Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So the guy and I made plans far ahead of time like a week. We talked about watching a movie I wanted to see and it was great. Then he tells me well a game he wants to see is on that night and he wants to see it so if I still want to see him and watch it with him I can. Ok I'm willing to do this. Well he is anticipating I'm going to sleep with him and such ok I'm fine with this as we already are. Booom he tells me the day before well I have to be some where early in the morning (basically warning me I have to leave early) he did say I could stay at his place but he didn't know when he would be back. He knows I wouldn't stay. Soo he doesn't want to watch a game and sleep he wants sex. So after he just will say bye. I like how he says he has other plans it's s nice way to get what he wants. So I told him we can do things another time when he is available. I am not a booty call. I am so mad right now that he did this knowing we had plans. I am so upset and dissapointed. Also he want to see me in nice lingere except I pay for our last dinners so far and make it and I have bought some nice stuff but he has never offered to get me anything or pick up food. This guy makes way more money and I drive to see him. He has it made and I'm getting fed up it's like I can do better
Author Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 I like chicken donuts. Hahaha I needed a laugh. Good thing I'm not in love with this guy. I have been seeing how it goes and tonight I let him know I understand he has to be somewhere but I'm not sacrificing my sleep over it! I have a life!! Lol
musemaj11 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 If he wasnt concerned enough about you spending money on him without returning the favor, he is not going to be concerned about you in anything else. Noticing selfish people is so easy.
refurb Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Good job Lucky555! This is how it's supposed to work. You know what you want, he knows what he wants. It's not a good match. It's understandable being disappointed, but don't let that stop you! RF
Author Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Good job Lucky555! This is how it's supposed to work. You know what you want, he knows what he wants. It's not a good match. It's understandable being disappointed, but don't let that stop you! RF Thanks. I know that I am a really awesome person. I travel to see him, cook dinner, and he is just there like how is this a relationship. I know I'm not sacrificing my sleep. He is the one who scheduled his thing the next day after knowing he and I had plans. I think this is a bad sign. He doesn't see anything wrong with it. Ya, he gets food and sex he's happy. I want more. He never offered for me to go with him he said I would take u but you wouldn't like it. He's not asking me he already is saying "I" wouldn't. That's such bs and he knows it but he has to find a way to mention it so he doesn't look like a dbag except I am way smart lol
Kamille Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 How old is this guy? Lucky, it's time to stop making all the efforts in this quote unquote "relationship". In a healthy budding relationship, each person meets the other halfway. It sucks, but you're better off canceling the date all together, as you've already done by suggesting you two meet some other time when you both have more time. And if I were in your shoes, I would find a friend and go see that movie you wanted to see. He's doing exactly what he wants. You should too.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 How old is this guy? Lucky, it's time to stop making all the efforts in this quote unquote "relationship". In a healthy budding relationship, each person meets the other halfway. It sucks, but you're better off canceling the date all together, as you've already done by suggesting you two meet some other time when you both have more time. And if I were in your shoes, I would find a friend and go see that movie you wanted to see. He's doing exactly what he wants. You should too. the green face is how i feel. The guy is 28. You are exactly right he is doing what he wants. He told me "his game" was on and was willing to cancel the date if i didn't want to watch it. So i thought i know he is a huge fan so i can give a little. But when he said that the next day he had something scheduled (early in the am) i was so mad because he and i planned getting together in advance. He said he still wanted to make it happen...so here is the scenario, me cooking, his game, sex, me out. I think thats a pretty good plan for someone who just wants sex. For him it works out perfectly. everything was fine till he pulled this crap. I can't believe he tried to say I could stay at his place or go with him..he didn't ask he just basically told me "I" wouldn't want to. Seriously??? I have been treading carefully because its new and I'm taking your advice I'm doing what i need and want to do. I actually started doing that after I had said I'm not going over, get some time and we will plan. We only see eachother like once a week so I'm not invested a lot. But it does hurt some. oh well time to have fun.
refurb Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Thanks. I know that I am a really awesome person. I travel to see him, cook dinner, and he is just there like how is this a relationship. I know I'm not sacrificing my sleep. He is the one who scheduled his thing the next day after knowing he and I had plans. I think this is a bad sign. He doesn't see anything wrong with it. Ya, he gets food and sex he's happy. I want more. He never offered for me to go with him he said I would take u but you wouldn't like it. He's not asking me he already is saying "I" wouldn't. That's such bs and he knows it but he has to find a way to mention it so he doesn't look like a dbag except I am way smart lol The two biggest recommendations I can make to girls when dating a guy: 1) Make sure you're both putting in a similar amount of effort. It's not wrong to put in a little more to move things forward, but when there is a huge difference in how much effort each person puts into a relationship, it's usually a good sign of a huge difference in interest. 2) Act how you want to be treated. If you don't want a casual relationship, don't do things that people in casual relationships do ("just hang out", not do actual dates, have sex early). I have a woman friend who was asking me for advice. She wants something serious, but then spends the night over at the guy's place, no actual dates have occurred. I told her this screams "I'm OK with something casual" to him. If she wants to go on dates, suggest they do that. If he doesn't want to, you know what he's really looking for. Good luck lucky555! RF
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