Kamille Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 FYI OP, I had gained 15 pounds in the last three years (have lost 10 by now) and a lot of men really liked my curvier figure. Like you, I remained within a healthy BMI.
Imajerk17 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Everyone's got different tastes. I think 5'9" 165 in good shape is great. I'm not alone though. Most girls I see around town with height/weight proportionate to that have rings on their fingers. So other guys must like how they look too.
Art_Critic Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 3. I am pretty sure that this OP is a troll. You do realize that the OP has been a member for years and has almost 200 posts ? Did she even say the avatar picture was hers ? I'm a clown but my avatar isn't my real picture...
alexlakeman Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 AT 165 and 5'9, her BMI is actually 24.4, which puts her within what is considered a "healthy" weight. I searched google to see what something like that would look like, but didn't find anything.. Someone do a search and post a link, so we can see what those specs look like; unless OP posts a TRUE pic in her profile.l..
Knittress Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I searched google to see what something like that would look like, but didn't find anything.. Someone do a search and post a link, so we can see what those specs look like; unless OP posts a TRUE pic in her profile.l.. That sort of thing really depends on how a person carries the weight or how naturally muscular they may or may not be.
AverageJoe Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 My apologies king averagejoe. Medical expertise be damn. I did not realize your opinion was the only one that mattered. Now I understand why you chastise other men for their preferences. Really? I mean, seriously? C'mon. Oh, and apology accepted.
Leigh 87 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Unless you have great genetics, where you are very pretty, and are naturally thin with a good figure, then to attract more attention, you are going to need to do some physical activity every day, in addition to eating right most of the time. Of course, it is your personality and who you are that will get guys to want to be with you on a deaper level than just physical, however; to naturally get more people to NOTICE you initially, the mroe " attractive" your body is, the more people will notice you ( before they have a chance to get to know you). Attraction is just that; if you do SOME exercise every day, and eat well, and are at a slim btu healthy weight for your body, AND if you are pretty... then more people in public, who do not otherwise know you, will notice you. Your body will get more superficial glances. Most guys tend to like "healthY", rather than a certain weight; if a large boned person works out and eats well, and has great skin and a nice smile - guys will notice them more, than an unhealthy skinny person who dos not exercise and eats cr@p. Most people need to work on themselves physically, to be attractive. It is great to havea nice personality, but you will not attract the attention of as many potential partners if you remain inactive and unhealthy. So, to open up the opportunities for guys to get to know you, I would suggest that you find some form of exercise you enjoy enough to atart doing every day - such as walking - for at least 20 minutes. In addition to walking 20 minutes every day ( try up hills and varying things!) , I also highly recommend Pilate and Yoga DVD's; I sweat by Pilate DVD's, as lessons r too expensive for most ppl, and I get GREAT results by doing a 25 minute Pilates DVD at home every day. If you can afford a gym, try heavy lifting, as this firms things up; but make sure to do cardio for 20 mins most days, and try a pilates DVD at least 3 days a week. Remember, there is no urgency with getting THINNER; it is about looking HEALTHIER. I am sure you do not look and feel your best for more reasons besides gaining weight ( skin not as nice, do not exude as much confidence, etc). Good luck with it all, remember to start small, such as starting only the cardio for 20 minutes every day for a week, and thanb the next week, trying a pilates DVD 2 days a week for two weeks. Are you part of a gym? Once you start walking most days, you will feel committed enough, and have the moptivation to keep it up ( starting out is the hardest part, harder than maintaining for many !)
Kamille Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Really? I mean, seriously? C'mon. Oh, and apology accepted. I should have added: Zing!
AverageJoe Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Nice post, Leigh. Apparently I am not the only ******* that thinks she is overweight.
Romance Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I am a size 10/12 and I have a boyfriend and am in love. Anytime I say I'm fat he of course says 'no you're not, you're insane!" I dunno, a lot of guys seem to find me okay looking? I have no issue with that. However I'm not happy at my size and go to the gym and eat healthy, want to be a size six. I mean as much as I still get male attention, I get much more at a smaller size, it's true.
Romance Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/14/fashion/14CRYSTAL.html that article just goes to show, that girl is 5'9" and a size 12 and a plus sized model and is so skinny to me!!
Knittress Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Geez, what's with the 'start at 20 minutes of cardio' talk? You folks are talking like a size ten is obese and puffing for air as they waddle through the door of the McDonalds. I was healthy at a size 10 and was running three miles several days a week. Sometimes thinner just equals thinner.
OceanGirl Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I am 5'9" and gained some weight in the recent couple of years going from US size 6 to US size 10. I can't say I had more male attention when I was size 6 (really!). Only problem is, I am not happy at size 10 and am now down to 8, returning to 6 soon hopefully. At that height, size 10 is hardly obese. I even dated men who constantly complimented my body and encouraged me not to diet.
