iamthemovie Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Hi, so, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about four months. He is truly a very nice guy and treats me well. I can see this lasting for a good period of time. However, he has one female friend who he has known for about three years now. He admitted to having a crush on her when they first met during his freshman year of college, however, she has been with another guy since high school. He told me she used to complain about her relationship to him all the time. At the end of that year, they stopped talking and he did not hear from her again until she broke up with her boyfriend the following year (their sophomore year). They started talking again and he told her he liked her, but she blew it off and nothing happened between them. A few months later she got back with her boyfriend, who she is still dating currently. He also explained that they went back to not talking as frequently until this year, (my sophomore year, his junior year) when she found out he was dating me. He has told me he no longer has feelings for her, and that she had her chance with him and blew it, and he does not want to mess up what he has with me. The problem is, that every time I'm around the two of them together, she flirts with him, and brings up all the good times they used to have together. I feel like she does this on purpose to disrespect me. As far as I know, they do not hang out one-on-one, and I do not think he is the kind of guy to cheat. However, his friend loves to party and goes out to bars quite often. My boyfriend will be turning 21 soon and I am afraid she will start inviting him out with her, especially cause I'm a year younger and wouldn't be able to go and drink with them. I wouldn't be comfortable with them going out together because I feel like she would do it out of spite. I want to talk to my boyfriend about this but I don't want to come off as controlling, how should I handle this?
baybaybaby Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Does she always talk about the past whenever you're around? Maybe you can join in their conversation? If she brings upon the time when they did "this and that".. find something similar to "this and that" that you and your boyfriend both did? If she does have the intention to create a problem between you guys, you'll somewhat be sending her a message: it wouldn't be that easy.
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