tigressA Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Well, that's it. I said I would take a break if my current round of multi-dating didn't end well, and it hasn't ended well, so I'm taking a break. The last two guys I went out on dates with, The Model and The Nerd, I haven't heard from. Earlier this week I had seen The Model was online and asked him if he wanted to get together this weekend. He didn't even bother to answer me, so I immediately wrote him off. He hasn't been in contact with me since. You don't just not answer when someone asks you that; it's incredibly rude and I won't lower myself to go out with him again if by some miracle he contacts me. The Nerd I haven't talked to in 5 days now, though I've seen him online every day since we last talked. I guess he's doing the "I hope she gets the hint by me not talking to her" thing like all the other jackasses out there. I figured if he wanted to talk to me he would, and he's had plenty of opportunity to but hasn't, so that's that. I don't really know the parameters of this break time yet. I guess I'm just going to do my own thing for a little while. It's already been 2 months since I last had sex (longest dry spell in awhile), so I hope that soon I'll lose some more of my desire for it and just not care.
Surrealist Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It's already been 2 months since I last had sex (longest dry spell in awhile), so I hope that soon I'll lose some more of my desire for it and just not care. That's a concern. A 2 month dry spell is not long, if you were in a relationship where the guy had to work elsewhere for a few months, and you couldn't have physical contact with him, there could be some problems.
Author tigressA Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 I've got a few long-distance relationships under my belt, and I'm quite able to have my urges/drive under control while I'm committed. It's like there's a sense of knowing that I'm going to get sex at some point...whereas with this, there's no sense of regularity, and with me swearing off sex outside of a committed relationship...well, I've had better days.
Imajerk17 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I'm sorry. From your writing on here you seem like a great girl. Too bad those guys couldn't see it, and didn't have the class to get back to you properly. Their loss.
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I sh)t happens on the dating side to women too, lol... ... I guess I am on the other end, I "just" haven't found the right woman to click with , past the phone call or first or second date..... Even though I am a guy, and I try to keep sex not spread apart more than a few weeks to 6 weeks spread apart; the emotional side is important too... So even if you as a woman have more will power than us guys on the sex side, the emotional part takes a toll, at least to me it does... I took a break, technically on a break, not going out with unless I feel it 100% , not trying to make something work that I don't care for 100%, maybe that's the issue with these guys... I remember a few weeks ago when you started your multi guy dating log... guess you "can't be sooo picky", guys are choosy as well... Good luck
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Thanks guys. Interesting development. I just found a message on the site from The Model; he sent it about an hour ago. It says, "Oh hey wow, I'm sorry I didn't see the message from you about tonight." Nice, eh? :rolleyes:
threebyfate Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I really wonder about guys who are online dating. The numbers you have to sift through to get to a decent guy is a lot of effort. Hope you're not considering going out with the Model.
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 No, I'm not. I did send him a response saying, "I sent it a few days ago...I wonder that you completely missed it. Rather absentminded, and at worst quite rude."
threebyfate Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Don't bother wasting your email. Just ignore him.
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Will do. Ignored from here on out. I was probably some back-up plan. F*ck that s*it.
alphamale Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 why you going out with models and nerds? why not just date regular dudes?
threebyfate Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Okay, so tonight sounds like a great night to rent a chick flick, give yourself a facial and do your nails! I'd join you if we lived closer except that H. is out tonight and I've got our little man who I've just caught chewing on the side of the sofa! He's worse than our pets!
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 why you going out with models and nerds? why not just date regular dudes? I was multi-dating; I gave them nicknames in my dating log so people who were following it could keep track. That's the plan, TBF. I'm making myself a nice big dinner since I'm starved, then I'm going to sit and watch The Tudors DVDs my little brother bought for me for Christmas. I foresee many more nights like this...sigh.
