Author KYoung2200 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Day 3, 1:32am EST: Still up, but playing games with friends. I thought it was "safe" to send a message to my ex about my health issues. I was feeling down about them and she knew all about them. So I sent a message. BIG MISTAKE!!!! Found out she's spending the night at this new guy's place and most likely slept with him. This information hurts a lot. A lot. But I think that this was needed. Now I know that it is really, 100%, completely over. She never gave me a straight answer, ever. She was filled with "I don't knows" over and over. Now I know. Updated Facebook. "To hell with that. Full steam ahead, bitches!" My goal? Forget about this girl within 2 months. We were together for 5 and a half.
Gdunkman Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 My goal? Forget about this girl within 2 months. We were together for 5 and a half. That's absolutely possible. I was mostly over my ex after 2 months NC, a lot of LS people mention the same period of time. Just stick to NC and keep busy. I would also suggest you to delete her from your fb. fb is not your friend here.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 That's absolutely possible. I was mostly over my ex after 2 months NC, a lot of LS people mention the same period of time. Just stick to NC and keep busy. I would also suggest you to delete her from your fb. fb is not your friend here. Already deleted from my facebook, AIM, Steam(she was also a gamer), phone, and my heart. This is probably the best thing she could have done for me. I don't have time for people who want to treat me like this. If she held that little respect for our relationship, then she's not worth worrying about at all.
Gdunkman Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Already deleted from my facebook Oh, I'm sorry, I missed it. One more finding I did during first weeks of NC I want to share with you. When you break NC, you feel good for a day or two, but you start to feel depressed after about 7-10 days after the contact. That's what I've experienced several times, it might be typical reaction, not my personal.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 S'all good man. Thanks for the advice. But I'm thinking she 'done goofed' now. Unfortunately she has two kids and has started whoring around like this.
Leandro Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Now that you know all of that info, please go NC.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 No problems here. I feel a LOT better right now and going NC isn't even a problem, because it really doesn't feel like a loss.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Day 3, 3:38pm EST According to the 5 stages of grief, it looks like I'm already on Stage 4. A final goodbye. Memories of her and I do make me sad, and I've accepted that it is over. The home stretch. I'll let my heart feel out these emotions as a final tip of the hat to her, and then I'll move on. I'm surprised at how quickly this is actually moving. The more and more I think about her the more I know that she is not right for me. Not just right now, but at all. She has some severe mental issues. She doesn't even have her GED. She has two kids. I thought that I could help her out of her hole. And I did, I helped her get on her two feet. But then she just stood there. I want someone with motivation. She's out of my life. And she's going to do what she did to me to this new guy, and 4 of the guys before me. Guy to guy to guy to guy to guy. It's her thing.
Leandro Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I really hope you are over it. I thought the same thing for a few weeks. Thinking I was already over it, then BAM. It all came back and slapped me in the face. But I hope that doesn't happen to you.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Day 4, 11:27am EST: My method of dealing with this seems to have helped. Yesterday was the first day that I didn't cry or have the urge to cry at all. Ever since she spent the night at the dude's house and slept with him, I've realized one thing: She's not the girl I fell in love with. She's someone else. She is not who I thought she was. So the girl I fell in love with is gone, replaced by this new person to whom I would not give the time of day. There is still a bit of pain there. I'd be a fool to say there isn't. The mere thought of her cuddling up to him where I used to be sends a pain through my heart. But I'll never go back to her. In time, maybe I could learn to have her as a friend. Maybe. But I'll never go back to her romantically.
Leandro Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Yea. The person we fell in love with died a long time ago. I hate the thought of her and him together. Real sickening feeling.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 Day 5, 12:54pm EST: It's been a week since she and I have been broken up, and a lot has happened. Still in Stage 4, I think. I think back on our fond memories with a bit of sadness, hoping that I can one day share moments like those with someone else. I know it'll happen someday. Just gotta heal or fill the void left by the bitch.
Author KYoung2200 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Day 8, 8:31pm EST Haven't posted, but I've been busy. Have not broke contact, but I've been hanging out with some of my friends. Last night I was over my friend's house, and her best friend and I ended up making out a little at the end of the night. Talk about an ego boost. Definitely helped me get over that "rejected" feeling. Feeling more empowered than ever, and ready to take on the future.
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