MissVegas Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I broke up with my boyfriend over a week ago due to him basically being disrespectful, name calling, disregarding my feelings, being a drunk and putting himself first always. You can read about it here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259625/ Anyways I sent him a message stating he could keep the TV I got him for Christmas as it was a gift and he replied "I know I hurt your feelings leaving you on NYE but you really hurt mine saying we would break up" I then sent him a text back explaining the reasons why and he never replied and that was it No contact after that for a few days from either party. Then he sends me a text a few days later stating "the last text you sent me just said text missing" *the one i sent stating why i was breaking up with him* and then went on to continue texting me his weekend plans and that his grandpa is dying and that his sister is on bed rest. I wanted to be the bigger person so I just texted I was so sorry and would be praying for them and that was it back to no contact from either party. Then yesterday he texts me telling me he was with his 3 year old nephew and his nephew really wanted to call me...So i didn't want to be a bitch since I was with him for the duration of his nephews life and love his nephew so I said okay. So i talked to his nephew and said hi and stuff and then his nephew hung up on me cause he was pressing all the buttons. That was fine. Then my ex calls me back saying sorry for his nephew hanging up on me and continues to ask what i'm doing and what the weather is like here! Like what is that.. anyways I didn't want to be rude so i said to give his nephews a hug for me and say hi to his sister and ended the convo promptly then we go back to NC What is this! Why is he contacting me only to act like everything is fine and update me on his life? Like I am not contacting him and he's acting like everything is hunkey dorey? You'd think he'd atleast be contacting me if it was to say sorry or to want to work things out but this whole acting like everything is normal thing makes no sense to me? Why contact me sporadically about nothing?? Any opions?
sugarmomma Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I broke up with my boyfriend over a week ago due to him basically being disrespectful, name calling, disregarding my feelings, being a drunk and putting himself first always. He's abusive. Who cares why he's calling even it is to say sorry. He's not sorry for treating you that way especially since you still make excuses to talk to him. Stop answering before you fall back into an abusive relationship. Be glad you got out and tell him to get lost. Its really simple.
Minnie09 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Where does OP say that he apologized? I didn't read that anywhere. He's an abusive piece of drunkard and very selfish. He does not sound like the type who cares, or makes an effort to put things right. He just randomly calls, but nobody knows why, including him. There's no reason for his weird behavior. I don't see it. I hope you're not still hoping and pining. I'm sure you could get back together, if YOU make the effort. I don't think he would even try. He might go with the flow, if you make the moves, out of convenience. But honestly, you would be exactly where you were right after NYE, or when he went to Vegas, or when you broke up, or when when when .... It won't have a happy ending for you. And he communicates with you now, because you let him. Because he can. If you stop letting him, he won't contact you anymore. I think he would be too lazy to even try a second time. Just go NC already and focus on your work. You'll never find happiness if you continue in this mayhem.
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