mortensorchid Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Happy New Year everyone! Hope everyone had a nice holiday season or at least stress free. Now that the new year has begun, I admit I am feeling a little ... Sad. I am not over the bf who dumped me the other month. I'm lonely without him. To review, he said he wanted to take a step back because he's not good during the holidays and he's trying to get over someone from 6 mos ago. At least, that's what he said. I'm not sure if I believe that to be true or not, when I mentioned this to two close guy friends they said he probably has another gf and he's ready to introduce her to his parents over the holiday season. True? I don't know, but most likely. I'm not under any kind of delusion that this person is waiting in an ivory tower someplace waiting for me or someone else to rescue him. He's out living just like the rest of us. I've kept my distance save for a few mass text messages I sent on Christmas Day and New Year's Day wishing everyone a happy holiday season. He responded to both, on the New Year's one he said he was off for a skiing weekend. But since then, no contact from me or him. In another week or so I will get busy again and have more things to do rather than sit around and do nothing. In fact, I have been trying to make myself EXTRA busy so as not to feel like I have nothing to do. Some projects will not get going until another week or so, as well as some classes starting up. So ... I guess my question is, what to do in order to get over him rather than what I have attempted to do? Of course, the answer would be to meet someone else and have them distract me, but it's all rather hopeless as far as I can see. Tried online, I don't think you're going to meet someone that way besides a few meals/drinks and things.
january2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 (edited) If it works out, all well in good. Otherwise, you may find yourself back at square one dealing with another rejection. I suggest that you keep doing what you've been doing in terms of keeping busy and surrounding yourself with people who love you. In my experience, it's not a process that can be rushed and a conveyor belt of relationships is just a band-aid solution. Edited January 9, 2011 by january2011
colliejoanie Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I'm responding not with advice, but because misery loves company, I guess. I don't know how to get over this more quickly. That's really all I want.....to get over this feeling and move on. I want to stop thinking about him! Like you, I'm also moving along with life, doing things I didn't before, staying busy, meeting new people....but he always creeps in. I think what is killing me is that we were only in a relationship for four months! FOUR MONTHS! I handled my feelings better after my divorce!!! I guess it's because with a divorce, you're expected to having lasting feelings, remember things fondly, feel lonely. So, sorry to be a "me too", but I understand what you're feeling, and if you find an answer please let me know!! Good luck, girl!
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