bauxiticman Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 Hi, I'm trying to get over this girl. We broke up about 6 months ago and have been talking ever since. We were talking about getting back together, since we still like each other. (this was 2 days ago) Tonight, I find out that she went out drinking and had sex with some guy - what am I supposed to do here? I wanna just punch a wall or something. I'm so disappointed and pissed.. it's like the feeling you have when a favorite pet dies.
look forward Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 move on my friend move on..... if she is sleeping with someone else after discussing reconciling with you then I wouldn't take her words seriously.. keep yourself busy and try to accept that its over for your own sake..
opentonewadvice Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 wow! Thats a nightmare. But the good part about all of this is that atleast you know what has taken place. Now you have to ask yourself how do i go about resolving these issues iam having with my ex and her actions. By what you wrote i know you were experiencing hurt, anger,and resentment. But believe me she is probably feeling even worst being that she allowed herself to reveal all her insecurities something she was probably already dealing with before the drinking came into play. Getting back to you , now You must decide whether you want to talk things out rationally with her and give her the opportunity to share her feelings to you on the situation or whether you want to resolve things by splitting up for good, due to the circumstances. One thing is for certain though you must resolve this before long. Reason being alot of times when we move on with un resolved issues still on our chest we begin to become bitter or not have good relationships in the future. Mainly because we really never got over something that bothered us from the past and the new person has to deal with our un-resolved baggage. and i do not think that is fair vice versa. So try not to cheat yourself in the future because of this incident. But if you decide to take her back once again remember communication will be the hey, And plenty of trust.
Author bauxiticman Posted March 19, 2004 Author Posted March 19, 2004 I've pretty much decided that it's over, at least for me. I have lost all respect for her and I don't really ever want to see her or talk to her again.. This whole thing is so stupid.. back when we were going out, her sister went to a party and did pretty much the same thing.. in front of my ex... so she said that she was never going to drink. Then this happens... I hate parties. Alcohol is alright but when you can't handle the situation, people just end up getting hurt.
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