Leigh 87 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I never said that I thought he height and weight of the poster was OBESE, by any stretch. On some body types, it would be chubby if they did not exercise; on the other hand, on other people, it would look great ( IF they ate healthily and exercised). NO one has a fit and toned body if they do NOTHING and eat garbage. Heck, 110 lbs can look chubby on some women! It all depends on the type of body you have. I am NOT saying that the poster was overweight - I do not know what she looks like, or her the type of body she has. MOST peopel who do NO exercise, do not have a fit and firm body, though; even slim people. A firm and healthy body normally gets more male attention, because it is more pleasant to look and a body that is fit and healthy; fit and healthy DOES NOT have to = skinny though. The poster stated that she was not execising much and had let herself go a bit - not execising and letting one self go = not fit and healthy looking body. Of course, her personality and face comes into play; some women are prettier to more man, than other women, and no amount of weight loss can change your face; although being healthy does lead to a better complexion. There is nothing wrong with suggestion a simple and effective execise routine she could adopt, to kick start things - I recommended a few simple things. The poster should get healthy, and she will look and feel better, and get more guys noticing her; weight loss is not necessasary, her higher weight can look good if she eats clean natural food and e xercises daily. Although, it islikely that if the poster DOEs start doing what is best for her body, that she will inadvertently lose weight.
Els Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 That is obviously an old picture. 5' 9" 165lbs That is overweight for her frame. Her tits don't weigh 20lbs each. I am surprised at some of the posters here. Why would you encourage her for being overweight? I guess if you are a chubby chaser or have a fetish of some kind, that is ok I suppose. But to validate it (obviously what she is after) so she can feel ok with it makes no sense to me. Sounds like she is trying to be aware of it. So, to encourage it makes no sense to me. So you are the final arbiter of what 'overweight' is; you have every right to judge her as 'overweight' despite medical facts proving that she is indeed not, and others have no right to not judge her as overweight? Gosh, why even have medical scales and doctors then? **** BMI, we should have the 'AverageJoe mass index' instead. Anyhow, OP, I think it would be good for you to exercise to be fit. It's easier said than done, I know, but exercising brings plenty of other benefits as well. Even the slimmest person can benefit from it, so why not you?
oaks Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 My fear is, do guys really think I'm cute now? I feel so unattractive. I am used to being a size 6. I have been single for about 13 months now. I haven't been told I'm cute in so long. A dream of mine is to meet a guy who finds me cute at this weight.... am I dreaming? Has anyone found love at size 12 and above? To answer the last question first, yes you can find love at your size. However, if you feel unattractive that might come across in body language, or how confident you seem, or even how you dress, which could (unfortunately) make some guys less attracted to you which could lead to reinforcing your feeling. For your dream to come true, it might help if you were happy with being who you are and the size that you are. Don't assume that being larger than you used to be equates with being less attractive than you used to be, but if losing some of the weight you recently put on is what will make you happy (and if it's possible to lose the weight - be realistic about goals and timescales) then give it a try.
northern_sky Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 am i the only one who is suspicious that the girl in the profile pic is a size twelve?? she looks no bigger than a 4.
Els Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I can't comment on dress sizes (since I just realized that US's sizes are different from those I'm used to), but based on a year of estimating patients' weight and BMI in the hospital, I can quite confidently say I don't think the girl in the profile is anywhere close to 165 lbs. Then again, to be fair, the OP never alluded to her profile, or claimed that the picture there is recent.
oaks Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 am i the only one who is suspicious that the girl in the profile pic is a size twelve?? she looks no bigger than a 4. I assumed it was an old pic from when she was a size 6, but I'm not a sizing expert!
alexlakeman Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I was also thinking she was trolling, or at least looking for attention. . It was Friday night, she had a glass of wine, got depressed, decided to post and get some feed back.. ended up calling a FWB, and got laid, and forgot about us, until the next glass of wine, lol.. She's in South Florida, alottttttttttttttttttt of places for her to go and meet guys Fat, chubby, size 123, whatever, she's obviously "keeping busy" in the weekend, better than me and some of us on here, lol
Kamille Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 am i the only one who is suspicious that the girl in the profile pic is a size twelve?? she looks no bigger than a 4. You might be forgetting that the OP is 5'9. I'm 5'8 and my body can look like that at a fit size 8.
BUENG1 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I searched google to see what something like that would look like, but didn't find anything.. Someone do a search and post a link, so we can see what those specs look like; unless OP posts a TRUE pic in her profile.l.. Here is 5'8 160 Look at the bottom for the woman. http://www.cockeyed.com/photos/bodies/508-160.shtml
musemaj111 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Someone has to be so vain to think that 5'9 160 lbs is fat. Its not fat.
Els Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 How is either of them 72 kg??? The guy is so thin! Bf has that stature and is 1" and 10 kg less than that...
Author Chitowngirl Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 I actually don't think it's the OP. There's no way those are only a DD. I'm a DD and am much smaller up top than that. But you can still give her the feel-good compliments. Every girl loves 'em. That is me, and yes I'm only a 36DD.
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