another year to only RIP my heart out and throw it on the floor while I was already going through a difficult time to begin with. Its hard dude but you should stop dwelling on it. Not sure if you read my thread but if you want to read about real pain I would do so. Who knows why women suddenly change, it could be one thing we don't even realize we did that turns them off, one character trait or one time we let out guard down, or another rico sauve would make his way into the picture. Its all one big crap shoot dude. I thought by dating someone older i would encounter a more mature and stable person, unfortunately it was the unbelievable opposite, she was less stable, mature and on her feet than anyone i have ever dated and she is 7 years older than I! I try to stay away from the ones still in college or the party types too, its just a sad state of affairs, pick up your stuff, get your life back together and move on, just like me
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