I'm so scared of him cheating, i'm wrecking our relationship..!

[xxBBeccAAxx]

Hey, im new to this website.. so I hope you can help. Right.. Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for two and a half years. He recently got a job where a few girls work. I now get incredibly jelous everytime he talks about work and I even check his phone and always interregate (sorry for spelling) him about these girls. I see myself as ugly and all them as pretty, and I always see them as being better than me. I know he has a couple of their phone numbers and that he generally texts them (but just for general conversation, like i would to my friends, well he promises this). I dont know whether he is cheating on me, he gets angry when i ask him. And he promises he wouldnt even cheat on me. Can anybody give me any advice and steps to take to stop being so jelous and have a happy relationship with my boyfriend. Thanks. Bekah x

[jenifer1972]

Why does he need to text other young women from work?? I don't text other men and nor should my husband be texting women other than his mother or sister regularly. Period!

[xxBBeccAAxx]

i think you have kind of took it the wrong way. we are teenagers, it isnt like full on texting and it isnt all the time. it was just once a couple of times.. i think she was going to a funeral or something. its not how you think.. it isnt "sexting".. but even though i know this.. i still get jelous and worried.

[jenifer1972]

Oh! Try to hold relationships very loosely when you are young. He is only your first of many BF..

[Eddie Edirol]

You cant worry about whether or not you are good enough for him. You have to be you, and know that youre good enough. if you arent good enough for him in his eyes, he will stray, and theres nothing you can do about it. Jealousy will only push him away. So as far as whether you are as pretty as those girls, you cant care.

 

Ever seen Monique? Shes hideous and doesnt shave her legs, but she puts on an air of ridiculous confidence that makes her sexy in a way. If he knows you need him, he has the upper hand. You need to take the upper hand, not care, and know that you can get someone better than him. Problem is, since he insists on texting these girls, youre on the road to ruin. Better get out now.

[xxBBeccAAxx]

No, he doesnt insist on texting them at all. He isnt bothered. Its just me really. I think i have totally worded my problem wrong. He isnt bothered about texting them.. its just me getting all paranoid. He is lovely and is the nicest person i have ever met. I think i have worded it all wrong. My Bad :/

[dont-be-naive]

I know he has a couple of their phone numbers and that he generally texts them (but just for general conversation, like i would to my friends, well he promises this).

 

uh, sorry, I don't text women I work with. number one, that is just asking for trouble with my significant other if I did. And two, I see it as something teeny boppers do. I have no reason to text anyone at work but my boss and about business related topics.

 

I dont know whether he is cheating on me, he gets angry when i ask him. And he promises he wouldnt even cheat on me. Can anybody give me any advice and steps to take to stop being so jelous and have a happy relationship with my boyfriend. Thanks. Bekah x

 

while texts void of any suspicious content with these women do not indicate cheating, I wouldn't hold much stock in someone that felt the need to text the opposite sex like giddy school kids or something. Its just weird to me.

 

Try this. Simply in a calm manner, say, "I'm not comfortable with you texting these other women, no matter if the conversation is innocent or not".

 

and just wait for his response. If he shows genuine concern for your feelings, then there may just be nothing to it.

 

if he gets defensive, I wouldn't consider him for the long term.

[dont-be-naive]

Why does he need to text other young women from work?? I don't text other men and nor should my husband be texting women other than his mother or sister regularly. Period!

 

I agree with this, and well said.

[Miad's Princess]

I see it as something teeny boppers do.

 

As she said they are both teenagers.