gurlboho1 Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 Hello all~ my guy and i have been together for about 3yrs. i broke it off about a yr ago and got back with him in about a month or 2 after breakup. my reasons/"issues" for letting him go were due to my feeling like we're too different, him being possessive, spiteful, mama's boy and not having much of a backbone(his mother/family blamed me for causing him so much pain when i broke it off the first time. mother told me if i didn't love him as much as he loved me that i should just leave him alone...), his job pays commission which requires lots of his time so our time together is unpredictable anyway. he eventually wanted me to move in with him, reluctantly i did after our first year of dating. i moved out after the "issues" still existed. he wanted me to move back w/him. i did. now i really see how our communication is very frustrating bcuz he either tries to control me since i rarely seem to agree to do "what he wants" in our relationship. so i'm mainly turned off by him bcuz, i've noticed he will do things that get me upset and seems quite "satisfied", if you will, when i'm upset. e.g., he will call me several times while i'm at work knowing i can't take many personal calls. he'll keep calling until i answer. i always seem to apologize to him to give him comfort that i care, but i can't talk much at all while at work. but he acts like i'm neglecting him. so when i get off and he's at work, he'll act like he's so busy he can't talk and will sometimes work longer hours when he's promised to get off sooner than later. when i address that, he almost brushes it off, without an apology and acting as if it's no big deal. that makes me feel like he's neglecting my feelings and taking me for a joke. that makes me want to just make a clean break. if not, how do you handle situations like this?? Link to post Share on other sites
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