alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Ok, my 500cc , cigar/pic girl...we're talking on the phone... She's asking me how my day was, asks about a business/legal matter she is aware i am dealing with for the last 6 months (probably as long as I have been here daily ) ... Anyway, I start giving her a recap of where things are standing, how I'm stuck at home another weekend due to cash flow, and 45 seconds later (ok, I didn't time it, lol).. she's like "sorry to interrupt you, but they have this gorgeous furniture at online at this so and so store.. I love it, but they have ........................................................ and just goes on talking for five minutes about the furniture... I just said, "gotta run, going to the gym".. I don't even know if I should bring it to her attention on it that I didn't like it, or she just doesn't give a FK or, she's really didn't care to hear "how my day was"... or I should've just said, "fine honey, thanks"... What happened to my convo with her when she asked? She just asked out of politeness and really didn't give a crap??!?!!??!?! Sometimes I feel I am too picky, but I think it's I am just not putting up with shi.t no more... But, stuff like this I can't get used to... Plus, hmmm, oh well , rant over..
kdark Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I've always wondered how much aquaintances actually give a damn when they ask you how your day was, or whether they are just saying the phrase out of habit. Sounds like she just doesn't give a damn.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Ok, my 500cc , cigar/pic girl...we're talking on the phone... She's asking me how my day was, asks about a business/legal matter she is aware i am dealing with for the last 6 months (probably as long as I have been here daily ) ...... 45 seconds later (ok, I didn't time it, lol).. she's like "sorry to interrupt you, but they have this gorgeous furniture at online at this so and so store.. I love it, but they have ........................................................ and just goes on talking for five minutes about the furniture... Yup I knew it, even tough guys want to heard and listened to. Even though some men act like all they care abt is sex, I know there is a deeper soul that lurks. It's okay to want to be heard, listened to, and be in a give and take conversation, that's not a bad thing. It's good that you recognize you want to spend time with someone that has more to offer than just physical. COOL. I am sorry she was not tuned in......when you wanted her to be. Sometimes we as women are used to doing the talking, and can gloss over when men need to be heard. I just said, "gotta run, going to the gym".. I don't even know if I should bring it to her attention on it that I didn't like it, or she just doesn't give a FK or, she's really didn't care to hear "how my day was"... or I should've just said, "fine honey, thanks"... What happened to my convo with her when she asked? She just asked out of politeness and really didn't give a crap??!?!!??!?! Sometimes I feel I am too picky, but I think it's I am just not putting up with shi.t no more... But, stuff like this I can't get used to... Plus, hmmm, oh well , rant over.. best of luck moving forward
catgotyourtongue Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 DOH sorry here is my post, somehow I messed up and my reply got intertwined in your original post. TOO MUCH posting today has made me loooopy....here was my reply.. Yup I knew it, even tough guys want to heard and listened to. Even though some men act like all they care abt is sex, I know there is a deeper soul that lurks. It's okay to want to be heard, listened to, and be in a give and take conversation, that's not a bad thing. It's good that you recognize you want to spend time with someone that has more to offer than just physical. COOL. I am sorry she was not tuned in......when you wanted her to be. Sometimes we as women are used to doing the talking, and can gloss over when men need to be heard. good luck moving forward
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 She sounds like she does not care ... But isn't she someone you just now contacted from Match.com? I'm not defending her rude and cavalier way of relating with you, but on the other hand, why is she in the know about your financial and legal problems at this stage?
Author alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 A week ago, some different minor crap happened and her response "I can never do right by you" ... "you're too hard to read".. she's "miss perfect" god forbid you mention you don't like something... Tits and a/ss are good, but it's sometimes she has nothing between the ears
Author alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 (edited) I can't dump her now, if anything , just for convenience sake....... Should I mention that this pis/sed me off? Or just say "fk it".....?? She'll prbably give me one of her lines "I can't never get it right"... Yup I knew it, even tough guys want to heard and listened to. It's good that you recognize you want to spend time with someone that has more to offer than just physical. COOL. I am sorry she was not tuned in......when you wanted her to be. good luck moving forward It's funny, those are crap I have on my online profile and stuff I do miss, it's not just sex, but just coming home to someone or have someone to call and talk about how your day was... it's only human, to want to care and want some one to care for you other than "when the next date is", "where is he taking me" or "when am I getting laid again" or "am I getting laid at her house or mines"... I ALWAYS tell my friends, "yes,it's great being single, going out party, different women, flirt, etc.."...."BUT, at the end of the day I am by myself and you have your s/o"... "I just have sex partners, dating partners"... This is the girl http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259867/ And the same one here.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258066/ She sounds like she does not care ... But isn't she someone you just now contacted from Match.com? I'm not defending her rude and cavalier way of relating with you, but on the other hand, why is she in the know about your financial and legal problems at this stage? We dated 2Q10 for 90-120 days, and we split up b/c of my other business issues which has consumed me... So she knew about the issues, as she was right in the middle of it when it all went down... So, no , not a recent match.. we did meet on match 1Q10 though... Edited January 8, 2011 by alexlakeman
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Oh, okay. When you said something like "there's this woman I'm talking to" and then described her photos, I thought she was a new contact. So, she is behaving true to form.
