Author OOReeee Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Yeah... She just e-mailed me. She needs help fixing her computer (I was pretty much her IT guy) because she wants to start a blog (which, as she just jokingly wrote, I'll probably the only one who'd read it). It's obviously concerning. I want to see her, but I don't because I am no longer with her. Maybe I'll use this opportunity to tell her we can't be friends, because writing it is too difficult...
Author OOReeee Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Hahaha. Well, here's to the best show in town.
carhill Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Everybody knows your name when they want something. Great life lesson.
Author OOReeee Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 yeah, I told her I am really busy (which I am) so if she wants we can do it sometimes sunday or during work next week via chat. I guess that if I play it cool it'll be alright.
Dmoney28 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 BAD..BAD...VERY BAD IDEA..nothing good can come of being friends...do you really want to be "friends" when she get married and had kids..while you'll still hve feeling for her. YOu would be delaying your healing..BIG time. trust me, i did... tried it for a year..until she cut me loose. And before you reply with "my situation is diffrent"..its not, trust me, its not. I said the same thing, as well as others on this site. She wont wake up one dy soon and change her mind...if she does, it wont be with you being her friend. and how do you be friends with someone you'd love?
Author OOReeee Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 I agree but it's just so hard. I don't even wanna be friends with her, it's obviously too difficult.
timchambo Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 From a comment I made in another thread: I'm starting to think 90% of the reasons people give for breaking up are lies. "I need to be on my own" followed by "No, there's not somebody else" almost CERTAINLY means: "I screwed a dude last weekend and it felt really good and sex was new and exciting again. I now know that he wants more than a one-night stand, and having learned this, I'm leaving you now to go have sex with this new guy until it gets boring, and realize that this new relationship is very empty. Then I will attempt to get you to date me again until I cheat on you with another douche-bag who wants more than a one-night stand. I plan on doing this until I suck the life out of your ego AND give you herpes" Now you know why they lie.... my god this hits way to close to home. My ex finally admitted to kissing a guy. My source that knew more called it "making out". I asked my source is she F'd him, and she said no just made out. Maybe my source was trying to prevent the ultimate heart break. Good thing I told that hoe I'm not waiting around for her. Of course her reaction to that was to call back a couple days later saying "Im just not in love with you anymore".
Dmoney28 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 bro..i know it sucks..its like getting over a drug habbit...there is no relationship methadone. and if there was ... it wouldnt be through (LC)light contact. and i the whole computer thing..trust me, she's not ready to let go of you yet...this is a way to keep you in her life...while she looks for "the one". my ex did the same thing..except it was a Ipod issue. she will slow or stop calling, txting or emailing you. Its like she swinging from vine to vine right now..you being the current vine she is clinging to...until she finds another vine to grab. Run..NO CONTACT...if there was a - 1 percent chance of you getting together..no contact would be the only way. you need to heal, learn to be single ..and learn to be happy being single, date around. and im not going to lie to you..it will suck..and depending on how long you were together, how intense the love was and how well you guys were together...it will take a while. its been 2 years, and im not 100% over the whole thing.
Author OOReeee Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) Well, she off Edited January 13, 2011 by OOReeee
Author OOReeee Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Well, she officially added insult to injury by texting me "I just met a male model who says he knows you." That just shows disrespect. I don't know if she was being naive but she should have the common courtesy. Yep, friends no more, I don't even think I'll help her with her computer.
WTRanger Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Well, she officially added insult to injury by texting me "I just met a male model who says he knows you." That just shows disrespect. I don't know if she was being naive but she should have the common courtesy. Yep, friends no more, I don't even think I'll help her with her computer. Dude, it's not disrespect. It's what you tell your friends! You wanted to try to be friends and this is EXACTLY why you have 3 pages of people telling you what a bad idea this is. Now, you have no right to get all pissy since you are just her "friend". If you get all jealous, you just look like a tool. Friends with an ex so soon after a break up is such a bad idea. Now, you have a front row seat to it.
Akumark Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Yeah, exatly why I keep myself from breaking NC and not try to be friend like she want to, I just don't want to listen to who she bang of just be left there after dinner because she have a date (that she will obviously bang 1st date because she always do), no friend thing while I'm not over her.
shayan Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 case closed I'm glad you didn't let this linger like I did for close to 8 months. Yeah, oh yeah.
Author OOReeee Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 To that we say: If You Lie Down with Dogs, You Wake Up with Fleas.
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