zig Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So I'm dating this girl I really like. Great kisser, totally sexy and oh SO HOT when making out. She's the most provocative and tempting girl I've been with. We've had sex and it's awesome! Only one thing. She doesn't give or receive oral. I'm a little disappointed with that because I especially love to 'give' oral. I started kissing down there and she stopped me and said she doesn't like that. I left it at that. So do I just need to accept this or do I have hopes that she'll be willing to work into it? Are there any women here who didn't like it at first but later on changed? I suppose talking about it is the best way to start. I'm not going to press the issue but if anyone has advice on how to go about this tactfully I'd love to hear.
Confusedalways Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 One of my friends wouldn't let her bf do it at all... finally after some time, he was able to convince her to let him do it. She ended up being neutral- not loving or hating it. She lets him do it from time to time for his benefit. Maybe eventually she'll let you at least try in the shower or something? Not sure, I cannot imagine not liking it!!
Author zig Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 One of my friends wouldn't let her bf do it at all... finally after some time, he was able to convince her to let him do it. She ended up being neutral- not loving or hating it. She lets him do it from time to time for his benefit. Maybe eventually she'll let you at least try in the shower or something? Not sure, I cannot imagine not liking it!! All the women I've dated never had an issue with it. It was more of a preference if they just liked it or LOVED it. I'll just talk to her when the time is right. Hopefully she's open to exploring it a little, that's all I really hope for. I can't see the reason for any girl not liking it. What's the hang-up?
Confusedalways Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Some girls- my friend being one of them- are just afraid that no matter how hygienic they are, they will smell, taste or look bad. It's up to you to convince her that she is none of those things
Author zig Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Some girls- my friend being one of them- are just afraid that no matter how hygienic they are, they will smell, taste or look bad. It's up to you to convince her that she is none of those things Ah Ha, A piece to the puzzle. That could very well be a part of it. When she stopped me we talked briefly about it... and she said something like, I don't know why anyone would want to go down there. I thought to myself wtf planet are you from lol.
Confusedalways Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Ah Ha, A piece to the puzzle. That could very well be a part of it. When she stopped me we talked briefly about it... and she said something like, I don't know why anyone would want to go down there. I thought to myself wtf planet are you from lol. yep - sounds like she definitely thinks that. One thing that might work is when you're getting her worked up with your hands or whatever, talk about how you wish you could taste it etc. Just make her feel like it's sexy and you really want to go down there. good luck
Author zig Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 yep - sounds like she definitely thinks that. One thing that might work is when you're getting her worked up with your hands or whatever, talk about how you wish you could taste it etc. Just make her feel like it's sexy and you really want to go down there. good luck I think I can manage doing that. Thanks for the advice!
jean-luc sisko Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 People have different sexual tastes. There is nothing odd in that.
bac Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 She probably believes that the genitals are dirty, smelly and not good-looking. She probably thinks that if you eat her p....y, you will notice how disgusting it is. The same way she might be think of your d...k. Also, her sex drive might be low if she thinks that way. I guess you might try to increase her sex drive somehow and do some brainwash about how beautiful human genitals are. If she watches porno a lot, it might help to increase her sex drive and her attraction to genitals.
youngskywalker Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 (edited) Just give it time and patience Edited January 9, 2011 by youngskywalker
Banker Chick Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I would say I'm a pretty sexual person but that's one area that I'm still unsure about. Yes, I can have an orgasm from it, but sometimes it's hard for me to relax because I can't help thinking (especially if it's at the end of the day) if it smells, if it's clean, if I shaved well enough, what it looks like etc. For me, I think a lot of it is because I've heard guys laugh and joke about women they were with that smelled "fishy" or whatever and so it's hard not to be a little freaked out. OTOH, I have no issue giving my bf a bj. You'll just have to give her time and continue to reassure her. More than likely your best chances will be when you've either just come from the pool or shower... times when she's feeling the cleanest. Another suggestion would be to maybe use toys to stimulate her and slowly work up to where she's comfortable with your mouth being down there. Edited to add: I had a boyfriend that would go on and on about my "kitty". He would want to just look at it and touch it like it was the greatest thing since sliced bread. I gotta tell ya it really turned me on and made me super comfortable to let him experiment
alexlakeman Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Only one thing. She doesn't give or receive oral. I'm a little disappointed with that because I especially love to 'give' oral. I started kissing down there and she stopped me and said she doesn't like that. I left it at that. DUMP her.. that "only one thing" is pretty significant, lol.. . DUMP her.. it's her loss not yours..
Titania22 Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 I have to say, that although I enjoy oral, I tend to discourage a guy from trying, if I have given him a go, and it just isn't working for me, especially if I have communicated, and he hasn't been able to understand and follow the direction. The equipment is sensitive, and I don't like risking damage.
Author zig Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 Alright, well it's encouraging to know why she doesn't like it. Most likely she just feels insecure about her kitty. I can work with that. I look at it as a challenge and I'm willing to take a lot of time with her on it. It's crazy because I was down there briefly and she has nothing to be ashamed of. She's perfect in all aspects. I just wish she would realize that.... but I guess that's my job right? Time to be the man. lol
alexlakeman Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 It's crazy because I was down there briefly and she has nothing to be ashamed of. She's perfect in all aspects. l You'll have to post a pic so we can better determine the best game plan Lick it slowly, like a lollipop, open up the clit.....follow her moans and her "right there", "slow", etc.. follow your head if she pushes it with her hands.. and start by just reading on oral sex and her g spot, using your fingers as if calling someone is a plus, I don't know how to explain the method, but it works, loll
Author zig Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 You'll have to post a pic so we can better determine the best game plan HA! we haven't ventured into the photography part yet lol.
zengirl Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 So I'm dating this girl I really like. Great kisser, totally sexy and oh SO HOT when making out. She's the most provocative and tempting girl I've been with. We've had sex and it's awesome! Only one thing. She doesn't give or receive oral. I'm a little disappointed with that because I especially love to 'give' oral. I started kissing down there and she stopped me and said she doesn't like that. I left it at that. So do I just need to accept this or do I have hopes that she'll be willing to work into it? Are there any women here who didn't like it at first but later on changed? I suppose talking about it is the best way to start. I'm not going to press the issue but if anyone has advice on how to go about this tactfully I'd love to hear. Alright, well it's encouraging to know why she doesn't like it. Most likely she just feels insecure about her kitty. I can work with that. I look at it as a challenge and I'm willing to take a lot of time with her on it. It's crazy because I was down there briefly and she has nothing to be ashamed of. She's perfect in all aspects. I just wish she would realize that.... but I guess that's my job right? Time to be the man. lol If you're talking about the receiving part, she might not feel insecure about it and it might not be something you can change. I'm pretty open sexually, love my body, no problems with being naked or with my vagina (no problems with giving oral either, at least not with the guys I date now, though I didn't like it in early relationships, but mostly because the guys were lame about it), and I'm not a fan of receiving oral. At first, I just thought I was weird. I also almost always come with intercourse, which is supposedly rare for a woman. After living a lot longer, reading more, discussing sex more, I think it has to do with clit sensitivity. Being stimulated that way just doesn't work for my body. At best, oral feels kind of numbing for me, but it can also feel uncomfortable or painful. And it's not the man's technique, I don't think, as it's been consistent with all BFs. Different bodies just respond in different ways.
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