FreeheartLover Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I think I'd date me if I were a guy. I'm a great girlfriend.
Author january2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 (edited) So yes, I actively work on stuff all the time. TOOO MUCH maybe, lol. It gets old working on "self" so I make sure I play hard, work hard, and live as well. Did you answer for yourself if you would date yourself? Yes, I occasionally get "working on myself" fatigue. I'm battle-weary and sometimes the losses are heavy but I remind myself that it's for a good cause. There are bits and bobs of my answer in my reponses to others but yes, I'd date myself, and even consider long-term because at least I know I'm with someone who doesn't give up easily and would try to make things work, but I'd need to do some tweaking first. I find my own company quite enjoyable, and my dating life was pretty dismal until I came to that realization. After realizing that my own company was better than someone else's bad company (someone incompatible) any day, my love life did a total 180. I felt this way when I was younger but an LTR eroded this feeling somewhat. I need to reclaim this feeling. I think I'd date me if I were a guy. I'm a great girlfriend. What makes you a great girlfriend? Edited January 9, 2011 by january2011
catgotyourtongue Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Yes, I occasionally get "working on myself" fatigue. I'm battle-weary and sometimes the losses are heavy but I remind myself that it's for a good cause. There are bits and bobs of my answer in my reponses to others but yes, I'd date myself, and even consider long-term because at least I know I'm with someone who doesn't give up easily and would try to make things work, but I'd need to do some tweaking first. Superb, I think that is great! I have that "try to make it work" thing too. Or, I did for a very very long time, lol. I am a little um, spent at moment so I am on breather from dating, but will again I am sure. You seem balanced, and happy, that's awesome.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I would date myself, because I'm awesome. And I'm a kickass girlfriend. I find my own company quite enjoyable, and my dating life was pretty dismal until I came to that realization. After realizing that my own company was better than someone else's bad company (someone incompatible) any day, my love life did a total 180. That's awesome Zen. I too enjoy my own company, always have and it's great. I love ME time and time with my friends, hobbies, fitness etc. The times I enjoy myself and my company the least is often when it is around a man/dating situation. Awkward hah? It brings out some tough behaviors and thoughts, but I am much better than I use to be. Anyway, I also, like my own company a lot. I am fun, silly, compassionate, a peice of work, lol etc. It's fun to be me sometimes
SmileFace Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 No I love myself but I could not date myself . It will be great to date someone who got my humor or liked the same things as myself. But I seek diversity in my life . I want someone I can learn from .
FreeheartLover Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 What makes you a great girlfriend? I'm just good in relationships. First of all, I'm a good friend. I know when to listen and when to talk. I know how to have a fair argument. I'm also kind, caring, sweet, and friendly. I know how to maintain a healthy relationship.
Eeyore79 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I'm not bad looking, and I guess I'd say I'm a reasonably good catch because I'm a decent person, educated and employed, own my home, able to cook, etc. I can be grumpy and untidy, but with the right person I can be very loyal and caring, so if I was a guy I guess I'd want to date me. I seem to attract a lot of guys who just want sex, and also a lot of incompatible guys who just want to date me because I tick certain boxes. I sort of fit the "pretty young doctor" stereotype, which attracts both the guys who want me as a bedpost notch and the guys who want me because I fit the mould of a "good catch". None of these guys actually want me for me. It took me a long time to figure this out, and to find someone who does want the real me, the person inside, not just the nice face or the "good catch".
fishtaco Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Maybe FWB with my right hand. Well, maybe left hand too, but only if I sit on it until it gets numb first.
EasyHeart Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Maybe FWB with my right hand. Well, maybe left hand too, but only if I sit on it until it gets numb first.:lmao::lmao: :lmao::lmao:
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 but only if I sit on it until it gets numb first. ....... now that is man who takes his masturbation seriously...
0hpenelope Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 If you were a member of the opposite sex, would you date/have a relationship with yourself? And would you go for friends-with-benefits, short-term relationship/casual only, long-term relationship or other? Why? You know, I would date myself. I'm fun to be around, I'm funny, I'm a mean cook & baker, I take care of the ones I care about very well. I love to learn. I like challenging myself so I can learn more and I'm not going after things that are too easy. I'm confident and humble with just a tad bit of insecurity. I'd go for an LTR. At the risk of sounding either cheesy or arrogant, I love myself in a way that I cannot love any others. The only one who will be with me through thick and thin is me. It took a while to get here and I'm still hit by the occasional insecurity, but I love me.
