WarmAndCozy Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 (edited) Long story attempting to be short, my ex broke up with me for the second time about 1.5 months ago. We were together almost 5 years and had lived together for about 1.5 years while I was in college. Anyways, we had first broken up over the summer because “things weren’t right,” and he was not in love with me anymore. He came back about 1.5 months later (I suspect only because he was lonely and things didn’t work out with another woman – ironically, she turned out to be a lesbian!). He left me again after Thanksgiving for the same initial reasons and added that he could never see himself married to me in the future and that his heart felt empty with me. We decided that it was best that I keep the dog that we got together about 3.5 years ago. Anyways, I haven’t talked to him for 3 weeks. I thought that he would not contact me again for years, but he sent me a text on Tuesday which said, “Hi. I wanted to wish you a happy new year. I’m sorry that we haven’t even talked. How’s the dog doing? How’s work and how’s your family?” I didn’t see the need to reply as I know it would disrupt my healing, so I didn’t. He sent me another text 2 days later: “Hi. Wanted to hear how things are going. I’m sorry that you don’t want to communicate. I hope all is well with you. Wanted to know how the dog is. If you want me to stop contacting you just let me know.” Again, I didn’t reply. He knows how the dog is, as she has been living with me for the last 2 years and I take awesome care of her. And he knows how I’m doing, crappy of course (but increasingly better with each day, sometimes). He then calls me an hour later and leaves me a voicemail saying pretty much the same crap. “I just wanted to see how you were and I wanted to find out about the dog.” He adds, “I get the vibe that you don’t probably don’t want to talk to me because you aren’t even answering my texts, so I’m not going to bug you anymore.” He adds a quick “I’m sorry” and “I hope you’re doing well.” So, I’m a little torn. I don’t want to be a cold-hearted b1tch and keep ignoring him if he really wants to know about the dog. I know he really loved and cared about her, and he was sad about the whole situation when things ended. He had told me that he would take her if I wouldn’t be able to care for her and he would even pay for her. On the other hand, I don’t want to the reply because, what the heck did he think was going to happen? He left me broken hearted for the second time and didn’t give a crap about my feelings then. What do you all think I should do? Edited January 8, 2011 by WarmAndCozy
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