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 No, I'm not. I did send him a response saying, "I sent it a few days ago...I wonder that you completely missed it. Rather absentminded, and at worst quite rude." It goes both ways, women are the worse... You have no idea how many women I've sifted through since June 2010... useless, feel like "taking a break" sometimes, but after a week, I'm back on the search, lol.. women are worse, they think they are looking through a "sears catalog" searching for their perfect "model" boyfriends..
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 , give yourself a facial LOL, that sounds dirty....
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Will do. Ignored from here on out. I was probably some back-up plan. F*ck that s*it. I've done similar stuff.. I'll text or call some one last minute, where I hope it will go to voice mail or it might be too late, so "at least I made an effort".. it works sometimes, sometimes it doesn't.... Hey you were multi dating, so he was probably doing the same thing.. nothing wrong there.. your backups dried up....
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 That doesn't mean his behavior is excusable at all. I asked him via IM; he didn't respond for three whole days, then claims he didn't see the message until a couple of hours ago? Please. If it had even been just a day I could see giving him the benefit of the doubt, but three? No way.
Star Gazer Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I really wonder about guys who are online dating. The numbers you have to sift through to get to a decent guy is a lot of effort. I imagine the same thing applies to women online daters as well. I've heard some interesting stories from my dates about other women they've met.
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 That doesn't mean his behavior is excusable at all. I asked him via IM; he didn't respond for three whole days, Three days? You do have a point... You shouldn't have contacted him to see what he "was doing on xx day"... my opinion as a guy.. not so soon.. Just a thought... NOT a deal breaker, but..
TheBigQuestion Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 That doesn't mean his behavior is excusable at all. I asked him via IM; he didn't respond for three whole days, then claims he didn't see the message until a couple of hours ago? Please. If it had even been just a day I could see giving him the benefit of the doubt, but three? No way. To be fair, I used OKCupid for a while, and a girl instant messaged me once and, despite logging in every day, I didn't notice it for a few days. Either the site or my browser screwed up. Not saying this is the most likely scenario, but it's possible.
OceanGirl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Yep I'm right behind you. I have 2 more guys to meet before break time. It's seriously sad that out of 30 guys I met, I felt connection to 3 at most. Out of the 3 only 1 was LTR candidate. He dumped me after 6 weeks of dating for being too emotional. Whatevs. Out of the other two, one attempted to come back by writing me 4am drunken message. I enjoyed telling him to f off. I'm seriously tempted to cancel my upcoming dates. I plan on taking my profile down for at least 2 months.
Imajerk17 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 It goes both ways, women are the worse... You have no idea how many women I've sifted through since June 2010... useless, feel like "taking a break" sometimes, but after a week, I'm back on the search, lol.. women are worse, they think they are looking through a "sears catalog" searching for their perfect "model" boyfriends.. Seriously though.
OceanGirl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 To be fair, I used OKCupid for a while, and a girl instant messaged me once and, despite logging in every day, I didn't notice it for a few days. Either the site or my browser screwed up. Not saying this is the most likely scenario, but it's possible. Even jf that happened, he could have still touch based with her out of his own accord.
Author tigressA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 To be fair, I used OKCupid for a while, and a girl instant messaged me once and, despite logging in every day, I didn't notice it for a few days. Either the site or my browser screwed up. Not saying this is the most likely scenario, but it's possible. I guess it's possible; OKC has screwed some stuff up for me too. Actually, I should've gotten an email notification about the message he had sent me today but I didn't. Hmm. But three days...and like OG said, he could've gotten in touch with me too, but didn't.
Eeyore79 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 It's seriously sad that out of 30 guys I met, I felt connection to 3 at most. Out of the 3 only 1 was LTR candidate. Wow, I really don't understand how some of you girls are going through so many men and not finding any LTR candidates. Pretty much every guy I date turns into a relationship of at least 3-6 months up to a couple of years. Maybe you're too picky, or I'm not picky enough... I usually know I'm interested in a guy before I even start dating him though. I don't date to find out if I like someone; I date someone because I like him, if that makes sense.
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