Confusedalways Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I think so... but that's an interesting question. I think I'd date myself for awhile and then be driven eventually crazy by the way I act when I get annoyed and tendency to be passive aggressive occasionally. Other than that, I think I'm pretty smart, fun and also a good girlfriend. Guess that means I need to find someone who likes me on my good and bad days.
JohnnyBlaze Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Would I date myself? Oh God, no! Not in a million freaking years! I have some idea of what my public image is like (i.e. how casual observers view me) and that might be interesting, but I know what I'm like in the long run and no, I couldn't put up with that. I need to date an opposite.
brainygirl Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I'd at least give me a first date - pretty, good job, nice sense of humor.
Star Gazer Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I do date myself. In fact, my longest relationship has been with ... myself. I can't seem to get rid of myself. NC has never been successful, so I suppose I will just have to accept my dubious fate of being with ... myself ... for the rest of my life. Love this!!
0hpenelope Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Yes, I occasionally get "working on myself" fatigue. I'm battle-weary and sometimes the losses are heavy but I remind myself that it's for a good cause. There are bits and bobs of my answer in my reponses to others but yes, I'd date myself, and even consider long-term because at least I know I'm with someone who doesn't give up easily and would try to make things work, but I'd need to do some tweaking first. I wish I could amend my reply to add this. That's the best part about myself: I do not give up easily!
tami-chan Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 No, I won't date myself because I need someone who will make time for me. I am stingy with my time and I need someone who is generous with their time. Btw, I think your posts are cool, January !
Author january2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 You seem balanced, and happy, that's awesome. Thanks, cat I seek diversity in my life. I want someone I can learn from. You could learn together. I'm just good in relationships. First of all, I'm a good friend. I know when to listen and when to talk. I know how to have a fair argument. I'm also kind, caring, sweet, and friendly. I know how to maintain a healthy relationship. You do sound like a great girlfriend! Absolutely not. Why not Cracker Jack? None of these guys actually want me for me. It took me a long time to figure this out, and to find someone who does want the real me, the person inside, not just the nice face or the "good catch". I'm sorry to hear that, Eeyore. It's especially interesting to hear from a woman who is considered a "good catch." I've found that these issues are usually raised by men. Maybe FWB with my right hand. Well, maybe left hand too, but only if I sit on it until it gets numb first. Poor lost soul. I shall point you in the right direction again: Would you have gay sex---with your self?
Author january2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 Love this!! Yes, yes. But what is your answer? Enquiring minds want to know. I wish I could amend my reply to add this. That's the best part about myself: I do not give up easily! Consider it done. ;) No, I won't date myself because I need someone who will make time for me. I am stingy with my time and I need someone who is generous with their time. Btw, I think your posts are cool, January ! At least you know what you need. And thanks for the kind words.
Author january2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 Guess that means I need to find someone who likes me on my good and bad days. I think many of us look for that. Would I date myself? Oh God, no! Not in a million freaking years! I have some idea of what my public image is like (i.e. how casual observers view me) and that might be interesting, but I know what I'm like in the long run and no, I couldn't put up with that. I need to date an opposite. Staying in character? I'd at least give me a first date - pretty, good job, nice sense of humor. Ah, I wonder if you'd go beyond that!
Star Gazer Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Yes, yes. But what is your answer? Enquiring minds want to know. Of course I would!! It wouldn't be the easiest relationship in the world, but I can guarantee it'd be well worth its challenges!
TheeRomantic Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Hell yes I would!! Even though I knew I'd know have to change my mind on having kids and marriage. Especially knowing I'd would be financially secured, a family man, comes from a good family, passionate lover, great kisser, good with kids, romantic and a good cook.. Shoot!! If that doesn't sounds like the perfect deal then I don't know lol. The biggest con I have to worry about is how many short relationships/flirts I've been in within the last couple of years. So thats the biggest con but hey.
Tony T Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 If you were a member of the opposite sex, would you date/have a relationship with yourself? WOW, what a great question. I really have to think about that one a while. Probably I would ask myself out...would tell me to get back with me...and then wouldn't return my calls later on.
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