SCG_Sasa1111 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 What goes on in the mind of a person who by whatever reason decides 2 leave a long term relationship because they feel they have feelings for someone else? Why would they jeopardize the relationship that built for so long to try something like that? My ex and I broke up around end of october and november and she left me because she had feelings for this other guy who we both knew. this all happened when I was gone on vacation in my country for ****in god damn 15 days...15 days is all it took for her to realize she had "feelings" for someone else. This was back in May...throughout the summer she became much more distant and I would see her less and less. September comes along and I decided to break up with her sayin she is acting really weird...I can't take it and when she decides she wants to actually see me and be with me to come talk ( i saw her two times entire month) I break up with her and since that she didnt' try to fix anything and used this as the way to get into her new relationship ...she went to the guy she thought she had "feelings for" and left me..did not try and fix anything just left everything completley behind. ALL her friends...her sister...my friends everyone who knows us ..knew us as the couple for 4.5 years...they thought we would never break up....she was crazy about me...if me leaving for 15 days actually did this...i really don't know what 2 say...its January now..they are together in a relationship on facebook...i just dont understand...her thought process..does she not realize how much of a hore she looks like? EVERYONE is sayin she made a huge mistake...they all think her new guy is an idiot and not even close to me in every way possible..especially looks wise ( like il admit if he was a better person..but I did everything for her I was the best I could be...why did we last for so long if things werent good?) ...everyone is sayin its her loss...but i dont get how she doesnt realize how she looks in my eyes now...but in everyone's eyes.the fact that she can move from one to the other..no consequences...likee her new facebook dispaly picture is of her and him...and shes wearing a very revealing dress that shows her bra and underwear..and its their " New Years Night going clubbing" likeee....i dono what 2 say.. Either way she is with him now...what I want to know is....this isn't considered a rebound relationship....its probably a more grass is greener syndrome i wana try a new "exciting" relationship....thing is..she went from one to the other just like that..so i dont understand.....
january2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I can relate. Thankfully, don't have to deal with Facebook though. I think it's important for you to realise that she's not the same person you loved. You probably don't even recognise that person now, as evidenced by her FB photos. You don't have to look at them. In fact, I suggest that you remove her from your life including your access to her FB page. In my opinion, full NC (delete and block) is the best way to move forward from this. I know you're angry and you want answers but you may find that you won't get the answers that you need.
Author SCG_Sasa1111 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 Yeah i understand..i don't have her on my facebook profile..its just my friends were all telling me if i saw her new display picture and that i should see it and how disrespectful she looks..i was curious so i went to look at it..and ye i was right it hurt.. but its true your right..lookin at her i dont see the same person..i feel disgusted...and shes tryin 2 change that guy in a version of me..shes tryin to make him dress like i dress and it just seems so cheap..but whatever its said and done.
january2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 It is said and done. If your friends are sympathetic to your situation, I suggest telling them that you don't want to talk about your ex right now because she's the past and she's got no place in your present or future. I also suggest using your anger and disgust. Channel that energy to help you move on with your life: gym, sport, school/work, social.
confusiondancer Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 (edited) Well suppose I can talk considering I've been on the other side of the fence, although I think my experience differs greatly from your girlfriend <_<. Generally its caused by something within the relationship not quite clicking. For me it was that my girlfriend had cheated on me. We had been together four years, and on the third she did it. A hicup of hers.Then she started playing MMO's, communication broke down. Eh. Anyways long story short generally theres something up with the relationship that causes them to look elsewhere. Otherwise...you just got a girl on your hands who got bored. Some (foolishly) don't like stability. Edited January 10, 2011 by confusiondancer mistype
Leandro Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I think you should listen to January2011. Delete and block her on FB. Ask your friend not to tell you about her life. She's just someone different now. Plus, if she can grow feelings for someone else in just 15 days, you don't need her. And the other guy isn't much of a friend or a decent guy to go after a girl in a relationship. 1
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