justletgox51 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 It has been about 2 weeks since the last time my ex and I have talked. The last time we talked was on Christmas day (our supposedly one year). He and I go to the same high school, and it's hard pretending he doesn't exist anymore. It's hard ignoring him at school when I see him. But at the same time I always think he has forgotten about me because he told me on our last phone conversation that he'll forget about everything that happened last year. We lasted for 11 months, but spent time for over a year. Sigh. If you guys want to know what happened: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t256150/ , http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258245/ & http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259235/ explains my situation. Today he asked one of my friends, "How is justletgox51?" But my friend lied saying she doesn't know and she doesn't talk to me that much. However, we do talk and she told me so. He also told one of my close friends the week before this week about wanting to be my friend since he doesn't hate me. Sigh. I miss him terribly, and I seriously have the urge to contact him to say "Hello, how are you?" stuff like that. But I don't know. I'm just tired of being the first one to contact him... Even when we first met, it was me who got the courage to talk to him, and aimed him. But now, there's no point. I want to be his friend but at the same time, I'm still madly in love with him... I want to confront him, talk to him normally but I learned from one of my friends that, "girls shouldn't chase over boys," or that I shouldn't chase over someone that hurt me. It's just I chased him for a month (last month) and I always get a, "leave me alone," "it's too early to be friends," "don't talk to me." Sigh. I miss him... I wonder if he misses me too? I was his first love and he was mine too... I feel like he has forgotten me... :'( Please help? Any successful NC stories? How did you guys deal with the temptation of contacting your exes?
suddendumpee Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Just as an FYI, I have a male friend who is very close with (works with) my ex. I ask him from time to time how she is doing. This in no way means that I want her back. Do I miss her and her companionship? Sure. But my time away also made me realize that what we had was not a good foundation for a marriage. Only 2 things can happen when 2 people break up. A) You realize that you lost something very special, or B) you realize that you let something go that never would have worked anyway. with option A, I would hope that you would know this because it would be made abundantly clear with option B, you would be left guessing and reading in to things (like someone asking how you were) Asking how someone is, does not mean they regret leaving. Simply that you were a part of their life at one point and they are curious.
DellPickle Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 He hasnt forgotten you, he clearly wants to know how you are doing, but is staying away to help you with the healing process....keep up the NC for a little while...talking to him will only reopen the wound
Author justletgox51 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 @suddendumpee: Yeah, that is true... Sigh. I just wished it would have been the option A, but I guess I'm wrong. @ DellPickle: I don't know... He has forgotten the new me that is. I guess he missed what we had, and who I was before. Not who I am today. Yeah, it's true. I just miss him so much... Sigh.
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