OOReeee Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Hello fellow LoveShackers, My story is as follows: Met a girl a few weeks after i moved to a new city. We Dated for about 7 weeks. We were together pretty much all the time for about 4-5 weeks, then there was a decline, where she expressed no interest in my well-being and we kinda went from 60 to 0, which made me upset. At the same time, she was(and still is) going through a lot, a hormonal treatment, excessive diet, problems with her family and friends, and I was caught in the middle. Throughout the short relationship, we both shared a lot of facts about ourselves that we have never told anyone else. We broke up 2 nights ago. She told me she is going through a lot and needs to figure things out without being in a relationship for once (before me she was in a 2-year relat., before that 5, both pretty abusive...). I feel like she needs me, not as a bf but as a friend. I sincerely believe that no one else will be there for her (I know her friends). I usually go NC, after break ups. I still miss her a whole lot, it's been 2 days. I want to be there for her but I'm afraid the feelings I still have will be in the way. I thought about writing her a letter saying that I will be there for her despite us not being together. What should I do?
Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Hmmm, I would say just let her be for now. If she needs an emotional crutch, I think she will reach out to you. Sounds like she is confused, and you sound like a caring individual- so believe me, she knows this. No reason to reach out and tell her, she knows. I say give her space, let her miss the relationship, since right now she doesn't know what she wants. She'll reach out if she needs you, and I agree, being her friend through this might compromise the relationship since you will be left with wanting more.
Author OOReeee Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 When we broke up, I told her to let me know what's going on with her (after telling her that idk if I could keep in contact because it might be too hard), and she said she'll wait for me to initiate that...
Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Well in that case, she might not contact for fear of causing you pain. So maybe go with your initial instinct, write her a short letter explaining you will be there for her through these hard times if she needs your support. But I would keep it at that, I wouldn't imply getting back together or discuss the relationship- that way she doesn't feel pressured and end up pushing you away.
Author OOReeee Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Yeah I don't even think I wanna get back together with her, unless it's her circa November 2010... It just sucks, first Saturday by myself in a loooong time.
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