Livelovelearn Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Hello everyone, I have been posting here for a while, but around last year April i went through a horrible break up, because my ex boyfriend was stringing me along while he had another girlfriend which i did not know about it. I take that as cheating and i was greatly hurt. We did some no contact and then on and off we started talking again. Recently we can only contact eachother through the internet because his phone isnt working. Now its been many months and i do feel i am at a way better position than i was originally. However in the last couple of days i find myself waking up with that empty feeling in my stomach that i first got when we first broke up. Its a horrible feeling and from what i read on here, its a common feeling to get after a recent break up. But its been months!! and this feeling crept on me....so im confused, what does this mean? has someone had the same feeling creep up on them as well. I should mention i am dating someone else so I am not alone.
0hpenelope Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I'd think it's because even though you had an on-and-off contact, you didn't get the time you needed apart in order to really let go of him. The way I know I'm ready to even look at an ex and say a casual hello is when I really don't care anymore. There's an absence of feeling when I think about the ex. Have you thought about stopping your communication with him online and going NC for a much longer period? You're dating someone else anyway, so you should focus on your significant other during your NC from your ex.
Author Livelovelearn Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 0hpenelope thanks for your response. Well we have been in no contact for three months even though thats not enough especially since we've dated for almost 3 years. He is my first love, and i know that in some way Ill always have him in my heart and even though he hurt me i still wish the best for him. I think i have accepted its over because i do not think we will ever get back i mean so much months have passed and he hasnt mentioned anything in relation to getting back. I have decided to stop contact with him online, even after his phone stopped working we must have communicated 4 times briefly so its not an everyday thing. But this was about a week ago after New Years when i decided not to message him or anything like that and i was fine, but now im waking up with this feeling it throws me off. And yes i am trying to be fair with my recent relationship, but its hard when the guy im dating went through the same thing with his ex cheating on him so i feel like its not a fresh start ..i dont know but i am definitely stopping contact with the ex i have been doing so.
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