quietGuy13 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Yesterday in the bus behind me some girls in their 20's were talking.. and a bunch of F words and nasty mean words and talking about how they go to clubs and when they get drunk they start fighting. etc etc Kindof what you see in the Realworld.. women who just have these attitudes and are mean and cuss alot. I don't know what guys like those girls but i don't. And i also don't cuss. So why would i want someone like that. Am i wrong for wanting someone nice?
carhill Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Sorry to tell you but even 'nice' women seem to be a little more free with expletives than in the past. The clear great information from the women you overheard is the 'mean' part. Avoid mean people, even if they make your penis erect. Bad news.
mortensorchid Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 It's hard to equate not swearing with being nice, that's not necessarily something that goes hand in hand. I've met plenty of "nice guys" who will treat you like s--- even though they never swore in my presence, and vice versa for "bad boys". And the same can be said for women. It's not unreasonable for you to ask that a person refrain from swearing, but don't just assume that because the person doesn't swear doesn't mean everything else is alright. As for those girls on the bus you were talking about, remember that they were doing it not because they were specifically trying to offend you, but because they wanted attention. Why would they be doing it if there weren't others to see / hear it? Chances are if you were to see them when they were alone or at least not around so many people, they wouldn't be using said language.
january2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I don't think you're wrong. If you want someone who does not swear, that's your preference. We're allowed to have those when we choose a partner. Where you might come unstuck is where one of your preferences narrows your dating pool significantly. At that point, you may have to compromise somewhat, but of course it does depend on how much weighting you give to each of your preferences.
samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 (edited) I'm assuming you don't cuss either right? It's ok for you not to like a girl who uses slang language all the time but if you do it, then it would hypocritical on your part. As for me, I don't like men who cusses on a daily basis either. Since you don't cuss then it's alright to be upset when hearing someone talk that way. Edited January 9, 2011 by samsungxoxo
Feelin Frisky Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I'm the only one who's allowed to cuss. -----------------------------------------------------------------
folieadeux Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I don't think there's any connection with cursing and being mean. If you don't want to be around people that swear and who share your belief in that, so be it. But I wouldn't go around passing judgment either just because they let a few F-bombs fly every now and then. We're all adults, it happens, and there's bigger issues in the world to worry about.
zengirl Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I think you're wrong with equating "nice" to doesn't cuss, but not wrong for wanting to be with a girl that doesn't, if you don't. It's just a personal choice at that point. But it doesn't make people any "nicer" -- unless you're talking about not cussing people out. Personally, I think having "bad words" is silly. Someday, I even plan to teach my children curse words early on, long before they're teens (while teaching them, "Now, you don't say this at school because some people think it's bad and it bothers them") because I just don't believe in this kind of random censorship, especially since what's "dirty" has changed over time. But your statement still doesn't offend me. I think people are entitled to want a SO who shares their views on things, big or small, or in between.
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