MissVegas Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I broke up with my boyfriend over a week ago due to him basically being disrespectful, name calling, disregarding my feelings, being a drunk and putting himself first always. You can read about it here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259625/ Anyways I sent him a message stating he could keep the TV I got him for Christmas as it was a gift and he replied "I know I hurt your feelings leaving you on NYE but you really hurt mine saying we would break up" I then sent him a text back explaining the reasons why and he never replied and that was it No contact after that for a few days from either party. Then he sends me a text a few days later stating "the last text you sent me just said text missing" *the one i sent stating why i was breaking up with him* and then went on to continue texting me his weekend plans and that his grandpa is dying and that his sister is on bed rest. I wanted to be the bigger person so I just texted I was so sorry and would be praying for them and that was it back to no contact from either party. Then yesterday he texts me telling me he was with his 3 year old nephew and his nephew really wanted to call me...So i didn't want to be a bitch since I was with him for the duration of his nephews life and love his nephew so I said okay. So i talked to his nephew and said hi and stuff and then his nephew hung up on me cause he was pressing all the buttons. That was fine. Then my ex calls me back saying sorry for his nephew hanging up on me and continues to ask what i'm doing and what the weather is like here! Like what is that.. anyways I didn't want to be rude so i said to give his nephews a hug for me and say hi to his sister and ended the convo promptly then we go back to NC What is this! Why is he contacting me only to act like everything is fine and update me on his life? Like I am not contacting him and he's acting like everything is hunkey dorey? You'd think he'd atleast be contacting me if it was to say sorry or to want to work things out but this whole acting like everything is normal thing makes no sense to me? Why contact me sporadically about nothing?? Any opions?
mr heartbroken Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Hey miss vagas. He seems not to have taken what you have said seriously. You could continue to be nice and let him think it's ok to txt and phone, This too me... Would be confusing to him. He wouldn't think much has changed and will end up in him wanted to meet you. I think if you want to end it then tell him you're reason in person. Ok maybe not face to face but on the phone at least he will hear the words. At this point you can get you're points across why you don't want to carry the rs on. If you want to work it out then you can tell him what you think went wrong and where you need to improve.
WTRanger Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 He doesn't believe it because you broke up over text. Which is usually the weakest most unbelievable way to break up with someone. He also continues to talk to you like everything is A-Okay because you let him believe everything is fine by your actions. You continue to take his calls, texts, etc. Why wouldn't he think everything is okay? He's not a mind reader. You need to tell him, in your voice, that it is over. No more texting crap.
JM_in_CA Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I think that he wants everything to just blow over and for the two of you to ease into getting back together without him having to take any responsibillity for his actions. He thinks that you'll come around and get over it. Now this part is important for you to realize: if you cave in and let him get away with it, you'll be teaching him that it's ok to treat you badly, because you'll get over it eventually. Oh, and the whole "My nephew wants to talk to you" story is a scam. Ha, ha. I'm sure the kid likes you and all but suggesting a phone call to you isn't the behavior of a 3 year old. Good luck! Jeannie
NeNinja Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I agree. You need to let him know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are serious about the break up. (If you are.) He is going to keep coming up with excuses to call and text you while you're relationship is in 'limbo.' Don't buy the nephew story either. My six year old niece wanted to see my girlfriend when we got together for Christmas. (She had gotten her ears pierced and wanted to show her ) No contact is no contact...no matter what.
Buzzkillington Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Other people here are right, he hasn't taken it seriously (at least not as final)... and if he does understand, he might be in shock, people can be for a while. You need to make it very clear to him that it's over and the reasons (again) for this, preferably in person.
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