zengirl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Tits and a/ss are good, but it's sometimes she has nothing between the ears Whenever I read your posts, I don't exactly wonder why you might find women who don't care about your problems.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I can't dump her now, if anything , just for convenience sake....... It sounds like all the love and caring between you works both ways and that you are probably well matched. Have a blast.
sally4sara Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 You don't enjoy many things about her, but you can't dumper her because (and pardon if I perceived this wrong) she is your convenient sex source? And YOU don't think she cares enough about your day? Its like the blind screwing the blind up in here......
Art_Critic Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I've always wondered how much aquaintances actually give a damn when they ask you how your day was, Hi Kdark.. How was your day It sounds like she was just excited over the furniture and then throw in maybe she was bored with the convo and she changed the subject.. Don't we all change the subject sooner or later while we are talking to another ? She was just a little abrupt about it.. Maybe the abruptness was caused by the phone.. and if you were face to face the change of subject would have been smoother..
Author alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Hi Kdark.. How was your day It sounds like she was just excited over the furniture and then throw in maybe she was bored with the convo and she changed the subject.. .. Yeah, it's just a "polite" "how was your day, but I REALLY don't want to know"..lol.. Crap, i forgot what I else I was gonna say ... oh well.. old age
Author alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 It sounds like all the love and caring between you works both ways and that you are probably well matched. Have a blast. I'm just b.s.ing about it on here to vent I guess... I just PUT OUT what I receive... An hour after her and I hung up and a friend of mines (yeah, one of those "ex girlfriends become friends only" deals) .. anyway she calls and we were on the phone for an hour plus, she was sincerely concerned and asking me how my crap was and convo was both ways.. AND I AM JUST using this as an example... but that's how emotional cheating and then physical cheating starts out .. perfect scenario.. There's no relationship here, but if you don't take care of your own, some one else will come and take over... I guess that's why I don't take her too seriously.. but like I said, for convenience at this point, if she turns it around , great, and it will become a relationship. I'd love to see that happen, but if it doesn't, once I get back on my feet, there's no doubt we can get in an argument very easily and I can end the "relationship".... I do NOT want to do that as she says she does have feelings, blah, blah, blah.. but that's life..
sally4sara Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I'm just b.s.ing about it on here to vent I guess... I just PUT OUT what I receive... An hour after her and I hung up and a friend of mines (yeah, one of those "ex girlfriends become friends only" deals) .. anyway she calls and we were on the phone for an hour plus, she was sincerely concerned and asking me how my crap was and convo was both ways.. AND I AM JUST using this as an example... but that's how emotional cheating and then physical cheating starts out .. perfect scenario.. There's no relationship here, but if you don't take care of your own, some one else will come and take over... I guess that's why I don't take her too seriously.. but like I said, for convenience at this point, if she turns it around , great, and it will become a relationship. I'd love to see that happen, but if it doesn't, once I get back on my feet, there's no doubt we can get in an argument very easily and I can end the "relationship".... I do NOT want to do that as she says she does have feelings, blah, blah, blah.. but that's life.. You wanted to talk about something you've been dealing with for 6 months. The girl you're seeing has probably heard about it a few times now. You're ex turned friend - when was the last time she had to hear about this 6 month ordeal? Fresh things and things you can help a person fix are what people you socialize with want to talk about. Not something 6 months old they have no ability to affect. Trying to lighten the mood of something you already heard and cannot change is what people do unless its the first time they're hearing it. Its a bit self absorbed to think her new furniture would lighten your mood, but there is it. But to you, this is enough to begin plotting about emotionally and physically cheating. And why not? You don't see a relationship hear so there is little reason to begin to consider the woman you've been seeing as a factor in your life. You DON'T take her seriously. But its all on her to find reason to take you seriously just so you begin to try to take her seriously. You like the way she looks. Don't admire her mind. And SHE needs to find a reason? Are you an active part in this at all?
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Tits and a/ss are good, but it's sometimes she has nothing between the ears And you expect her to care about your probs ... You are reaping what you sow, my brother.
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