AgeOfUninnocence Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I cannot begin to tell you how great it feels when you can look at your ex's facebook profile pictures with his new girl and not want to burst into tears. Not that I'd say I'm completely cured or don't feel anything. It's more like I look at them, tilt my head a little to the side confused, and think, "Huh. That's weird. I think that girl was supposed to be me. Hmmm. Strange." It's almost like he's a whole different person. Anyway. I know I am reading way, way, WAY too into this, but I'm sure I'm not alone in analyzing facebook pictures, and I could never ever talk to my friends about this. I've noticed that in the pictures my ex does decide to display of them, neither of them are really about the two of them together at all. It's like she just happens to appear of them. One of the pictures is more focused on him and he's smiling slightly into the camera, and then she's sitting behind/beside him, smiling as well, but about a third of her head is cropped out of the picture, and there's no body language between the two of them showing any support or acknowledgement that she's there with them. Then in the other picture he put up recently, he's facing profile staring off into space, not acknowledging the camera, nor his smiling, laughing girlfriend who is standing right beside him, looking happily into the camera. He's not sharing her emotions, or really connecting with her at all. I know this is overanalyzing, but if you really liked your girlfriend, why would you have these pictures up that don't make it seem as if you're really into her as all? She has "matching" pictures to these on her profile, as in different pictures taken on the same day, and in hers, she's chosen one where they're both looking into the camera smiling (well, he's kind of uncomfortably smiling), and one where they're both laughing about something. Between the pictures each of them have chosen to display on their profile, it looks like two completely different relationships. Anyone have any thoughts? Or like, bodylanguage reading websites? Haha
BlindRage Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I hate facebook; its a home wrecking website.
AC06 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I hate facebook; its a home wrecking website. Quoted for truth.
mfs976 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I told my ex to block me because I couldn't stop looking to see if she changed her profile pic...and I told her to block my number. Call me weak I guess but now it's impossible to check and I feel a lot better..
J Wool Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I hate facebook; its a home wrecking website. I couldn't have said it any better.
smudge21 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Facebook, and other social websites, allow us to find see what our ex's are doing since leaving us. Before then, we could only guess and therefore we'd have no choice but to move on. I too have been looking at the ex's FB page, seeing those 'enjoying herself' pics with her current other half. Also, even though he's now her fiance, he barely appears in any pics. In fact, he appears in only one or two with her beside him. But we really shouldn't look at FB as being an insight into someone's life. I see it more of an insight into how someone wants their lives to be.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I guess I'm lucky we blocked each other on FB when things went really bad. I see in my pics though she still has a lot of pics of our son and I up that she has me tagged. I assume she'll take them down after the divorce. I really am starting to hate FB too.
Jake99 Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Facebook, and other social websites, allow us to find see what our ex's are doing since leaving us. Before then, we could only guess and therefore we'd have no choice but to move on. I too have been looking at the ex's FB page, seeing those 'enjoying herself' pics with her current other half. Also, even though he's now her fiance, he barely appears in any pics. In fact, he appears in only one or two with her beside him. But we really shouldn't look at FB as being an insight into someone's life. I see it more of an insight into how someone wants their lives to be. I look at FB as part of NC! Haven't looked, peeked, nothin for 6 weeks! I don't want to know because it might put me back to square one and I'd rather focus on me!!
mfs976 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I hate facebook too. I wish I could deactivate my account but it's impossible. I am a dj and a photographer so I like to use it to promote both and stay in touch with people (obviously). I even had to block mutual friends that I still talk to (but am distancing myself from) in fear that I'd wake up one day and see a new photo album containing pictures of her in them...like someone said- It's not worth the risk reverting back and having a relapse in emotions because it will only hinder your progression in getting over her/him. What sucks for me is that me and my ex are in our mutual friends wedding together in about 7 months...I REALLY hope I'm able to keep my cool when I see her and I hope she doesn't bring a date..
KYoung2200 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I hate facebook too. I wish I could deactivate my account but it's impossible. I am a dj and a photographer so I like to use it to promote both and stay in touch with people (obviously). I even had to block mutual friends that I still talk to (but am distancing myself from) in fear that I'd wake up one day and see a new photo album containing pictures of her in them...like someone said- It's not worth the risk reverting back and having a relapse in emotions because it will only hinder your progression in getting over her/him. What sucks for me is that me and my ex are in our mutual friends wedding together in about 7 months...I REALLY hope I'm able to keep my cool when I see her and I hope she doesn't bring a date.. In 7 months? Honestly man, she'll probably bring a date. Good news? By then, you'll probably be bringing one, too.
mfs976 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 In 7 months? Honestly man, she'll probably bring a date. Good news? By then, you'll probably be bringing one, too. Hopefully..
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